More venting. I recently went to a family event after many months and I got a comment from an aunt saying that I looked much nicer fuller. I was immediately in shock. I have never gotten a comment like that before. I have always been a bit curvy, but I will admit that I have gained some weight in medical school. I am now graduating this week. I know that I have gained weight and it is something that I am a bit ashamed and embarrassed about. I just didnt think I would get a comment about it, positive or negative, as I would not go up to someone and comment about their weight. My weight has bothered me for some time now and I have been working on it with my diet and have been losing some weight, but it is a slow process.
After that day, I just cried and cried. I have issues with my body and the way I view my body, so that comment just sent me over the edge. (the other day I was asked if I would exchange my brain for my body, and I said I would. It makes me sad that truthfully I would exchange my brain that worked so hard and earned a doctorate for a thinner body, but it is honestly how I feel.)
I basically messaged my aunt after saying that I didn’t really appreciate the comment eventhough I know it came from a positive point and had no harmful intent. My mom basically thinks that I blew up a bomb by messaging my aunt that, but I feel that I did not say anything disrespectful and am only setting boundaries.
Was I in the wrong for messaging my aunt?