Few days ago I complimented a senior for being so beautiful and recently I told my frnds about it , they think what I did was cringe and funny but in my perspective I feel like I just gave her a compliment and I didn’t have any bad intentions with it and I feel like it’s not a bad thing to give compliments. Guys I need to hear your opinions on this….
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It’s never a bad thing to give compliments. Sounds like they need to get laid
Don’t let other people steal your joy. You gave a compliment, that’s not a bad thing. Take the free serotonin, it’s hard to come by
Oh they just sound immature. Nothing wrong with giving a compliment. You shouldn’t feel bad for brightening someone’s day
Need opinions about what?? You were being a decent human. Congratulations?
Forget what others think. What did she think or how did she react? If she thought what you said was bad, stand on business with her, and don’t talk to her other than when you have to. Otherwise, keep it to a minimum, until you know for sure she likes you well enough to accept your compliments as they’re intended.
I’m confused , what is there to be concerned about
Sounds your friends are sucky humans.
Be there chronically online or something. Complimenting people is just a normal thing. It’s a good thing especially when it’s not with some sort of intention that could be bad. But even if you compliment someone because you want to be with them that’s not bad either. Not if you’re not pushy and creepy I mean there’s nothing wrong with it.
you are experiencing GILF.
Your friends sound low-quality.
They’re just jealous they didn’t have the balls to talk to her
In today’s world sometimes people just need someone else to make them smile to get through the day.
There is nothing wrong with what you did i even think its such a beautiful gesture and shows how kind hearted you are your friends are immature for thinking that being a nice human being and making others feel good about themselves is cringe
As an older woman I love it! We don’t hear it as much anymore and it’s nice to be noticed. I’m sure you made her day
What’s wrong with making someone smile?
Women are women, no matter the age. They like to be complimented and given attention, especially older women who no longer get that that kind of love. We should compliment middle age to older ladies more. It makes their day.
You gave someone who is over 65 a compliment.
First of all, I don’t understand what difference their age has to do with anything.
So, now with that out of the way, what is the issue?
As a 61 year old woman you would have made my day!
You did nothing wrong. You’re good! 😌
It depends. A senior citizen or a high school senior? The first is nice
and probably made her day, the second…not so much. 😅
Don’t let their thoughts into your head brother. Ignore them. This world needs more people like you🫂
Good on you.. be yourself. They’re probably over thinking it. Its never cringe to oay a compliment
Did you mean it? Was it sincere? If so, you did good. A genuine word of praise is appreciated and can reassure and motivate.
Or were you pandering with a poor motive? Only you know the answer. If kindness was your goal, then don’t sweat what your peers say about it.
Absolutely nothing wrong with what you did. Don’t let your insecure friends lower your vibe.
No you dont
No that is absolutely a great compliment. Also, as a 25 year old, ive absolutely given seniors compliments for being beautiful or in great shape and meant every bit of it
It does depend a little bit on context and what the compliment was. “Hi, I thought the way you handled the conversation with grace was amazing, your smile on stage really lite up the room” vs ” your tits look great from below”.
Context matters. 😅
Cringe is made up by insecure and unhappy people. Literally. Unless something you do is harming someone else then they should shut the hell up. Compliments without expectation of reciprocation are such a lovely gift
every day you make someone smile, it comes back to you 3 fold. keep telling the world she is beautiful.
Are you serious? You really don’t know the answer to that? Here’s my advice-get better friends. How old are you?
This is societal decline. Everything has to be sexual. Nothing can just be good and wholesome. If we can’t be nice to be people without it being suspicious, then let the population decline continue. It’ll be OK if the worldwide population declines to nothing. No big loss.
I am old enough but the other day I saw an older man in the supermarket, he was really nicely dressed up, I was with my husband, I didn’t compliment the man but noticed he had a thread in his overcoat. I walked up and trying to signal we didn’t want his looks being ruined by a thread hanging from his overcoat, made sure he took care of it. He smiled very pleased.
Costs nothing to be kind!
We need the quote. Delivery is often where the creepiness is imparted.
it’s not you, it’s your friend
This is from a senior, there is nothing wrong in complimenting a person old or young. You probably made her day.
Your compliment might have just made that person’s day, month, or even a year. Keep being a kind, bright and compassionate soul, the world needs more of you!
I make a point to compliment others as often as I can. If someone reacts badly to a nice thing you did, that’s on them. Keep being nice, you could change someone’s day! ❤️
They sound immature.
I’m in my 50’s and was complimented at a restaurant only moments ago. They said I was beautiful. Made my year! Praise you for your kind compliment to the woman.
