I have noticed she has taken some things from my fridge without asking me. Nothing major just some yogurt, protein milk, half a loaf of bread, some frozen pupusas that I had left. One time she did ask if she could take some leftover pizza that was in the fridge. If she was hungry she could have just eaten it then but I think she might not have anything at her place maybe. If she needs food I would love to help her. I would give her money to get groceries if thats the case but i feel like if I was wrong I would be looking like a asshole asking that and embarrass her
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Have you never been to her place?
I wouldn’t ask so much as I’d like get an extra loaf of bread and a couple other things or whatever and claim there was a bogo sale does she want it.
If you have a two bedroom place suggest she moves in
“I’m making a grocery run today want me to pick anything up for you since I’m already going?”
Make it seem like minimal inconvenience, easy out if she does not want any.
Instead of giving her money for groceries, just buy more of what she likes and let her take it when she wants. Buy more yogurt. Buy extra loaves of bread and freeze them in 1/2 or 1/4 loaf packages. Buy a case of protein milk.
But to start giving her actual grocery money might put an odd strain on the relationship, I might think. I’d stay silent on the “don’t take my stuff” thing and shift towards, “here’s more stuff that you can take” and hopefully this will become a non-entity for you and her.
Yes ask her if she needs money. You all have got start asking the people you’re sleeping with why they do what they do and not the internet.
Id say talk to her but in a pretty casual way like ‘oh i noticed u liked this yoghurt do you want me to grab extra? You are always welcome to anything’ (IDK YOU GET THE VIBE)
Gives her the opportunity to mention something if she wants.
I will say if ur relationship is getting serious and u have concerns about her situation it may be worth bringing that up directly! You know ur gf better than any of us will, find a way to talk to her that wont leave her feeling uncomfortable/embarrassed!
How long have you been together? Can you comfortably afford giving her food? Do you know what her financial situation is: whether she’s doing this out of poverty and hunger, or just because she prefers taking advantage of you instead of buying things for herself?
To be clear, her just taking half a load of bread or a carton of milk home with her without asking permission is really strange and not okay. You should call her out on it. Not in an aggressive way, but to start a conversation. ‘I noticed you taking food from my fridge to take home with you. Why are you doing that?’
Asking ‘why are you taking my food’ is not rude, and it’s certainly less rude than taking someone’s food.
From there, you can decide what you feel comfortable doing- whether you want to keep supporting her grocery budget, or whether you ask her to stop. It’ll depend on your relationship and how that conversation goes.
“I want to cook a nice meal (or ‘decent meal’ if you’re not that good of a cook, lol) for you and your roommates. Can you come grocery shopping with me so we can brainstorm and get the right stuff?”
Don’t make any assumptions about why she takes your food. You can ask her about it, but let her tell you why without assuming anything. Does she not like to waste? Do her roommates eat her food? Is she grabbing a snack to eat in the park before she goes home? When people do things that are odd or different, if you are close just ask. Don’t assume the reason, because that is just something you are making up in your mind. And don’t treat her based upon your assumptions. Talk to her and find out why she does what she does. You’re supposed to get to know the person you are dating. This is your chance. She’s an individual person, not a cluster of assumptions.
You should. Just maybe be a bit more tactful and make it clear that you don’t mind helping her out.
Maybe she does need some help, or maybe she just needs one or two things and doesn’t want to stop at the store, or maybe she’s just cheap. But the only way to know is to talk to her.
Please, who cares. “Why are you taking my yogurt, are you poor?” “But I ate your ass last night!” “That’s irrelevant, buy your own doughnuts! And is that my sweatshirt? Stop taking advantage of me!” “But I put my pinkie in your ass while you jerked off on my face!” “Stop being a poor thief!”
why don’t people just talk to each other. have those hard conversations.
I would ask her for a copy of her bank statements and credit card expenses.
Just ask her why, don’t make it about money. Any chance this food is expired or close to going bad and she knows she’ll eat it before then, but you would throw it out?
Do you just sleep together or you do talk as well? This is something you should be talking about, not asking the internet, unless of course you are just shag mates!