Bear with me. I just drank some of my special tea so I’m a little rambly.
I have a weird relationship with my family of origin. At one point, I went NC, but we’ve been texting a lot more since my grandfather died. I live far away from them and try to get them to visit (I visited them the last time), but they make every excuse in the book to cancel plans…
So I know my own family is unreliable, this is something I’ve accepted over time. HOWEVER. when I met my husband, he told me his family was so amazing and so kind, the best family ever, you get the picture.
Now you see where this is going.
There’s been a TON of drama between us and my in-laws. To the point where I’m not talking to them. I think they trigger me because they act similarly (not in a good way) to my own family in ways, and that’s caused us to have so much conflict.
My MIL blocked me after I told her I wouldn’t watch her dogs for 2 weeks without pay. She’s paid several other family members, who have more money then us already, to watch the dogs. I have a shitty apartment I can’t just leave for 2 weeks (we just had a bug infestation), not to mention my husband and I are POOR!!!! Her house is 45 minutes from our work. It’s not like we can just account for that extra gas price as a favor. We are poor.
I called her out on it and she blocked me. Now I feel disillusioned. Why is everyone so shitty like for real.
How do I deal with this disappointment that my “new family” isn’t as great as I once thought.