I think I am attractive enough and don’t care if someome looks better than me.
Someone’s success doesn’t mean anything about my own as it isn’t a competition and if there’s a woman I am interested in and she chooses someone else I would not really care as I want to be someone’s first choice. Which thankfully I am to my awesome significant other.
I mean life is a competition in general I suppose but you can only run your own race at the end of the day. Work on becoming your best self and let the cards fall where they may. Can’t control what another man has going on.
I don’t look at men I’m “competing” with on a looks scale anymore. I’d be willing to guess I’m a bit more successful than them, if I was still chasing women, I’m not competing with them, they’re competing with me.
Why do you care? Someone’s always going to be bigger, faster, stronger, better looking, etc. than you. Accept it and work to maximize what you’re able to do and don’t worry about the next guy.
Because looks aren’t everything. There’s lots of drop-dead handsome dudes out there who are either total creeps or have the charm and sophistication of a chimp on PCP.
Women talk. Once word gets around, that guy’s dating prospects are fucked- except for the gals who just want him as a one-time conquest.
Because as guys we don’t measure ourselves up against our peers primarily on looks. Being a 10/10 model has zero correlation with being successful and/or rich.
If you are competing for a woman’s attention. You are already losing. If she likes you, it won’t matter how handsome a dude is. She will rock with you because it’s you. You can’t make someone like or love you. Either they do or they don’t. Stay in your lane and deal with the ones that genuinely like you. Now if it’s just about sex, well fam I don’t know what to tell you🤣 but the same sentiment stands.
Spin everything around to yourself and re-think your anxieties.
If you had a wife, logistically, she is not the most attractive person on the planet. But does that mean you’d leave her or think less of her if “a hotter girl” was in your presence?
Of course not.
Women and men are not that different. We are the same species of animal.
Now, of course, there are men out there who would leave their wives just because they found a “hotter and willing wife”
Meh. Competition is a state of mind. Mostly not worth anyone’s time. Spend time on women for whom you’re a thing. Lot more of them than us… always someone to do.
I do , that’s why I work out myself train hard and try my best to make a lot of money but I also know they sleep with ugly dudes who are broke losers so there’s always hope
I don’t view attractiveness as a competition in general. If I did, then I would realize that I am not in the same league as someone that is ridiculously attractive and that is fine. There is always going to be someone more attractive than you.
By realizing your purpose in life isn’t to “beat” everyone. And that even if it was, focusing on how other people are performing, for any reason other than to learn, is an uncompetitive strategy.
Because nothing is competition unless you’re making the conscious decision to compete with someone. And unless you’re actually in competition for something, there’s no reason to compete with anyone else. That stems from insecurity with yourself. You’re not viewing attractive men as competition, you’re viewing yourself as inadequate. Stop doing that. Be yourself, work on the things about yourself that you don’t like, and stop worrying about other dudes.
I’m 5’4 and a meh physique with emotional problems and epilepsy. I used to think every other man was better than me and all it did was make me and my partner more miserable. It’s all about learning that your partner chose you because they like you for you. If there’s “competition”, the partner isn’t worth keeping around, no matter how much you want them to stay. Just have to accept yourself for who you are.
Easy. When one is the absolute antithesis of attractiveness, as I was, then one is not in competition with such attractive men. They operate in an entirely different realm.
Funny enough, competition has been ingrained in most guys at a very early age. It’s because we’re bombarded with it that guys grow out of viewing everything as competition. Sadly social media really made the new generation feel more insecure, but I do believe a lot of guys build each other up. Life is hard enough lol.
“Plenty of fish in the sea” is a played out expression, but it holds up on a logical basis. There are thousands of potential romances available to you at any given time and basically all the time. Focusing on what the hot guy is fucking is a waste of your time and energy. And I’ll tell you a secret as a “hot guy” when I want to step out that way… the hot girl at the bar is the most uninteresting person in the entire room.
