Would it bother you if a woman you found attractive called you bud or buddy? What has a woman called you that bothered you?

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I was seeing this guy for awhile and we decided to just be friends. I was really excited about something so I called him dude or bro and he got really offended. I was confused because he was the one who broke things off.

Comments

  1. Trapezoidal_Sunshine Avatar

    Yes, if I was interested in her. Women who like you romantically / sexually don’t refer to you with friend words. I’d assume she isn’t interested in me and move on. If she was just my friend, then I wouldn’t care. Your friend hasn’t moved on.

  2. Coakis Avatar

    I wouldn’t be offended but yes, cause it would signify I had no chance with her.

    As for your dude, if you two had already broke it off, being called bud shouldn’t have been any cause for contention. If he’s still into you and you’re not then that’s also a bad thing.

  3. hujambo11 Avatar

    That boy is dramatic.

  4. Gr8WB Avatar

    I call everyone dude/bro including women I’ve dated, that’s just the way I talk. But BUDDY? Yeah that would hurt if it wasn’t said sarcastically.

  5. UseenForeseeness Avatar

    If a woman called me by friendly rather than loving and endearing nicknames, especially if we havent been together long i’d assume i was either being led on or that i misinterpreted her signals and that’s her sign of making it clear lol

  6. DauntlessBadger Avatar

    My GF (future wife) calls me dude sometimes. It’s a 90s thing.

    Because I’m a dude, she’s a dude, and we’re all dudes.

  7. Sea_Poppy Avatar

    From a guy, “bud” or “buddy” sounds like they’re antagonizing me. From a gal, frankly, it comes off like she’s baby talking me as if I’m intellectually disabled.

  8. Master-Wrongdoer853 Avatar

    Nothing bothers me.

    My wife said when she called other guys “bro” it shook them up, and they got insecure. I thought it was hilarious myself.

  9. green_meklar Avatar

    Not really. It’s a bit strange but might just be her own quirky way of speaking, as different people do after all have different speaking styles and favored vocabulary. I wouldn’t read too much into it.

  10. BasebornBastard Avatar

    I think a woman calling me bud, buddy, or bro is weird. But I also dislike it when guys use that on me.

  11. Dontneedflashbro Avatar

    I wouldn’t make a big deal about it, but I’d tell her not to call me names like bud. Being called that by a lady isn’t my style.

  12. NJPims Avatar

    To me, buddy is what your parents call you as a kid, and what you call your dog. Anything other than that is demeaning/belittling and indicative of a lack of respect. HOWEVER: getting called dude/bro from a girl you like hurts, but it’s not the same thing as bud/buddy. Guys call other guy friends ‘bro’. Relationships with girls you’re attracted to are rarely the ‘bro’ kind, but at least ‘bro/dude’ isn’t hurtful in and of itself.

  13. Em1-_- Avatar

    >What has a woman called you that bothered you?

    Ugly ass nagger“, but with an i.

  14. JustBrowsing49 Avatar

    Anyone calling me bud or buddy would bother me. Where I’m from, that’s an insult akin to asshole. “Hey buddy! What the fuck you lookin at!”