Should be the bare minimum, but I’d do pretty much anything for a kid, especially my siblings. I’m not letting anyone get hurt or taken advantage of on my watch.
Stoicism. I believe strongly in acknowledging and understanding emotions, but I always continue on my path regardless of how I’m feeling. I think it’s my best trait as a wife too, I find it easy to stay calm and talk through things rationally. I don’t take things personally and I never lose control of my emotions.
My former therapist said I’m extremely logical, sometimes to a fault but I’m actually quite proud of that. I often look at everything through a very logical lens. Also my curiosity about history and the world around me, even if it’s reading random Wikipedia pages different historical events, I’m really proud of my ability to seek out new information from different sources and just learn stuff.
I’m very carefree and believe everything has a reason for something. People tend to trust me with their deepest secrets and know that their secrets will come to my grave with me
Logical and calm. No matter how much fucked up other people surrounds you, I always try my best to keep my cool, and be the good one, and not get influenced by them
I help others feel safe, seen, and loved. Whether it’s my kid, my spouse, random people, animals, sentient fungi, eldritch horrors, whatever aura I give off is one of safety and sanctuary.
My psychologist told me this week that in his 20 years of practice, he had never met anyone who can digest and and synthesise large chunks of information as quickly and proficiently as me. He said it was a super power.
I’m still beaming about that comment.
It sort of makes me take it as a welcome trade for struggling with so piles of shut that have been piled on me.
I’m a very good friend. I make time for my friendships, prioritize them, check up on my friends, pay attention when I feel like they’re struggling. Life taught me that you have to cherish ppl while they’re here.
My ability to connect with animals. Most cats and dogs will steer directly towards me to get some pats. I’ve had owners look surprised and swear up and down that their dog/cat never lets anyone but them touch it. My in laws joke that I’m the animal whisperer.
I don’t make myself depending on someone if I don’t have to and I try to be as rational as I can.
I do my best not to judge people and I don’t have an opinion before I have information
Being happy being alone for long periods of time. We all have to spend time alone at some point, and I’ve seen a lot of people get anxious or not know what to do with themselves. I think it’s good to be able to spend time alone(and be content), and it also helps prevent fake relationships made solely out of loneliness.
The way I am able to empathise and take care of the young people I teach. I’m often very self critical, but this is something I know I’m good at because I’ve had multiple students tell me how much they like my lessons. The comment that has stuck with me the most was from a few weeks ago when a student told me “you would be a good mum because you take such good care of us.”
My resilience, empathy, and open-mindedness. Without those traits, I would have never met my husband, live the life that I do now or have met so many lovely people from different walks of life. I’m extremely grateful for all the hard times that made me who I am and for all the easy times where laughter and joy comes in abundance.
I have genuine faith in most people. I think most people are just trying to get through life and are often judged harshly for the way they speak, or dress, or mishandled something.
People make mistakes and are learning like everyone else.
I am happy to give almost everyone the benefit of the doubt.
I have great self discipline- even at school I found it easy to force myself to study for 8-10 hours a day while a lot of my friends studied with procrastination. I’ve never really had to fight too hard with the urge to procrastinate in most aspects of my life.
1 My ability to accept people as they are as long as they are a good person. All those litttle boxes (age, race, gender, sexual orirtentaion, religion, etc. ) are superficial to me. I will acknowledge those things and respect you within the boundaries you established for those categories, but they don’t define who I let into my life.
2 My sense of humor. Sometimes this is all that is needed to make something better. Il
3 Empathy. I don’t have to walk in your shoes before I start to care. We all wear shoes. I can look at your feet and tell your shoes are too tight without trying them on. This is why we are where we are in the world…people have not passively lost empathy—they aggressively are trying to get rid of it.
4 Being generally chill. I don’t need to spend every second of every day doing something. I don’t feel the need to do things to impress people that I don’t like. Not everything needs a big production. I like that people can some to me and just sit still and exhale the breath that they’ve been holding.
My courage. I’m always the first person in the room who goes first in get-to-know you group chats. I stand up for myself and everyone else in the room. I’m protective of marginalized people and I’ll fight to death if anyone tries to come for our human rights.
I’m very resilient with a Growth mindset. I am also really good at reflecting, holding myself accountable, and seeing myself and my actions from a third person POV if that makes sense. It can also be a weakness but I do like that I’m willing to forgive others as long as they’re learning from it.
Probably my independence. I’ve got my own house, my own car, I fix stuff myself. I don’t like relying on people if I don’t have to. Feels good knowing I can handle things on my own
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My sense of humour
Makes people laugh 🙂
I’m very accepting of people and their way of life as long as they aren’t hurting anyone. I’m proud of that.
Should be the bare minimum, but I’d do pretty much anything for a kid, especially my siblings. I’m not letting anyone get hurt or taken advantage of on my watch.
I’d like to think I’m resilient, empathetic and actually quite good at making people laugh.
I am quite proud that I’m open-minded, empathic and intelligent whilst also being a very affectionate goofball
I’m very patient. I don’t know why mind but my SO is always very complimentary about how patient I am.
I’m often described as compassionate. I really go above and beyond for people and causes that I care about.
Spite and empathy. First keeps me going, second keeps me from running people over in the process.
