(Legal drinking age in my country is 18)
So yesterday she called me pretending to be drunk, i knew it was pretending for many reasons (I’ll list them) it’s not the first time I feel like she pretends/ plays it up but usually I try not to trust my judgment on that cause when she’s drunk I also am so I tell myself “my perception is off cause I’m tipsy” “she’s a lightweight” “maybe she’s a lil drunk but feels drunker cause we’re in a social situation so it could be kinda like placebo” or smth like that
But yesterday it was so obviously a lie
First her voice sounded fake drunk and every once in a while her drunk accent slipped and she sounded normal, I tried to ignore that and just believe her during the whole call but more things came up
She told me she was on the street walking around and ofc I got worried and told her to accept videocall so that I could see where she was and maybe go pick her up or send an Uber or wtv but she suddenly wanted to go to the bathroom and no more than 10 seconds later she had found a bathroom and gotten inside then she accepted video call and it was clearly a house’s bathroom not a public one and during the whole call she left the bathroom once and didn’t turn on the camera and when I asked her to she went back in the bathroom
I very heard her cat meow and she noticed I heard and with a panicked but still drunk pretending voice said “oh a kitty hi kitty” but like ?? It was the type of meow cats make to their owners and she has already send me vids of her cats and they sounded alike
During the conversation she kept telling me that she loves me and that I’m her best friend but she mentioned things that kinda made me feel weird like not only telling me loving things also saying things to make me feel guilty like “I know I’m not your best friend but you’re mine” “I can’t live without you I want you in my life forever” “and that she hates my other friend and yeah things like that
She also told me that she went out because a professor of us offered her a job but that when she got there he offered her something inappropriate and that she punched him and left, I told her to report him and that if she was uncomfortable I’ll report him on my own and she started trying to subtly back out saying things like “no I don’t mean it like that” “he didn’t quite said what I told you” and it felt like she just wanted me to give her empathy but as soon she noticed I was obviously gonna take action on what she said she panicked and tried to back out, when we finished the call she send me an audio sounding 100% sober telling me that “I actually didn’t go with the professor today nothing I said abt him happened lm just bad at telling stories you know that” and a couple seconds after sending me that sober audio she called a mutual friend of ours sounding super drunk again
She latter said that she went drinking with friends and that they let her stranded
She said she was some there that’s 1h40m minimum from her house but somehow got home in like 20 min, while she was calling my friend she told him she was on a car but there was no car sounds or anything
And it’s not the first time things like this happened I usually notice some flaws on her stories or that she tells me a story and then says it again but a lil more exaggerated but it usually doesn’t feel call out worthy
Like another time I drank with her outside uni in out free hour and she acted super weird but not in a drunk way, another one of my friends asked her if she had taken something else and she said coke but the friend and I sided eyed each other and pretty much told her “no definitely not” cause she was acting high not coked out and we asked again and she said weed and that she smoked but she had been with me all day and there’s no was smoked weed takes fucking 3 hours to stat hitting come on if it was an edible maybe I would’ve believed it but it was smoked according to her
It’s not only with substances, sometimes something happens to the both of us and when she says the story to someone else she changes a word or two that to me change the meaning a lot and if I mention it she says “I miss remembered” or “it’s the same thing” or “you know I’m bad at telling stories”
But also Idk if I should mention it like it’s not that harmful so idk if I would be an asshole of I mentioned it, during the call she mentioned that she called me drunk because she knew she wouldn’t be hable to tell me that she really loves me as a friend while sober cause it would be embarrassing so maybe her pretending to be drunk is just a way to tell me things she want to tell me
Like she opened up to me yes while faking drunk but opened up
me saying “I know you played drunk” would hurt her right?