Because they don’t do it for everyone. There’s an amazing woman out there who just rolled her eyes at a “pretty boy”, you’ll meet her some day and have no clue how lucky you are to be you
If the woman can be so easily swayed from our relationship to someone more attractive, she’s doing me a favour. I’m better off finding someone else or staying alone than spending my life concerned about whether she’ll leave.
I have an insanely attractive Latina girlfriend with a gorgeous smile, indescribably amazing body, the most incredible personality, she’s my best friend, and for some reason, is absolutely head over heels for me. I don’t look at anyone as competition, I already won the game. I have the gold medal.
Most of the ridiculously attractive men I know are either gay, in a relationship, stupid or shorter than me. But mostly because I’m married. There is no competition left. I won that game.
Basically because I have accepted that I’m not blessed with great genetics nor willing to go to the extremes to mould myself to an ideal, and that’s OK. I have my own talents and advantages, and I think I’m alright for it. Age does give you that grace as well, you realise who you are and you’ve done alright perhaps in spite of or because of who you are, or both
I was once faced with this literal greek god of a man at the local pool, super tall lean muscular swimmers body and a face that belonged on a magazine cover, seriously started to question my sexuality right there and then, so ridiculously good looking he was almost a caricature. It was also at that point I fully realised that you just cannot compete with this kind of freak, to such a degree that there is no competition, you’re not even in the race. And that’s OK.
I like to think that guy was dumb as a brick wall, the one thing I would perhaps have over him, but I will never want to know because I like that comforting idea that noone is the complete package
I’m over 40, unattractive and never had a chance anyway and have known it since I was 12. No reason to see other men as competition when I couldn’t compete if my soul depended on it.
Because I’m a realist, and recognize that there is no competition. Just admire them rq and move on, unless there’s something about them you can’t move on from, in which case – congratulations on coming out!
Find me an individual that occupies the same space as I do in a social setting though, of similar age/physicality/personality and I’ll go Highlander on em real quick to rid of them – “THERE CAN ONLY BE ONE!”
A situation happened (not to me) a few months ago that made me open my eyes and realize that nobody is worth fighting over. If your partner is going to cheat, there’s nothing you can do to stop it. So seeing other men as competition is a moot point.
Cause I domt compete directly like such. If a woman’s attention is directed by some super good looking guys instead. Then he has her attention 100% as far as I’m concerned
Well everyone is competition. One just needs some self worth to know what they bring to the table and that it will be enough for a partner. And if they are tempted away then it wasn’t enough for them. But that doesn’t mean I’m not enough. Just not for them and that’s brilliant when they go away instead of wasting my time and settling for me.
I mean it hurts when they go which is normal but in the end that’s good for me – and them.
And I still think it’s hard to stay together for long like decades anyway. People are always tempted, grass greener bla bla. Some leave, some don’t, people change, some not so much. It’s kinda normal to me for what I’ve experienced so far.
Because attractiveness is like weight class in boxing, if I’m not attractive enough to have a shot with the women in his league then the women in my league is not attractive enough to have a shot with him.
Because they’re not your competitors you ding dong. they’re after different game. If I really wanted to up my game to much hotter women I would just eat only chicken and broccoli and lift weights all day every day. If I’m not prepared to do that, then I will just go after the women in my own attractiveness bracket, who “ridiculously attractive men” aren’t in the market for anyway.
I don’t have the greatest self-esteem so if I went around thinking of other guys as competition I’d have an aneurism.
Besides self-confidence is as much (if not more) important than looks. Style also helps a lot too. And grooming is very important and often disregarded by men.
I mean… My wife is waay out of my league but she loves me so I guess I have something going on for me.
The same way that I don’t get immediately scared whenever a guy is bigger or stronger than me (I’m 5’4″, 140#). It’s because i’ve trained and know how to handle myself. I’m no ninja, but i have a VERY significant advantage over an untrained guy (even larger than me) because skill matters so much in a physical confrontation.
