One moment I want to be a whore and get fudke by as many as possible(Hot ones not everyone )and next moment I want a monogamous relationship and cute kids. I don’t know what to do. Give me advices and opinions on that.
Edit: I am a gay/bi guy in mid 20s
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My only advice is to pick one and stick with it but don’t try mixing the two. People get hurt. The fall out is real. A lifetime of suffering isn’t worth 5 minutes of fun. sometimes not even five minutes sometimes just looking for fun or talking about it can cause all that hurt. Sometimes you can be in a monogamous relationship and thin swinging is a good idea. It’s really not. So.. yeah just pick a lifestyle that’d make you feel happier than the other and live with that choice. But I get your dilemma. I really do.
One word: ENM. (Ok it’s actually three words)
Traditionally, you enjoy your freedom and do your exploration during your youth, and then settle down with the partner you decide on in a monogamous relationship, and have kids with them. Those early-life forays were often jokingly called “sowing your wild oats” (hopefully those oats did not sprout into children)!
DO both?
Monogamy isn’t the only way. Plenty of happily partnered folks are in open relationships, or swingers, or poly…
Find someone as freaky as you.
I’m happily married with cute kids and we have a wild sexual connection. We’re monogamous, so that doesn’t include fucking other people, but we are not at alllll bored with our sex life. It’s just about finding someone you’re sexually compatible with.
I struggled with that and never figured out the answer until I met the woman I wanted to settle down with. There wasn’t anything I could do to talk myself into monogamy until I met her. At that point, I didn’t have to talk myself into anything, I was just done playing the field and wanted to spend forever with her.I don’t think it’s so much of a self peptalk as it is finding the right one.