The senior should have thanked you. Just curious what the compliment was.
Good on you, I never had the steal to do so. I’m sure you made her day. Who wouldn’t be happy to hear that?
It depends on how you say it. But what you look like and the perception people have of you. If you are a male, this is important. You do not compliment a female on her looks, no matter how sincere it is. And the more professional the relationship is, compliments must solely based on their actions.
The best kind of compliment:
You have a very attractive female collegue. You also look pretty decent. You never mention her looks. But she has made a great document, you can compliment that and the effort she put in.
Worst kind of compliment:
You are a male. You are not attractive. Therefore, an average female do not find you attractive at all. And you tell a female that you think she is beautiful. This will reflect very poorly, and creepy.
Beautiful people can be old people. Many of the most distinguished and wise attributes people can have don’t show themselves until people have a lot of life experience. Additionally, with the obsession with youth in our culture, it’s important to give people those compliments who deserve them. Obviously, you are young, but it truly is fleeting, and particularly in the US our priorities are just so messed up. Your friends are just immature, but you should continue to be a good example for them.
Your “friends” are just to scared and would never have the balls to do that themselves.
So they try to shame you for it to make themselves feel better. You did good and i bet that person had a great day because of it.
Was this on a boat in Galveston or at a restaurant in Los Algondones or at the hot springs in Cali? I’ve had several young people come up to me and tell me I’m beautiful. I’m F64 and yes it absolutely makes my day.
Maybe they’re just giving you a hard time
Complimenting looks is always a minefield of dynamics. She’s a senior, but what are you? A teacher? That’s bad. A junior, that’s cute and bold.
How did she react? That’s all that matters. Your friends have no clue as to the context.
If she recoiled yes man you fucked up and should interrogate your own ass. If she beamed she beamed. You are right with the world.
Idk why people find everything cringe nowadays. This is not cringe at all. Your one compliment must have made her day. Appreciation i guess is a basic need. And complimenting people shows how much empathy you have. It’s good. You did right. No cringe, not funny. She would be having a good day afterwards. Thank you for showing the kindness the world needs. Already people are so much insecure about their physical appearance.
Nothing cringe about complimenting someone! Especially strangers. Who knows dhe couldve been on the edge and only needed hear something nicegood for you kid! I tell people all the time if i think theyre pretty ir good looking, dmell nice! I always appreciate when people smell nice!
If you don’t shoot you will never score
Regardless of how your friend’s felt, if the senior enjoyed your compliment, then you are guilty of absolutely nothing.
I like to give random compliments. Usually about an article of clothing, but I’ve compliment a server on beautiful fingernails, and someone waiting in line at the bank of her hair (OMG, curls, colour!). I imagine you made that senior’s day. She will feast on that compliment for month’s to come.
I have really bad social anxiety and one of the things that I’ve done to work on it is by giving compliments to people that meet randomly. It makes everyone feel good at the end of the day. Your friends sound a bit immature, and I hope you don’t let them influence you into stop giving compliments in the future. Those little interactions can really make a person’s day.
That probably made her smile all day:)
Think for yourself kid peer pressure is a universal experience don’t cave to it
Yo truthmaker I for one feel your anxiety. I was at a polling place voting recently and there was this senior lady who had this absolutely beautiful full head of grey or white hair. She initiated a round of small talk as we were waiting on an open desk. I was before her but at some point she caught up to me as I was about to leave when I said Ma’am you have such beautiful hair.” She said “Thank you.”
Once I was in my car leaving I started to question if I should have paid the compliment. I think about that time on the rare occasion but reading some of the comments make me feel good by my compliment. This was a populated environment (lots of other people were around-but it was not like I said it loud enough for others to hear or run the risk of embarrassing her. I certainly wasn’t being cringey or threatening. I was the utmost respectful in paying a genuine compliment. But sometimes you never know how the other person might receive or not your kindness. Tbh & with all that being said I’m rather hesitant in doing that in the future.
I do it every day of my life, it always brings a smile to my face.
People don’t give enough compliments anymore. We’ve become so recluse since Covid.
I give compliments all the time. Compliments make people smile.
Just don’t be creepy about it.
there is nothing wrong with you. tbh i adore you for being straight forward..
The world is over. Delete Reddit and delete all your socials. And make sure you bury a bone with a strand of her hair, otherwise she’ll haunt you forever.
People today are so.. weird.. You’re weird for liking something, for not liking something, for talking to people, for complimenting people, for sharing interests, for wearing a certain color clothes, for dancing, for singing, for being happy, for being sad, for talking to people you don’t know, and so much more.