Same applies to dating. Skill matters a TON. Obviously it’s not often going to make me super competitive against a tall, fit, handsome, rich, famous guy with equal or better social skills to mine, but I don’t often find myself competing with Dwayne Johnson for girlfriends, so I don’t really worry about that.
Not actually? If anything I look up to them and see what they can do well when dating. Honestly it’s 50% confidence and if you’re able to copy that you’re golden.
Generally I don’t feel like men are catty in this regard.
Because I’m not in a race. Them being “hot” or whatnot isn’t any of my problems. Like so many non-problems in life, I ask myself “why would I care” and continue with my life.
There’s plenty of space for all of us. I’m not everyone’s type, and neither is that other handsome guy. Maybe she likes dark hair. Maybe she likes beards. Maybe she likes pale guys or ethnic guys or hairy guys or athletic guys. We can all do well with someone.
I don’t feel like I’m in competition with any dude. And if I was talking with a chick and then I see she is talking and flirting with another dude, bruh she can have him, I ain’t pressed. I’m on my own ting
The woman I want would not want anyone other than me; I’m a hell of lot more than my physicality or charisma. We fit each other so perfectly there’s no crack for someone else to work in to, so it’s just not an option.
Also even when single, I’ve never seen other men as competition. It’s not about them, it’s about her. A woman is not going to want me by the default of not having something better around (certainly not any woman I’d want to be with). A potential partner is going to want me if I’m right for her as an individual. I keep being me, being moral lead, chasing my own wants and needs and behaving in a way that presents my best self; the right partner who matches my vibe will gravitate to all that regardless of who else is around.
One a my best friends is stunningly handsome dude. And he’s a former standup comedian, so he’d also really funny. He also has a great job, a really cool wife and sweet kids.
But, you know what? I love my life. I have an amazing wife and kids, I enjoy my job and I have great friends.
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By the look of their pants, I’m fairly certain they’ve got a smaller dick than me.
Competition for what?
For women? If a woman starts this competition then Ill dump her in a heartbeat – bad human qualities is a dealbreaker.
For work? For money? Professionalism has more value there as well as human qualities.
For overall life success? Its vague and subjective what do you define as a success.
I think I am attractive enough and don’t care if someome looks better than me.
Someone’s success doesn’t mean anything about my own as it isn’t a competition and if there’s a woman I am interested in and she chooses someone else I would not really care as I want to be someone’s first choice. Which thankfully I am to my awesome significant other.
I just don’t much care in general tbh
It’s is being accepting of yourself, and it being validated by the fact your partner/family/friends accept you for being you.
Jealousy is just an emotion. Process it, nullify it and put it away.
Be satisfied with who you are, for you think of yourself far more often than others think of you.
I mean life is a competition in general I suppose but you can only run your own race at the end of the day. Work on becoming your best self and let the cards fall where they may. Can’t control what another man has going on.
This is why you lower your standards. That’s a safe bet to know those men, aren’t gonna be anywhere near those chicks.
I don’t look at men I’m “competing” with on a looks scale anymore. I’d be willing to guess I’m a bit more successful than them, if I was still chasing women, I’m not competing with them, they’re competing with me.
Why do you care? Someone’s always going to be bigger, faster, stronger, better looking, etc. than you. Accept it and work to maximize what you’re able to do and don’t worry about the next guy.
Because looks aren’t everything. There’s lots of drop-dead handsome dudes out there who are either total creeps or have the charm and sophistication of a chimp on PCP.
Women talk. Once word gets around, that guy’s dating prospects are fucked- except for the gals who just want him as a one-time conquest.
Because as guys we don’t measure ourselves up against our peers primarily on looks. Being a 10/10 model has zero correlation with being successful and/or rich.
If you are competing for a woman’s attention. You are already losing. If she likes you, it won’t matter how handsome a dude is. She will rock with you because it’s you. You can’t make someone like or love you. Either they do or they don’t. Stay in your lane and deal with the ones that genuinely like you. Now if it’s just about sex, well fam I don’t know what to tell you🤣 but the same sentiment stands.
