What compliment means the most to you? Pretty, Hot, Sexy, Cute, I want you…compliments about specific parts of your body?, what do YOU want to hear when your partner is complimenting you?
What compliment do you MOST want to hear from your partner?
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I love your imperfections, they make mine seem manageable. Alternatively, I love you for exactly who you are and there is not ONE SINGLE thing I would change
I am single, but my male friends have told me about me being their safe space to talk about anything. Specially the guys who are very reserved about what they with whom, such friends tell me that they are emotionally open with me. And after a discussion, when they find peace or the answers to their questions, and the way convo goes from fog-in-the-head to peace, that feeling is awesome. Maybe you could tell your partner something like this, or something from what I described. I don’t have proper words for it.
That I look good without make up
Things like I really appreciate how you handled that (whatever it was), mostly just that someone is able to see me as a whole human being.
Honestly, take a break from what he’s doing and telling me I’m beautiful. I think that’s so sweet.
Like putting down his book and saying so. Or stopping scrolling on his phone. Or looking up from his computer. He’d have me in a chokehold. Absolutely smitten.
I think what means the most to me is being told I’m beautiful — not just hot or sexy. Something about ‘beautiful’ feels more complete, like it’s not just about how I look, but the whole vibe.
Cute , mostly.
The compliment I loved the most from my ex (i have no partner currently) was when we were hanging out and out of no where he would just look at me and say “why are you looking so pretty” and it feels genuine and his eyes would just brighten up and it would make my day🥹
Tbh all of the above : hot, sexy , beautiful, etc.
Love a partner that’s crazy about me in everything and loves me as a person
Anything that’s genuine. They always mean more than any other compliments that are said ‘because they should’.
I love when he tells me how hardworking I am because most of the time I have the feeling I’m never doing enough.
Generally compliments that acknowledges/praises something I put effort in…
I personally don’t care about compliments regarding looks, I mean,.. it’s pretty obvious what he thinks about that from the way he looks at and interacts with me anyways.
Compliments that feel genuine are the best!
I prefer compliments on personality or achievements over looks. Of course, it’s also nice with compliments on looks too, then I prefer specific (eg, your smile) than general (beautiful).
I love being with you…
I get a bit of a thrill every time he starts with “So I took your advice…”
that she’s happy to be with me.
My personal favourite is when they squeeze my butt and go “oh yes” with that growl and game on. Oh, so nice 😍
Any time a guy has specifically called me ‘pretty’ or said that I ‘look pretty today’ l melt
Specific personality or overall appearance
Just in general compliments about how my body is looking (noticing improvements from going to the gym) a fire really gets lit in me when I walk into a room and my wife just randomly says something like “wow your arm/chest/legs ect.. are looking good.”
I love when they say things that make me feel like they’re proud of me/lucky to have me/hype me up/think I’m creative, smart, capable. Or when they say things like “you’re my best friend/favorite person” and “I never get tired of talking to you/I can tell you anything.” It also never hurts to be called beautiful 😅
Currently dealing with hairloss and whatever I try just doesn’t seem to work. Yesterday I had a bit of a breakdown, he hugged me and put his hand where my heart is and told me I’ll always be beautiful no matter what. Helped to remind me my hair doesn’t define me and what I have inside is what matters. I love him.
I would like a compliment on my mental health or that I’ve worked on my bad habits and impulsivity. I think that’s something that a lot of people forget to compliment. I would like recognition that I’ve worked on myself inside my head cause I often doubt myself that I’ve gotten better
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Anything that’s not about how hot I am… ☹️
That they dont think less of me for anything and that they wont…
i think the ones that hit the hardest are like “i feel safe with you” or “you make everything better.” pretty is cute but emotional security? unmatched.
The best I’ve ever received: I love you for who you are, who you were, and who you’re becoming ❤
I’ll never forget that all parts of me are worth loving, thanks to him 😊
That he sees the progress I’ve made in therapy to break generational curses
He told me I was his safe place. It felt good, for a minute. Then I started to panic. I still don’t know why.
I like to hear compliments like “I’m so happy that you share your life with me. You enrich my life with peace and excitement.” all while squeezing my butt. 🥰
My partner is terrible with verbal affirmations. Definitely not his love language. It would really help to hear how kind/thoughtful/caring I am, but also how beautiful he thinks I am.
I’ve been depressed since leaving my job a few months ago, being literally broke, no health insurance or access to therapy due to cost, and I can’t even look in the mirror because of my frayed ends, grey roots, and I ran out of makeup, shampoo/conditioner, and skincare. I just landed a job offer and am working on some self care over the next couple weeks, planning a few spends on a credit card to regain some confidence as I re-enter the workforce with a boss 5 years younger than me (hair appointment, foundation, sunscreen, a couple pilates classes; also borrowing some self-help books from the library).
He used to feel uncomfortable when I would tell him how sexy and handsome I thought he was (we allll knew he was smart, kind, etc. so that didn’t bother him).
