Throw away account… This happened yesterday. I (18M) walked into my tinder matches (18F) job. We matched friday night, so a little over 2 days ago. We’ve been dming on instagram and I feel like its been going pretty ok. I know its really early and Its kind of hard to tell over text so im not entirely certain how shes feeling but we did talk about date ideas so i think thats a good sign!! I really enjoy talking to her though. I dont know her much but i can tell shes really amazing and talented and id really like to get to know her more.
Anyway, saturday night we were talking about where we live and where she works, a coffee shop in a major city about 20 minutes from me. Yesterday (sunday) morning my dad invited me to drive to said city (we go there a lot) with my family. Literally the whole drive there i was thinking about how crazy it would be to run into her, but the city is pretty big so the chances were so slim. After we did everything we needed to my sister really wanted to get coffee so we walked to the closest coffee shop. I didnt look at the sign when i came in and i was standing in there for a good two minutes before i realized the sign on the wall above the counter with the name. I immediately got kinda nervous and started looking around for her and lo and behold she was right there. I have very bad anxiety and id been overthinking about this happening all day and then it did, and in probably the worst place. I made eye contact with her like 3 times before telling my sister i was gonna wait in the car. I left the cafe and called my friend and she hyped me up to go back in there and so i went back in like 2 minutes later and introduced myself. I think i hid my anxiety well enough but i was definitely super awkward… I thought i totally embarrassed myself but she dmed me like 30 minutes later saying how crazy it was to see me. I messaged her back when i got home about an hour and a half later basically saying the same thing.
She hasnt responded to that since. I dont know if im overthinking this but im worried she might think im like a creep. I dont want her thinking theres some tinder guy stalking her and showijg up to her work lol. Its the fact that she literally told me where she worked the night before thats really worrying me. I enjoy talking to her a lot and would love to get to know her more, but im worried this horrible coincidence ruined it. Can i clear this up? Or given it the benefit of the doubt that shes been busy, should i just give it time? How much time?? I feel really bad about the whole situation.
TL;DR Matched with a girl on tinder, she told me where she works and the next day i coincidentally went there.
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She’s definitely not going to believe it was a coincidence.
Oh young grasshopper, you have so much to learn. Don’t worry, this is part of the process.
All good brother, you’re golden, let it flow from here on out.
Tell. Her. The. Truth.
Communication is the key.
Just show her this post and see how she replies.
fumbled that one pretty good, she thinks you are a stalker now 😀
“Can I clear this up”
Dude, there is only one way to find out. Tell her the truth (assuming you’re telling us the truth). Communication is key. And if she is weirded out and doesn’t want to continue chatting with you, then you have your answer and you both move on.
I had something similar (but weirder) happen while on a trip in Colombia. Matched with a girl in the evening, we started chatting and unfortunately it turned out we were both leaving Medellin the next day, so we didn’t make any plans to meet up.
When I got to the airport the next day, I was still texting her waiting for my flight and then I saw her. Just messaged her “turn around” and when she saw me she couldn’t believe it. We had a good laugh and grabbed coffee while waiting for our flights, then kept in touch over the next few days and met up in another city.
She might or might not believe it was a coincidence that you walked into her place of work, but if she does like you (which is the important part) there’s no reason for her to think you’re a creep, so I wouldn’t overthink it. Just play it off and see how it goes.
I had to read the post to understand the title. Sometimes apostrophes are important.