Lookwise? There is no competition, I quickly yield.
Spin everything around to yourself and re-think your anxieties.
If you had a wife, logistically, she is not the most attractive person on the planet. But does that mean you’d leave her or think less of her if “a hotter girl” was in your presence?
Of course not.
Women and men are not that different. We are the same species of animal.
Now, of course, there are men out there who would leave their wives just because they found a “hotter and willing wife”
And none of us respect or think highly of them.
Same the other way around.
Meh. Competition is a state of mind. Mostly not worth anyone’s time. Spend time on women for whom you’re a thing. Lot more of them than us… always someone to do.
He and I are in different markets.
Because I can’t compete with someone who’s super attractive. Game’s over before it could begin.
I am the ridiculously attractive men. I don’t view you as competition, so it’s okay.
Competition for what? The only real competition in life is with yourself.
I’m honest with myself about what I am. I own it. I’m not the tallest or the best looking. But confidence in one’s self goes a long way.
I do , that’s why I work out myself train hard and try my best to make a lot of money but I also know they sleep with ugly dudes who are broke losers so there’s always hope
I don’t view attractiveness as a competition in general. If I did, then I would realize that I am not in the same league as someone that is ridiculously attractive and that is fine. There is always going to be someone more attractive than you.
By realizing your purpose in life isn’t to “beat” everyone. And that even if it was, focusing on how other people are performing, for any reason other than to learn, is an uncompetitive strategy.
It’s your life. Live it maximally.
Because nothing is competition unless you’re making the conscious decision to compete with someone. And unless you’re actually in competition for something, there’s no reason to compete with anyone else. That stems from insecurity with yourself. You’re not viewing attractive men as competition, you’re viewing yourself as inadequate. Stop doing that. Be yourself, work on the things about yourself that you don’t like, and stop worrying about other dudes.
There’s plenty of everything to go around.
I am not participating in a competition 🙂
I’m 5’4 and a meh physique with emotional problems and epilepsy. I used to think every other man was better than me and all it did was make me and my partner more miserable. It’s all about learning that your partner chose you because they like you for you. If there’s “competition”, the partner isn’t worth keeping around, no matter how much you want them to stay. Just have to accept yourself for who you are.
Easy. When one is the absolute antithesis of attractiveness, as I was, then one is not in competition with such attractive men. They operate in an entirely different realm.
I think “pfffft. I probably have more reddit karma than him. That’s my version of contributing to society.”
It helps when you realise you can’t compete as someone who’s not even playing the same sport
I had a 15 year relationship, I don’t want another one.
Cause they are going after the woman I have no chance with
I mean… they are competition. But they are also potential dates lol.
Funny enough, competition has been ingrained in most guys at a very early age. It’s because we’re bombarded with it that guys grow out of viewing everything as competition. Sadly social media really made the new generation feel more insecure, but I do believe a lot of guys build each other up. Life is hard enough lol.
“Plenty of fish in the sea” is a played out expression, but it holds up on a logical basis. There are thousands of potential romances available to you at any given time and basically all the time. Focusing on what the hot guy is fucking is a waste of your time and energy. And I’ll tell you a secret as a “hot guy” when I want to step out that way… the hot girl at the bar is the most uninteresting person in the entire room.
Because they don’t do it for everyone. There’s an amazing woman out there who just rolled her eyes at a “pretty boy”, you’ll meet her some day and have no clue how lucky you are to be you
Im out of fucks to give
If the woman can be so easily swayed from our relationship to someone more attractive, she’s doing me a favour. I’m better off finding someone else or staying alone than spending my life concerned about whether she’ll leave.
I have an insanely attractive Latina girlfriend with a gorgeous smile, indescribably amazing body, the most incredible personality, she’s my best friend, and for some reason, is absolutely head over heels for me. I don’t look at anyone as competition, I already won the game. I have the gold medal.
