I’m 17 and it’s the first time I’ve liked someone. I genuinely just love everything about her even the bad things and I would love to date her but she just got out of a 4 year relationship and she doesn’t want any “attachments”. I know she’s talking to other people but I really don’t care. She said that she finds me attractive and that we have great chemistry and that It would just be fun and not serious. But I don’t want that. She took my first kiss and now she’s sexting really hard and I’m obviously enjoying it but I dont want us just to be fuck buddies. She said that she wouldn’t date anyone for the next 2 years. We work together so if I break this off I’ll still see her and I know in person I could never not love her. She genuinely seems interested in me, she let’s me rant and just stares at me like she’s never seen anything better. Half of me wants to be that relationship because I genuinely like her and the other half doesn’t want it because it’s not the relationship I want to have? Do I stay or go?
Do I give up or stay? Kinda long
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Ah, the classic ‘do I stay or do I go’ dilemma! It’s like being stuck between a rock and a hard place, except the rock is your heart and the hard place is… well, her texting you in ways that would make Shakespeare blush.
If you’re looking for something serious and she’s not ready for that, it might be worth considering if staying in this situation is going to make you happy in the long run. Sometimes, taking a step back can help you see things more clearly. Remember, your feelings matter too! You deserve a relationship where both people are on the same page.
If you stay you’re in for a world of hurt. It sucks but I think you should go.
the innocence and naivety of being young, but with that being said there’s always a chance you could reconnect in the future. shoot your shot, but still live your life, if they want you in it they’ll make sure you are. other than that, do you booboo.
If you want more than just fun and she’s made it clear she doesn’t, staying will only hurt you more. It’s okay to walk away from something that doesn’t match your heart, even if it’s hard
Tell her “ I like you, I want something official” and see her answer and how you feel it with it. She completely deny and you feel bad? Distance now. She is not sure and you don’t feel that bad, maybe talk to other people too, she’s not the only one and apparently you’re not the only one for her too. She says she needs time and you feel with hope, maybe stay a little bit more.
I agree with most others that you should stay if only for the experience. Love lost is better than no love. You gotta put yourself out there to experience it all. Remember, if she does hurt you, she’s just releasing you back out into the wild. It’s all good.