It’s sort of useless to follow other people’s advice nowadays because everyone is in a social hellhole. Good on you for complimenting her.
Your friends are stupid, giving a nice compliment to someone is never cringe. I have told lots of women they are pretty because that is what I thought. I wasn’t trying to get with them or was blowing smoke up their ass. I was giving my honesty opinion and we need more honesty with some kindness in the world
That was very nice.
Never let anyone come to u and not feel better for seeing u
“Your breasts look voluptuous and scrumptious today, my dear”
I love complementing people. Especially folks who probably never receive compliments. It’s always genuine.
Why is kindness a confession. It should be common decency Your friends are cringe not you
Keep making others smile
In complete honesty i would make fun of my friend for that but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with complimenting someone
Nothing wrong with a compliment it’s this entitled BS and what was good is now bad !( Don’t change who you are for anyone ! Being kind is always the right way to be .
Greased wheels work better than sandy ones
Old people like the compliments
Like….a senior in school or a senior citizen? What’s your age compared to her?
Ignore your friends. They are just jealous they don’t have your confidence to speak to people that they find attractive.
I’m 62 and would love if someone complimented me. Also love when called miss instead of mame
Don’t regret it & keep it up! Sounds like you need better friends, they’re obviously jealous. You never know what kinda day someone is having (even the pretty people) & that compliment could really turn their day around. I know cause I’ve had that happen to me.
Dude, cringe is a young people’s word. Most old people (40+) take compliments for what they are. Complements. Ignore your immature friends.
You’re totally fine. You are absolutely right, you simply gave her a compliment and it’s as simple as that. I’m sure the senior girl appreciated it a lot. It’s just immaturity – also in this generation of people being afraid to approach people and speak their minds, it sounds like they’re projecting. They didn’t have the courage to go up to a girl and call her beautiful, so they justify that fact by putting people who do down. It’s a good skill to have, don’t let their immaturity change that about you
If it was a genuine compliment then you have nothing to regret. I’m sure it made her day.
Its not like u stuck around tryna invite her to ur car so na u good u did it genuinely it’s illegal to have sexual implications/motives but speaking is nothing wrong as a conversation
Nothing wrong what so ever. You have nothing to regret.
Nahhh don’t let some negative jealous wankers stop you from making others feel good about themselves.
I would do the same. Tell those fools to mind their own. It’s not like you were being out of line, and you probably made someone’s day.
don’t even bother to think that you are wrong, in fact you are brave for giving compliments, many people has a hard time complimenting people.
I’m a senior and it always brightens my day when I receive a compliment. That’s why I’m not stingy with them.
Need to know exactly what you said to know if they’re right or not.
Who gives a shit. I compliment people all the time, if I can see they’ve put effort into something. Local checkout girl does something new with her hair, random dude on the street has triceps for days, whatever. A simple comment like that can boost someone’s mood and it’s harmless.
That senior probably smiled for the rest of the day, and probably will every time she thinks about it
Your friends are stupid.
Continue to hangout with friends like that, immature, unable to recognize beautiful and truth, you will be degraded, not upgraded.
Famous saying goes, show me your friends and will show your future.
You should deeply ponder on this.
Now, you don’t even know what you did is right or wrong. That’s the level you are right now because of your friends.
Depends on context. Generally it’s better to compliment other things like fashion or character over looks. It means you don’t come across as coming on to her either… unless that was your intention?
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Love the divide between people who are assuming you mean a senior citizen and people who are assuming you mean a senior in high school (or college).
For the record, if you said it sincerely and with no hidden agenda (you weren’t trying to get something in return), I think it’s a totally fine thing to do.
Think about how you feel when you get a compliment. It makes you happy and brightens your day.
I try to sincerely compliment at least one person a day – to make their day. I love your hair, your shoes are so cute, that shirt looks good on you…
It’s a good thing, definitely not cringe.
Don’t feel bad at all. I believe that you complimented her truthfully and that’s no negative at all. Our good natured seniors deserve our care and attention and surely your words made her day at least a bit better.
Bro it doesn’t matter your friends are prolly nerds that don’t even talk to girls just keep calling them beautiful
What? Sounds like you’re a kind soul who just wanted to complimented someone. Honestly you could have made her day better, we never know what kind of day anyone’s having. So logical speaking if she was having a bad day and you giving her that compliment, you made a day a little bit better. Your friends are very immature. Stay kind, friend!
I personally love complimenting people, it always makes them smile