my (19f) mom (36f) is disabled and i work as her home nurse(spoiler: i hate it). I’ve been her nurse for about a year on paper. Unofficially, I’ve done this my whole life. Not only have i been her nurse, but I’ve also been: her unofficial therapist , her marriage counselor, Her self appointed best friend and a third parent for my three other siblings.and its nice to get paid for things im already doing she doesn’t take me(or this job) seriously . Im going to be honest. i dont really care if i live in this house anymore.
It’s a nightmare to wake up and pretend i care about what she’s saying. Half of it is hypocrisy, and the other are subtle digs at my weight or complaints about her life. Im tired of hearing about how she shouldn’t have married my stepdad or how she wants to live alone( she can walk and needs help for pretty much everything. ). Im tired of having to disapine and parent her children. Im tired, and i want to move out.
I have virtually no saving she refuses to take me off her credit card which is totally fucking my credit sideways btw. And with all the other shit (which she orchestrated) that lead to me taking this job. Im losing my fucking mind and scared one day i just wont wake up. I don’t what to do .i dont why i feel like this . what i do know is that my mom had some part in it and for that i hate her.
[Im on mobile so sorry for any formatting errors. Also sorry for the rant . I do feel better though 🙂 ]
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You have to change this. You are only 19 years old. This is not the way to live your life. How did she get on your credit cards? You do whatever it takes by either closing them or whatever. You need your credit. You have to put yourself first. Your mom and the kids are not your responsibility. If she can’t take care of herself then she goes to a home. You must start to live your own life. Your mom is not your responsibility. You know there is a way out. Where is your extended family and where is the dads?
I’m so sorry you are having to endure this. Why is it that your mom needs a home car nurse? Could you explain the abusive situation to the ones that pay as her nurse ?
Try to get off the credit cards and simply leave. You’re not her servant or slave. You don’t have to endure this any longer.
So, number one is to report the credit card as fraudulent. Number two is to contact 211 and see what services, if any, are available for someone in your situation. There may be pro-bono legal aid, shelters, places to connect you to a job or better-paying job, etc.
You deserve safety and care.
I had to be my own mother very young. I know a lot of us have, and I think a lot of us here would be more than willing to help step in where another parent has failed, too. My DMs are open.
Call the credit bureau tell them she added you to the cards you JUST became aware she DIDNT have your permission and you want to be REMOVED!!! Get a copy of your credit report and anything that shouldn’t be there report as FRAUD!!
Tell her you’re no longer giving her half your check and if she doesn’t like it find another aid. She may put you out but you have to be prepared for that
Call the credit bureau tell them she added you to the cards you JUST became aware she DIDNT have your permission and you want to be REMOVED!!! Get a copy of your credit report and anything that shouldn’t be there report as FRAUD!!
Tell her you’re no longer giving her half your check and if she doesn’t like it find another aid. She may put you out but you have to be prepared for that
If you’re her home nurse you’re getting paid.
Start saving as much as possible and get the hell out of there.