How do you navigate non-permanence as a young adult who likes direction? (early 20s)

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You may say I overthink it too much, I know nothing is permanent in life, and that everything is subject to change. But if you are a young adult (F23) who likes a sense of direction and planning, how to best navigate this?

For example, here is a thought that has been ruminating for quite a while now: I am 23 years old, soon concluding my master’s studies. I live abroad and I am also expected to travel for internships after, further studies or work. I would like to start viewing dating more seriously. Im not talking marriage marriage at my current age, but it would be nice to slowly have somewhat of a path carved out, even with intentions/expectations, have someone who shares your worldview and who aligns with your values, wants to build with you and explore life/the world with you. I feel it can be genuinely very rewarding.

So, assuming I want to do that, how do I navigate the impermanent nature of the sensitive early 20s phase, the immense amount of FOMO, thirst for exploration, travel, and learning vs. the willingness to have a relationship & stability with the potential to progress into something more serious? Should I date someone I like and give them the time of day knowing I’ll be for example in Brussels for the next 7 months and then leave, should I just live it up and see where it goes, approach it in terms of making a compromise and moving to their country (if they are a foreigner), should I just approach connections with people solely as friendships and not want any of this at this life stage im currently at? Im well-aware there is no guarantee for anything in life, but how to best go about this?

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