Because I’m not an option to take seriously
Ridiculously attractive men are rare.
Looks matter less ti women than to men.
I do get jealous of guys who have better bodies than me but its more a case of ‘Damn! Ive got to up my game!’
But they AREN’T competition, are they..? We are not competing for the same women, since we are in different leagues.
Most of the ridiculously attractive men I know are either gay, in a relationship, stupid or shorter than me. But mostly because I’m married. There is no competition left. I won that game.
Basically because I have accepted that I’m not blessed with great genetics nor willing to go to the extremes to mould myself to an ideal, and that’s OK. I have my own talents and advantages, and I think I’m alright for it. Age does give you that grace as well, you realise who you are and you’ve done alright perhaps in spite of or because of who you are, or both
I was once faced with this literal greek god of a man at the local pool, super tall lean muscular swimmers body and a face that belonged on a magazine cover, seriously started to question my sexuality right there and then, so ridiculously good looking he was almost a caricature. It was also at that point I fully realised that you just cannot compete with this kind of freak, to such a degree that there is no competition, you’re not even in the race. And that’s OK.
I like to think that guy was dumb as a brick wall, the one thing I would perhaps have over him, but I will never want to know because I like that comforting idea that noone is the complete package
They’re not competition because I’m barely even in the game. I know my league, and they probably go for women in higher leagues as well.
Also extremely attractive guys that know they’re attractive might intimidate women.
I’m over 40, unattractive and never had a chance anyway and have known it since I was 12. No reason to see other men as competition when I couldn’t compete if my soul depended on it.
They’re going for women waaaayy out of my league to begin with 🤣
By admiring their ridiculously attractive form… Damn bro them quads be popping
By accepting reality: If you’re not one of them, then you just aren’t. Better luck next time.
If you’re competing, you’ve already lost.
Because I’m a realist, and recognize that there is no competition. Just admire them rq and move on, unless there’s something about them you can’t move on from, in which case – congratulations on coming out!
Find me an individual that occupies the same space as I do in a social setting though, of similar age/physicality/personality and I’ll go Highlander on em real quick to rid of them – “THERE CAN ONLY BE ONE!”
I’ve never considered myself as being in competition with anyone.
By focusing on yourself, stop comparing and just live by your means
Life has it’s ups and downs. I had my moments in the spotlight and got to make a difference. The only person I compete with is myself.
I admire beautiful men, but they must also be beautiful on the inside.
When you’re appreciative of yourself and what you bring to the table, you won’t see others as competition.
Lol I thought this was /r/askgaybros
A situation happened (not to me) a few months ago that made me open my eyes and realize that nobody is worth fighting over. If your partner is going to cheat, there’s nothing you can do to stop it. So seeing other men as competition is a moot point.
Competition for dating? We aren’t even looking at the same women my dude
Cause I domt compete directly like such. If a woman’s attention is directed by some super good looking guys instead. Then he has her attention 100% as far as I’m concerned
Well everyone is competition. One just needs some self worth to know what they bring to the table and that it will be enough for a partner. And if they are tempted away then it wasn’t enough for them. But that doesn’t mean I’m not enough. Just not for them and that’s brilliant when they go away instead of wasting my time and settling for me.
I mean it hurts when they go which is normal but in the end that’s good for me – and them.
And I still think it’s hard to stay together for long like decades anyway. People are always tempted, grass greener bla bla. Some leave, some don’t, people change, some not so much. It’s kinda normal to me for what I’ve experienced so far.
Doesn’t bother me a lick. She can look all she wants, but if she instigates something – her shit’s on the street the next day.
All men are competition if you’re a man so I’m not clear on the question here honestly.
Because attractiveness is like weight class in boxing, if I’m not attractive enough to have a shot with the women in his league then the women in my league is not attractive enough to have a shot with him.
I’m competitive for purpose not based on perception.
Meaning, I don’t walk around quantifying other people’s attractiveness relative to myself to venture down the path of comparison.