I feel insane lmao maybe none if this is actually a lie I feel like she could definitely find a reason of why everything actually makes sense and that I’m just an asshole for doubting her
I don’t even know a nom asshole way to mention it like “yesterday the call we had I just played along I knew it was fake” sound mean as heel and if she explains and it turns out to be true then irl definitely be a super dick for even questioning her
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(Legal drinking age in my country is 18)
So yesterday she called me pretending to be drunk, i knew it was pretending for many reasons (I’ll list them) it’s not the first time I feel like she pretends/ plays it up but usually I try not to trust my judgment on that cause when she’s drunk I also am so I tell myself “my perception is off cause I’m tipsy” “she’s a lightweight” “maybe she’s a lil drunk but feels drunker cause we’re in a social situation so it could be kinda like placebo” or smth like that
But yesterday it was so obviously a lie
First her voice sounded fake drunk and every once in a while her drunk accent slipped and she sounded normal, I tried to ignore that and just believe her during the whole call but more things came up
She told me she was on the street walking around and ofc I got worried and told her to accept videocall so that I could see where she was and maybe go pick her up or send an Uber or wtv but she suddenly wanted to go to the bathroom and no more than 10 seconds later she had found a bathroom and gotten inside then she accepted video call and it was clearly a house’s bathroom not a public one and during the whole call she left the bathroom once and didn’t turn on the camera and when I asked her to she went back in the bathroom
I very heard her cat meow and she noticed I heard and with a panicked but still drunk pretending voice said “oh a kitty hi kitty” but like ?? It was the type of meow cats make to their owners and she has already send me vids of her cats and they sounded alike
During the conversation she kept telling me that she loves me and that I’m her best friend but she mentioned things that kinda made me feel weird like not only telling me loving things also saying things to make me feel guilty like “I know I’m not your best friend but you’re mine” “I can’t live without you I want you in my life forever” “and that she hates my other friend and yeah things like that
She also told me that she went out because a professor of us offered her a job but that when she got there he offered her something inappropriate and that she punched him and left, I told her to report him and that if she was uncomfortable I’ll report him on my own and she started trying to subtly back out saying things like “no I don’t mean it like that” “he didn’t quite said what I told you” and it felt like she just wanted me to give her empathy but as soon she noticed I was obviously gonna take action on what she said she panicked and tried to back out, when we finished the call she send me an audio sounding 100% sober telling me that “I actually didn’t go with the professor today nothing I said abt him happened lm just bad at telling stories you know that” and a couple seconds after sending me that sober audio she called a mutual friend of ours sounding super drunk again
She latter said that she went drinking with friends and that they let her stranded
She said she was some there that’s 1h40m minimum from her house but somehow got home in like 20 min, while she was calling my friend she told him she was on a car but there was no car sounds or anything
And it’s not the first time things like this happened I usually notice some flaws on her stories or that she tells me a story and then says it again but a lil more exaggerated but it usually doesn’t feel call out worthy
Like another time I drank with her outside uni in out free hour and she acted super weird but not in a drunk way, another one of my friends asked her if she had taken something else and she said coke but the friend and I sided eyed each other and pretty much told her “no definitely not” cause she was acting high not coked out and we asked again and she said weed and that she smoked but she had been with me all day and there’s no was smoked weed takes fucking 3 hours to stat hitting come on if it was an edible maybe I would’ve believed it but it was smoked according to her
It’s not only with substances, sometimes something happens to the both of us and when she says the story to someone else she changes a word or two that to me change the meaning a lot and if I mention it she says “I miss remembered” or “it’s the same thing” or “you know I’m bad at telling stories”
But also Idk if I should mention it like it’s not that harmful so idk if I would be an asshole of I mentioned it, during the call she mentioned that she called me drunk because she knew she wouldn’t be hable to tell me that she really loves me as a friend while sober cause it would be embarrassing so maybe her pretending to be drunk is just a way to tell me things she want to tell me
Like she opened up to me yes while faking drunk but opened up
me saying “I know you played drunk” would hurt her right?
I feel insane lmao maybe none if this is actually a lie I feel like she could definitely find a reason of why everything actually makes sense and that I’m just an asshole for doubting her
I don’t even know a nom asshole way to mention it like “yesterday the call we had I just played along I knew it was fake” sound mean as heel and if she explains and it turns out to be true then irl definitely be a super dick for even questioning her
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What makes her your friend? I missed that in this conversation.
What would be the point of even bringing it up? There’s no good outcome.
Bottom line is you can’t trust somebody who lies like this. Personally, I would either cut the friendship or let it die a slow, organic death as I step away.