I have to admit this is all my fault. I 24f chose a horrible young boy (25m) to be her father and it has led us to homelessness. I met him when I was only 18 and he was 19. We grew very close during Covid when my mother was dying and my father remarried and abandoned my younger brother and I. After being removed from my college dorm during the pandemic, I returned home to chaos including my middle school age brother suffering from neglect. I got a full time job, as a manager at my local dollar store to feed us both while still nursing my mother. I was exhausted each day and my bf was an outlet. I got pregnant after about a year and we’ve been together for five long years and I regret meeting him. He lived with me at my apartment off lease for 2 years and I kicked him out after seeing infidelity. Years later my daughter and I are facing homelessness and he has chosen not to help. Tommorow I am packing for the shelter because it is my only choice. I feel like a failure to my happy, unknowing toddler but I will make better decisions in the future for us both. It devastates me that my judgment is so poor that I let this happen to us.
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Everything will be okay. Hang in there. Sometimes starting from scratch is the best thing that can happen to us
Your happy toddler knows you love and care for them, even during the chaos. That’s more than a lot of people get, unfortunately. You can’t control everything.
YOU TRY THE BEST YOU CAN!!
I totaly understand that you’r hard on your self. It is easy to do so. But please my dear it is a harsh and tough world out there. You did not pick your starting place in life.
I love that you have a vision of a greater future. It will surely come!
And for your kid. The ONLY thing kids NEED and WANT from their parents is connection. Even though ur in a tough spot with money now. Dont hate on your self if you cant buy all things for ur kid. If you have time for kid and listen to your kid ans validate their emotions thats all a kid needs to be happy with the relationship to the parent.
Keep fighting!!
Good things said in the comments already. You’ll get through this and you’ve been through worse. All I’ll add is that the second you get to the shelter, ask to talk to a case worker. Single moms who are homeless go to the top of the list for housing and social support. Ask all the questions you can, fill out every assistance form possible, and advocate for yourself if you have to. If you’re in America – TANF, SNAP, utility help, daycare assistance and Medicaid. I was homeless before too as a man without kids. Even the housing list for that group was short and we weren’t priority.
You have been through a lot and persevered and you will again. Be glad you have the option of a Shelter not all places have a shelter. Good luck for a speedy comeback
I didn’t know how poor my single mom was when I was little. I only knew the love and happiness that we had together.
That being said: you need to sue him for child support. Even if he doesn’t pay it, the government will keep his tax returns, and that’s something
Thrower him out and now your alone? That’s kinda how it works. Get rid of the guy and he’s no longer around. Your decisions lead to this. I believe you will learn from this and that’s part of life. Kids are resilient so they won’t fret much as long as your motivated.
Look forward and don’t regret the past. You have a little girl who loves you unconditionally. You’re very smart for not being with that ex. So I think you’re on a better trajectory even if it doesn’t seem like it now.
You cared for your mom, your brother, and your baby and you’re so young! That shows a strength and integrity in you! You’re smart and you can do this. 🌹🪷🌺🌺🌺🌸🌷🌻
How is it on him that you’re facing homelessness?
… can I tell you that that baby grrl is going to be ok! she’s gonna know the truth, children do, I promise. I had two by the same standards and he was abusive in every way you can be abusive. I’m not gonna lie, it’s scary. And we’ve had to stay hidden from my ex. But at 18 I tole both my kids the could find him, but that he was a bad guy. I’m happy to report they want nothing to do with him and they’re 24 & 25 this year with my almost one year old grandbaby. kids know the truth, even when they seem like they hate you. I really wish you the very best of everything for you and your lil’ grrl. She’s gonna see her mama working for her. I know it’s hard for a grrl not to have a daddy, but mebbe one day you’ll meet a great man that’ll step up. I was lucky enuf to have my father help me with mine. If you Need to talk or any questions, please reach out. Staying for the kids is no longer acceptable if you’re doing it essentially save you and her .. 💚💚💚
You can’t change the past so all you can do is focus on the future. You’re going to make every dream your daughter has, a reality. Make a plan, set realistic goals, and make em happen. Remember, your daughter is watching and you won’t let her down.
it’s time to sue for child support