Because they’re not your competitors you ding dong. they’re after different game. If I really wanted to up my game to much hotter women I would just eat only chicken and broccoli and lift weights all day every day. If I’m not prepared to do that, then I will just go after the women in my own attractiveness bracket, who “ridiculously attractive men” aren’t in the market for anyway.
I’m tall and fit, but handsome is subjective. Focus on yourself bro, comparison is the theif of joy and jealousy doesn’t serve you
Because they’re not competing with me, I’m not attractive enough to even entertain the idea of a relationship.
It’s not like my chances were high if before they showed up
I know my girlfriend finds other men attractive.
She knows I find other women attractive.
It’s too much energy to be jealous.
Because I want to fuck them and see them as out of my league.
but they are, animals compete all the time… what makes you think there is no comp among humans?
By not being interested in competing. Look at what You have, not at what others have.
We’re not playing the same game.
Thoughts like that never cross my mind too much happening around me to notice anything or anyone
He can only get with one girl.. at a time.. usually
I don’t have the greatest self-esteem so if I went around thinking of other guys as competition I’d have an aneurism.
Besides self-confidence is as much (if not more) important than looks. Style also helps a lot too. And grooming is very important and often disregarded by men.
I mean… My wife is waay out of my league but she loves me so I guess I have something going on for me.
There is more than beauty but there is no competition. Do you also see Rich people as more successful than you?
The same way that I don’t get immediately scared whenever a guy is bigger or stronger than me (I’m 5’4″, 140#). It’s because i’ve trained and know how to handle myself. I’m no ninja, but i have a VERY significant advantage over an untrained guy (even larger than me) because skill matters so much in a physical confrontation.
Same applies to dating. Skill matters a TON. Obviously it’s not often going to make me super competitive against a tall, fit, handsome, rich, famous guy with equal or better social skills to mine, but I don’t often find myself competing with Dwayne Johnson for girlfriends, so I don’t really worry about that.
Cause not everything’s about looks
Not actually? If anything I look up to them and see what they can do well when dating. Honestly it’s 50% confidence and if you’re able to copy that you’re golden.
Generally I don’t feel like men are catty in this regard.
Because I’m not in a race. Them being “hot” or whatnot isn’t any of my problems. Like so many non-problems in life, I ask myself “why would I care” and continue with my life.
I dont feel like men compete that much outside their “weight class”. Only contender is the legitimately funny guy.
Because I view them as prey.
There’s plenty of space for all of us. I’m not everyone’s type, and neither is that other handsome guy. Maybe she likes dark hair. Maybe she likes beards. Maybe she likes pale guys or ethnic guys or hairy guys or athletic guys. We can all do well with someone.
Because i know what i can offer is more than just looks
It’s not a competition if I’m so far below them that I’m not even on the field, I’m barely in the parking lot.
I don’t feel like I’m in competition with any dude. And if I was talking with a chick and then I see she is talking and flirting with another dude, bruh she can have him, I ain’t pressed. I’m on my own ting
Because life is about more than looks.
The woman I want would not want anyone other than me; I’m a hell of lot more than my physicality or charisma. We fit each other so perfectly there’s no crack for someone else to work in to, so it’s just not an option.
Also even when single, I’ve never seen other men as competition. It’s not about them, it’s about her. A woman is not going to want me by the default of not having something better around (certainly not any woman I’d want to be with). A potential partner is going to want me if I’m right for her as an individual. I keep being me, being moral lead, chasing my own wants and needs and behaving in a way that presents my best self; the right partner who matches my vibe will gravitate to all that regardless of who else is around.
I already have a fiancee, so I’m not in game.
As competition for what, exactly?
Damn, I just… kinda don’t care at all
One a my best friends is stunningly handsome dude. And he’s a former standup comedian, so he’d also really funny. He also has a great job, a really cool wife and sweet kids.
But, you know what? I love my life. I have an amazing wife and kids, I enjoy my job and I have great friends.
You’re only competition is yourself.