I don’t know if this totally counts as I’m not fully confirmed infertile, but have struggled for years with pregnancy. When I was about 22/23, I went to an OBGYN and was told the chances of me getting pregnant are “slim to none, and that’s optimistic” because of my PCOS and severe irregular periods. I went home and told my (now ex) fiance what was said, and his response was “well if you can’t have kids then what good are you to me?”. Needless to say this was a very emotionally abusive relationship and the struggle of my inability to get pregnant weighed heavily on us and genuinely hurt me deeply.
Now years later, my husband embraces the possibility we’ll never have kids. Even though we both would love to have biological children and I’d love to experience pregnancy, we’re both open to potentially adopting or just enjoying life as the two of us and adopting a shit ton of cats to spoil. With the right person, it’s taught me to not only find joy and acceptance with the things I can’t change, but it’s helped me to love my husband even more knowing whatever happens, he’s here to love and support me. With the wrong relationship it made things so much worse and was truly traumatic to deal with daily.
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I don’t know if this totally counts as I’m not fully confirmed infertile, but have struggled for years with pregnancy. When I was about 22/23, I went to an OBGYN and was told the chances of me getting pregnant are “slim to none, and that’s optimistic” because of my PCOS and severe irregular periods. I went home and told my (now ex) fiance what was said, and his response was “well if you can’t have kids then what good are you to me?”. Needless to say this was a very emotionally abusive relationship and the struggle of my inability to get pregnant weighed heavily on us and genuinely hurt me deeply.
Now years later, my husband embraces the possibility we’ll never have kids. Even though we both would love to have biological children and I’d love to experience pregnancy, we’re both open to potentially adopting or just enjoying life as the two of us and adopting a shit ton of cats to spoil. With the right person, it’s taught me to not only find joy and acceptance with the things I can’t change, but it’s helped me to love my husband even more knowing whatever happens, he’s here to love and support me. With the wrong relationship it made things so much worse and was truly traumatic to deal with daily.