Stoicism. I believe strongly in acknowledging and understanding emotions, but I always continue on my path regardless of how I’m feeling. I think it’s my best trait as a wife too, I find it easy to stay calm and talk through things rationally. I don’t take things personally and I never lose control of my emotions.
My former therapist said I’m extremely logical, sometimes to a fault but I’m actually quite proud of that. I often look at everything through a very logical lens. Also my curiosity about history and the world around me, even if it’s reading random Wikipedia pages different historical events, I’m really proud of my ability to seek out new information from different sources and just learn stuff.
My ability to make friends with most people. I can go alone anywhere and make friends with just about anyone.
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I’m very carefree and believe everything has a reason for something. People tend to trust me with their deepest secrets and know that their secrets will come to my grave with me
Logical and calm. No matter how much fucked up other people surrounds you, I always try my best to keep my cool, and be the good one, and not get influenced by them
I help others feel safe, seen, and loved. Whether it’s my kid, my spouse, random people, animals, sentient fungi, eldritch horrors, whatever aura I give off is one of safety and sanctuary.
Enjoying solitude. This trait has prevented me from being involved with people for the mere sake of not being alone.
My psychologist told me this week that in his 20 years of practice, he had never met anyone who can digest and and synthesise large chunks of information as quickly and proficiently as me. He said it was a super power.
I’m still beaming about that comment.
It sort of makes me take it as a welcome trade for struggling with so piles of shut that have been piled on me.
Being empathetic. I’m proud that I can put myself in someone else’s shoes and that I actually care about the well being of others.
I’m a very good friend. I make time for my friendships, prioritize them, check up on my friends, pay attention when I feel like they’re struggling. Life taught me that you have to cherish ppl while they’re here.
I love deeply and I’m always happy
My ability to connect with animals. Most cats and dogs will steer directly towards me to get some pats. I’ve had owners look surprised and swear up and down that their dog/cat never lets anyone but them touch it. My in laws joke that I’m the animal whisperer.
Unfortunately, I’m still trying to figure it out myself.
The ability to see both sides. Consider each for a good amount of time and THEN decide what truth aligns with yours.
I don’t make myself depending on someone if I don’t have to and I try to be as rational as I can.
I do my best not to judge people and I don’t have an opinion before I have information
I think I’m very reliable
Being happy being alone for long periods of time. We all have to spend time alone at some point, and I’ve seen a lot of people get anxious or not know what to do with themselves. I think it’s good to be able to spend time alone(and be content), and it also helps prevent fake relationships made solely out of loneliness.
The way I am able to empathise and take care of the young people I teach. I’m often very self critical, but this is something I know I’m good at because I’ve had multiple students tell me how much they like my lessons. The comment that has stuck with me the most was from a few weeks ago when a student told me “you would be a good mum because you take such good care of us.”
My resilience, empathy, and open-mindedness. Without those traits, I would have never met my husband, live the life that I do now or have met so many lovely people from different walks of life. I’m extremely grateful for all the hard times that made me who I am and for all the easy times where laughter and joy comes in abundance.
I’m really proud of my empathy, it helps me to connect with people
I have genuine faith in most people. I think most people are just trying to get through life and are often judged harshly for the way they speak, or dress, or mishandled something.
People make mistakes and are learning like everyone else.
I am happy to give almost everyone the benefit of the doubt.
I have great self discipline- even at school I found it easy to force myself to study for 8-10 hours a day while a lot of my friends studied with procrastination. I’ve never really had to fight too hard with the urge to procrastinate in most aspects of my life.
1 My ability to accept people as they are as long as they are a good person. All those litttle boxes (age, race, gender, sexual orirtentaion, religion, etc. ) are superficial to me. I will acknowledge those things and respect you within the boundaries you established for those categories, but they don’t define who I let into my life.
2 My sense of humor. Sometimes this is all that is needed to make something better. Il
3 Empathy. I don’t have to walk in your shoes before I start to care. We all wear shoes. I can look at your feet and tell your shoes are too tight without trying them on. This is why we are where we are in the world…people have not passively lost empathy—they aggressively are trying to get rid of it.
4 Being generally chill. I don’t need to spend every second of every day doing something. I don’t feel the need to do things to impress people that I don’t like. Not everything needs a big production. I like that people can some to me and just sit still and exhale the breath that they’ve been holding.
I’m bold & brave, and do my thing without fear.Â
I’m not worrying too much about social pressure.Â
I’m intelligent and basically a knowledge sponge.Â
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My courage. I’m always the first person in the room who goes first in get-to-know you group chats. I stand up for myself and everyone else in the room. I’m protective of marginalized people and I’ll fight to death if anyone tries to come for our human rights.
I don’t really take things personally, which is helpful in social situations.
I’m very resilient with a Growth mindset. I am also really good at reflecting, holding myself accountable, and seeing myself and my actions from a third person POV if that makes sense. It can also be a weakness but I do like that I’m willing to forgive others as long as they’re learning from it.
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Patience and being unfazed. I grew up in a chaotic household where my mom always screams and yell.
Probably my independence. I’ve got my own house, my own car, I fix stuff myself. I don’t like relying on people if I don’t have to. Feels good knowing I can handle things on my own
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How stubborn I am in my empathy, how strongly I feel about certain issues and how sure I am in my sense of “self”