i just need to vent because i’m so scared and have no idea what to do. i have two kids, one from a previous relationship and one on the way. i went through my boyfriend’s phone the other night and found him texting with a girl from work. he promised it was just work texts, deleted instagram, and said nothing was happening. this morning, i checked his phone again and he was on a different app, texting her to link up. when he woke up he tried to blame me, was screaming, and i just have no idea what to do. i’m packing my stuff because obviously i can’t stay but who is ever going to want a women with kids from two different dads? i dont have a job because im pregnant so i have to stay at my dad’s house. i’m literally screwed. and i cant stop crying because now i have to try and explain to my 2 year old why daddy isn’t here. please help because i can’t breathe.
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Backup of the post’s body: i just need to vent because i’m so scared and have no idea what to do. i have two kids, one from a previous relationship and one on the way. i went through my boyfriend’s phone the other night and found him texting with a girl from work. he promised it was just work texts, deleted instagram, and said nothing was happening. this morning, i checked his phone again and he was on a different app, texting her to link up. when he woke up he tried to blame me, was screaming, and i just have no idea what to do. i’m packing my stuff because obviously i can’t stay but who is ever going to want a women with kids from two different dads? i dont have a job because im pregnant so i have to stay at my dad’s house. i’m literally screwed. and i cant stop crying because now i have to try and explain to my 2 year old why daddy isn’t here. please help because i can’t breathe.
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I’m sorry this is happening to you, especially right now. You need to focus on the baby and your older child and not him right now.
Maybe get married first…
I think your only real priority here is rebuilding your life, you shouldn’t be thinking about your next relationship.
Become an independent woman first, heal and learn to live without a partner. Everything else will just fall into place as it’s meant to.
You have to be strong for you and your kid, never talk bad about the dad, try and change the your kids mind when the dad is brought up, you have to become really good at distracting your kid.
Blast him to all friends and family. Let them all know what a shit bag he is.
You’ve got to file for some assistance, rebuild your life and get some counseling… you’ve been through a trauma
The worst kind of man cheats on a woman while
She is pregnant. Leaving him is the best thing you can do for yourself.
It’s natural to tell yourself that no man will want you because you have two kids by two different men. It’s a deep fear that you will be rejected. Some men will, some men wont. But you shouldn’t worry about that right now. Your only goal is to create a happy and safe home for those little ones. Create a life you love without a man. When you have healed and are in a better place, you may meet a single dad and want to blend your family. But in the meantime, fix yourself and figure out why you are attracted to the worst kind of men.