This is inspired by the comments of another post I saw recently, but do women REALLY think that attractive women are the only ones who face sexual harassment and assault? It seems to be a real issue in this sub, something I noticed recently but looked through a few posts and saw the same pattern over and over again. It’s insane to me. I’m not going to get into the conversation of pretty privilege, or if being attractive is a con, but it really does concern me that so many people respond to people who are insecure about their appearance by saying “atleast you don’t get harassed/assaulted!”. Like, no? Men prey on vulnerable people. Children, elderly, disabled and more often than not, ugly people. It’s really frustrating as someone who also isn’t the most attractive but has experienced assault and harassment, including linked to my appearance as mockery, that I should be “grateful” for my appearance because this will never happen to me. It’s ignorant and honestly feeds into misogyny
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People associate sexual harassment and even rape with desirability. It’s why when I was a teenager I never reported the sexual harassment I suffered from a boy that was higher on the social ladder than me, because nobody would believe me, and he knew that.
I hope nobody thinks that, because it’s nonsense.
The morgues hire men and they fuck the corpses. The hospital hires men and they rape people in a coma. The nursing home hires men and they rape little old ladies in their eighties.
Sadly you do not have to look any which way to be assaulted. You don’t even have to be alive.
Ive heard that from men but not from women (though internalised misogyny is a thing so im not surprised).
Looking it at it logically, what’s attractive to me isnt always the same with what’s attractive to you, so different people find different ppl attractive. Also, harassment isnt only about attractiveness but about opportunity, vulnerability and reaction.
So it just doesnt make sense to think that only attractive women get harassed.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! I, a “mowgli ass motherfucker”, am worth following to my car! Why just last month I was percieved as both a wolf whistle worthy woman AND a fat bitch / slut (don’t remember which)! By the same person nonetheless!
No, it’s a lie perpetrated by mostly men to victim blame, to provide them with insults for women they don’t find attractive and quite possibly has been absorbed by some women as internalised misogyny. However, our own experiences should quickly put that notion to bed. I would imagine that most if not all women have experienced at the very least some type of creepy male behaviour by the age of 11 or 12. My friends and I aged 11 were flashed at on the way to swimming lessons with our school group, for instance, and it certainly wasn’t because we were “attractive”.
I’ve never heard a woman say something like this.
I have heard a man say someone was flattering herself by discussing her fears of being raped, though.