I am 22-years old man. I’ve heard racism and misogyny in every all men friend group I have ever been in. At work, college military even my high school friend group which I tought was pretty decent-minded people. And by racism and misogyny I don’t mean minor disagreements. I mean like literal n@zi-sympathizers and ”stronger-gender” talk. And just how casually racist and misogynistic jokes I’ve heard. And even the ones who aren’t making them are laughing to them. And how come I have never heard anything racist in friend groups where there is women?
Like what am I suppose to do? To this day I have just tolerated because I don’t wanna be without social circles? But my last straw was on last week at party this group that hang out tought it would be fun to blast erika and scream the n-word out of the aparntment window?? The reason I have been hanging out with them is that I know some people from it individually and I would’ve never tought that they’d be participating in anything like that. But here they were laughing at this behaviour.
This same thing has happened in every single all-male friend group I have been in. In college, work, high school and military. Why is it so hard to find male-friends who are not either racist or misogynistic? Or am I just hypocritical and have too high standards for people I hang out with?