That I’ve got a kind soul :’)) he told me that and I sobbed like a baby
When I’m doing my makeup, that he says “you’re so talented” or “it suits you so well” instead of “yOu lOoK beTtEr wiThoUt mAkeUp”
i may be shallow for this but i wanna be praised for my physical appearance and i want them to look like they mean it. it’s not a matter of which word gets used, but more on how they say it
Compliment my efforts, I am trying so hard out here
You work really hard and provide us with such prosperity. I do not take that for granted. I am really proud of how hard you work.
I want to hear that I am a good mother, that he appreciates my contributions to our family. And I would like some praise for the exercises I’m doing because I’m the opposite of sporty and never got into it long term.
That I’m smart and a badass.
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“I’m so proud of you”
Whenever I’ve struggled doing something, or succeeded in moving away from a bad habit, had a rough day, or I was just proud of something I did. It’s the kind of compliment that means a lot, and makes me want to do even better !
I want them to call me cute and say that I make them very happy and that my efforts are valued
I don’t have one but if I did, I’d really appreciate them say “I’m proud of you” or “I see you” or “i notice your efforts”. Other than that being told im worth their efforts and affection would be nice. To be told “I’d pick you over anyone else” would be nice.
“I want my children to have your eyes.”
“I love how feminine your curves are.”
“Your lips look like they were made to kiss mine.” – use only if it’s someone you’re already kissing and established with otherwise this sounds possessive and a little weird lol
“I like your butt.”
I like you. You’re fun to be around.
i wanted to hear a genuine “thank you for being who you are”. it didnt happen, but an old flame said it after he and i talked. i remember the look in his eyes and all — i hope i never forget it
My husband gives me very detailed specific compliments which melt my heart and show me that he has actually been looking at me and admiring me for a while. For example: I love the way your hair grows out straight and then curls at the bottom into cute ringlets or I love the way the beauty mark on your face perfectly alines with your dimple, it makes you dimple extra beautiful. I love those compliments, never fails to make me smile.
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Whatever they honestly feel and honestly want to express to me. The intent and appreciation is only meaningful to me if it comes from their heart honestly. However, if the only compliments they ever give are about appearance, then I’ll think that’s what they primarily value about me which would make me very sad.
That things are going to be alright. I have anxiety and comforting words mean way more to me than anything.
I would rather have compliments related to feelings or actions than my appearance. I wasn’t exactly blessed by the self-esteem fairy, and telling me I’m beautiful just sounds fake. So hearing something like “you’re so good to me” or “i love you” is a million times better.
Probably an “I think you will be a great parent” or “I think you can do anything you set your mind to”
That I’m a great partner or that I am reliable. I would like to hear sometime that someone is proud of me too.
I just want to be told I’m doing a good job and for the things I’m doing to be clearly noticed and appreciated…
Literally anything, my partner has never complimented me. I would love to hear “you look beautiful today “ or “you look good in those jeans.” Honestly anything simple.
I feel like they just must not be attracted to me but then theyll tell me about compliments OTHERS say about me, like how I’m known as the “hot wife “ in their social circles.
I would rather hear cute little things from my partner than have to get the most random, out of context validation third party.
My partner compliments how I look all the time, but my favourite thing is when he compliments my brain. Recently we were at a family thing and he started bragging about my click through rates on a recent email campaign I sent out at work, which means nothing to him or any of his family, but he knows I was proud of it and wanted to show off how “smart and great at my job I am”.
I was late diagnosed with ADHD and soon autism and it affects me and our relationship everyday, so it’s comforting to hear that he loves me because of my weird little brain and not in spite of it 🙂
My partner compliments how I look all the time, but my favourite thing is when he compliments my brain. Recently we were at a family thing and he started bragging about my click through rates on a recent email campaign I sent out at work, which means nothing to him or any of his family, but he knows I was proud of it and wanted to show off how “smart and great at my job I am”.
I was late diagnosed with ADHD and soon autism and it affects me and our relationship everyday, so it’s comforting to hear that he loves me because of my weird little brain and not in spite of it 🙂
I took up a new hobby within the last couple years and he complimented me on my progress with it after about a year. It felt so nice to hear that he acknowledged something that was important to me that I was working hard at, and also that I am self conscious at because I am a beginner. He took the time to notice and the compliment was in a letter. It felt like he saw ME as a person even though the hobby doesn’t benefit or affect him at all. He’s an acts of service guy, not always super verbal, so that was special too.
I love when my partner says they’re proud of me. It’s so sweet 🥹
I just like it when he calls me pretty tbh. That and hearing him change my last name to his sometimes when he’s telling me how much he admires me and adores me are my favorite compliments. “I love you, pretty.” “I’m so proud of you, pretty.” And I’ll ask if he thinks I’m pretty and he’ll say “I know you’re pretty.”
Like swoon 🥰
“I love you for you.”
As much as I like compliments on how sexy I look or cute or pretty or how good my fit is, I really like compliments which catch on the details or the subtleties of my character- like how I am helpful, understanding or caring based on a thing I did or how I reacted. The greatest of all compliment, however is, is to hear him say he loves me in random moments of routine life.
