I don’t think ive ever had an orgasm, unless i have and i just don’t know what it feels like, i’ve been fingered by other people before but its never orgasmic, or i don’t think so, but whenever i do it myself i can never orgasm and ive tried looking up some techniques but it just doesn’t work like it feels good but i don’t feel turned on and looking at pictures or imagining scenarios doesn’t work either so pls help
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Most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone. My recommendation would be to stop trying it. Instead, play around with what feels enjoyable when it comes to your clitoris.
If you’re looking for more specific advice: take all four fingers and rub small circles on your vulva. Move your hand placement around and adjust speed/pressure based on what feels best to you. Generally as you get closer to orgasm, you will speed up and increase pressure. No fingering/penetration necessary.
Fingering isn’t really the best way to orgasm, the little bony things just don’t do much for the average woman. Best plan is to find a cheap vibrator like a bullet vibe and explore with that.
Have you tried a vibrator?
🖕✌️🖖✊️ hope this helps
Like others mentioned, start by playing with your outer parts. Don’t set expectations for an orgasm, just plan to explore and find the places that feel best for you. Try gently drinking outside and don’t try hard to come up with fantasies. Usually they come organically as you go. For others, they don’t fantasize at all and are completely present. For now, focus on being present, because you are just exploring yourself. Most women find the clitoris to be the most pleasurable part to touch. Some prefer areas adjacent to it, maybe just above or just below. Just give gentle touches and see how you respond. You’ll find the rhythm, pressure, and direction you like by trying different ways of touching as you go. And as you get better at it, the orgasms will get better too. If you have one, you’ll know it.
Personally I find fingering to be supplemental to clitoral stimulation. The more aroused I am by clitoral stimulation, the better fingering feels. But by no means will I have an orgasm from fingering, whether by myself or others.
It sounds to me like you’re just a bit nervous, have maybe set expectations too high in the wrong place, and maybe have been taught by porn unrealistic ideas about how things are “supposed” to feel. If I’m unaroused (let’s say it’s time for a pap smear at the OBGYN) then touching my vagina is no different than touching my elbow. According to porn, those horrid tongs and swab should give me an instant orgasm lol. Porn is entertainment, not education. Unfortunately a lot of the “how to find the g spot” or “how to finger f***” are bs imho. It looks good on camera, and the girls are experts at faking orgasms. But don’t take those “instructional” videos too seriously.
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Good luck to you. Just be patient with yourself and don’t overthink. Stick to clitoral stimulation for now.
https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/how-to-masturbate-for-women
So, tbh I have no fkn clue, don’t really hook up with females. But! I just listened to a gnarly girls podcast on Spotify and the entire episode was about female orgasm and they posted it on there how to do it! Hope that helps 🤟🤘🫡💁♂️
i have never been fingered or fingered myself cause when I try it hurts badly so then I cant even but a finger in there so could someone help