So I (18F) and my boyfriend (18M) are trying to have sex for the first time. We’ve been together for a year and I’ve expressed how big of a deal it is to me. We’ve talked it through, how it’ll be awkward and hurt but ulimately I was or thought I was prepared for it.
So last night we tried to do it and the pain was so bad. I Showed him where the hole was and he kept trying to push it in but it was hurting me so bad and would barely go in, like it just would not go in. I asked him how it felt for him and he said it was just really really tight and he couldn’t really push it in any further. I’ve been sore down there the whole day after. Is there anything I can do to ease the pain?
I’m embarrassed to talk to him about lube even though we might need that because it wasn’t very wet, we just used saliva and however wet I was down there (which was not a ton). Anything helps thanks.
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You need lubrication and foreplay. There’s no need to be embarrassed to talk about lubrication.
Sounds like you weren’t aroused enough. Try increasing the length of foreplay to ease you into it.
You’re supposed to be horny and wet before just shoving it in there. Ask him what that tongue do and go from there. Why is he spitting on his cock? This isn’t a porno.
Can’t put the dough in the oven until it’s preheated. Some ovens take moments to preheat, others take much longer.
I’d recommend having him focus on getting you off first without penis penetration. Get that tongue game going for 10 minutes, add some fingers for a while.
Forget about the home run and just try running the bases.
Honestly though,… The pressure “sex” is likely causing this. Remove that as the goal. Have the goal to get you prepared for it, then when the time is right, it will be wonderful. Otherwise, you’ll likely just force it (literally and figuratively) and it will be a horrible experience.
Have you ever used any sex toys?
In terms of foreplay- it’s not just wetness, the vagina also relaxes and has its own “errection” (gets longer)
This could be a need for more foreplay or lube, but as someone with vaginismus this is a constant struggle for me. Stressful makes me vaginal muscles constrict making anything going in painful. If this isn’t a one-off I would see a gyno
Just swallow your pride and talk to him about lube or some other solution. If you’re mature enough to have sex, you should be mature enough to talk about it.
Besides, being able to have these conversations with your partner makes it more intimate.
Thats normal! It can also be harder to get really wet/aroused if you’re super nervous about your first time so I’d def recommend getting lube to make things easier – at least at first
Try using lube. Sex is also a lot more than throwing dick in a hole
Gotta relax ms girl tell him he gotta give you head first- try again another time