I wanna be told I’m beautifully made even with flaws, and to acknowledge that even tho I’m not perfect, you see me as perfection. I wanna be told I have a good heart too
Any compliment really would make my day, he used to compliment me but rarely ever anymore… in fact I don’t remember the last time he complimented me…
I wish he’d tell me how much I mean to him, how I’m his whole world, and he couldn’t live wo me. I know all those things already but hearing that I’m his only one just hits different.
That he’s proud of me.
Someone I had a crush on used to compliment my outifts and my hair. It melted my heart every time.
My love language is words of affirmation. I love any kind of verbal praise. Tell me I smell good, tell me my hair looks good today (it never does 😂), thank me for doing the dishes. Just anything. I love hearing what I did right 🖤
Anything genuine is fine and very much appreciated except I absolutely hate being called cute. He knows this so that doesn’t come up but the first time someone calls me cute I immediately ask them not to refer to me like that.
I admire you
You’re funny.
You’re smart.
You’re weird and intense, but I love it.
You smell good.
You’re sexy.
That’s all swoon-worthy to me.
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You’re different. You’re original. You’re rebellious.
Idk mine tells me I’m beautiful all the time.. that’s one of his pet names for me is “my beautiful”. He tells me with his actions all the time that I’m sexy and wanted and states it out loud randomly too.. and if I ever verbally state that I don’t feel that way he reassures me that even though I see myself that way, he doesn’t. Which is really nice because it doesn’t invalidate my feelings towards my insecurities but still shows me he doesn’t see me the way I see me, which is a great relief
I prefer compliments that focus on my personality rather than my appearance. Smart. Kind. Funny. Genuine. Those are all preferable compliments to pretty, hot, sexy, or cute in my opinion. (Don’t get me wrong. I hope my partner thinks I’m attractive too, but my looks are just genetics. They’re something I inherited, not an achievement. I find it more meaningful if he appreciates who I am more than what I look like.)
Just tells me I’m gorgeous – this is all I need to hear. I know he loves me to his bones and he loves my body type so sexually I am super confident with him.
That I’m beautiful as I am, that I smell good, that I’m a Good mother
Everything with ” you’ve made it great..” ” I’m so proud of you….” ” You are the right one” in sentence
I like being told I’m smart or interesting because I feel like most people don’t have time for what I have to say. I’m a yapper, I know I go on about things a bit much sometimes, but I think I even myself out by being a good listener. I would just like to hear that they are interested in what I have to say, even the silly things.
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Calling me pretty is whatever. The compliments I love are when he says he’s noticed how hard I’m working to take care of myself and he’s proud of me for not giving up.
How proud he is of something i’ve done, that I am unique, kindhearted, that he can feel free to communicate openly with me.
Genuine, thoughtful acknowledgments of all the work I do for him and our kids. Compliments about how well I’m handling my responsibilities. I love that shit.
Being really interested in something I accomplished or what I talk about. The listing and caring is such a great feeling and it’s a compliment in its own way.
-You’re a great mother.
-You’re an amazing wife.
-You looked beautiful today.
-You smell good.
-Thank you for the food; It was delicious!
-I see you and recognize how hard you work at your job and at home with the kids and chores. I see everything you do, and don’t focus on what you haven’t gotten to yet. Also, I’ll help. Go shower/nap.
-I love how you dance and sing and crack jokes!
-I love you❤️
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Sexy and hot I get annoyed being called cute. More about my face less about hair and boobs but it’s still nice.
Compliments on my body. He always compliments my face and he says he’s not a “body guy but a face guy”. It makes me feel insecure sometimes because its like is my body not tea at all or what?? 😂
If a guy ever tells me that I’m the prettiest girl he has ever seen , i’d make him my soulmate then if he’s not!!!!!! Cause I definitely wouldn’t be the prettiest he’s ever seen but its such a soulmate thing that for him I’m the prettiest, I’m the one who gives him the comfort and happiness to look at
I would have loved to hear anything at all from my ex husband. You are a good mom. You look nice tonight. Anything. Instead I only heard I was lazy and was not worthy of his “love”.
You’re ALWAYS there, even if we’re not great, I know you’ll be there for me.
Maybe having me made a difference and helped him grow/progress 😄
Stuff that is genuine and directly from the heart. One time my boyfriend and I were texting about ostriches and he said ” I love you” and we continued talking. Then he replies to his I love you message and says “like I really love you, more than you know, more than i know. More than anything there is in this universe. It’s so powerful, this love”
I was stunned. But he kept talking about ostriches
It made me melt when my partner told me he wished he could wake up next to me all the time (we’re long distance). Mind you, my hair was all disheveled and I’m always cranky when he wakes me up in the morning haha. I just love it when he compliments me even if I’m not all dressed up or have makeup on. Also when he says he needs me. He obviously wears the pants in the relationship and it makes me giddy whenever he lets down his big boy persona and just lets himself be babied
My SO doesn’t give compliments, apparently doing so feels “awkward”. So I’d take pretty much anything lik
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