I hooked up with this guy that I see from time to time, shitty personality, big d. We finish then I run into my dumbass first ex (I was 16 he was 24 but that’s normal in the balkans) that thinks I still love him. He was drunk n started groping me so now I feel like a hoe. Any tips on how to not feel shitty? Because he started telling me he got muuuch hotter girls bleh blah blah when I turned him down. Like ik you’re drunk but for gods sake you can’t grope me in public, even if no one is there? Goddamn I feel filthy. I feel like it’s my damn fault cuz when we broke up years ago I was bat shit crazy about him and even after, I’d let him use me. Btw, I’m a diagnosed nymphomaniac, along with bpd. Any tips on how to become normal functioning human that doesn’t crave sex to feel validated?
TL:DR I fucked up by hooking up with a guy, then encountering my ex after
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I don’t have any tips but I’ll be honest, it doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. We’ve all had our days when we feel a little dirty. The second guy sounds like a piece of shit, you’re better off babes.
You’re not a ho. Your ex sexually assaulted you while drunk.
Work on that self-esteem. You’re worth more than you think.
You said it yourself diagnosed nympho + bpd
you either go full celibate or you will repeat this cycle, drop the shame and live it to the fullest try not to lie or hurt anyone or get stds and understand you are not going to be wife material
not normal at all in the balkans lol. Reddit can’t help you, seek professional help if you really have bpd
You didn’t fuck up.
Your ex sexually assaulted you, and that is not your fault.
>Btw, I’m a diagnosed nymphomaniac, along with bpd
This is over Reddit’s pay grade. Please get professional help, and don’t read any of your DMs for the next week or so.
Stop hooking up with assholes… That’ll help. Make nice friends that you actually like, and fuck them instead. Don’t try to be monogamous if you can’t manage it. Make that clear to people you want to fuck. If they show they can’t handle it, cut them out. You don’t often hear the diagnosis of nymphomaniac these days, and I would say it’s kind of an outdated term. Sex is a way that we comfort ourselves and an important part of human interaction for most people.
Maybe try to find some sex clubs in your area? Could be worth looking into if you need an outlet.
And oh yeah, your oh boyfriend sexually assaulted you. You have nothing to feel guilty about there. He’s a huge creep and should be avoided.