Hi all, I (m28) and “Jenny” (f25) had a drunken one night stand around 5 months ago at an event.
I don’t know Jenny well, I met her that night at the party. And I know for a fact I wasn’t the only person she f*cked that night.
She’s recently contacted me (the first time I’ve heard from her since that party, she found me on instagram.) And told me she’s pregnant.
She is quite far along. So the dating makes sense to me. However, like I said, I know I wasn’t the only one that night. So I’m slightly skeptical if I’m the dad. I’ve told her I want a DNA test, and she’s not 100% happy about me asking for one. She’s also been asking me for things, money for baby stuff and whatnot, which I’ve declined, she also offered for me to go with her for a scan she was having, which I also declined, because I don’t know if this child is mine!?
She’s making my life a little difficult, and part of me does feel bad for her. But I feel like im making the right call? Would you agree? Is there anything I should differently? Any advice you can give? Thanks.
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It is perfectly reasonable to ask for a paternity test before doing anything. If she really thought you were the father, she should be fine with that.
What ever you do don’t sign the birth certificate till u get the dnd test
You are. Wait until the baby is born, get a DNA test and see where you stand. Did you use a condom?
I think she should understand that you dont want to be in this position any more than she does. Do not give her a single penny until a paternity test is done. It’s not being mean. It’s protecting you. Even if you didn’t know she slept with others, it’s always good to be sure. If she doesn’t want a test, then wait till its born and legally you dont owe her for anything until a test is done and something is set in place by the courts in terms of child support and custody.
You don’t know eachother well enough, so yes, it makes perfect sense to want a paternity test.
Yes I think you are making right call. But be prepared to take responsibility, when you find out that you are infact the father.
Give her nothing until you know your that 100% the dad.
Even if you have too pay for the test it’s better to know. It’ll put your mind at ease
Absolutely no further conversation with her unless she’s contacting you to agree to a DNA test. Any contact she makes that is NOT an agreement to a DNA test should be replied to with something like “As per my email dated (date), I request a full paternity test to establish my involvement in your pregnancy. Until such time as you agree to this I cannot comment or engage any further.”
The fact that this entirely normal and reasonable request upsets her would be a screaming red flag that you’re just the latest person she’s trying this on with. Why would she even hesitate to agree?
What kind of party was this?
The paternity test is the right thing to do
It starts by knowing. If you are, then it’s between you, her and the laws of your state. If she doesn’t agree, pay nothing.
Don’t spend or give her any money until a DNA test is done and explain that to her. Too many men are being scammed into thinking they have a child out there when they dont
You’re in the right hands down
Stay firm on the DNA test. You have every right to request paternity confirmation before giving support or getting involved.
Assume you are the father and the DNA test proves it. How do you want to approach the next few months while you wait. Reassure Jenny that you will live up to your responsibilities if the child proves to be yours.
I’d contact a lawyer asap to be prepared in case the child is yours as you will have immediate financial responsibility lasting the next 18 years.
If it turns out the child is not yours all this goes away. Be more careful in the future.
But if the child is yours you will be interacting with Jenny regularly for the next 18 years. You don’t want to burn any bridges with how you interact with her.
Do not sign the birth certificate until you are positive it’s your. Otherwise you will be on the hook if baby is not yours.
Condoms, condoms, condoms.
play safe – accidents cause children
Jeez. What a nightmare.
You are making the right calls! Do not do anything until a DNA test is done. This happened to my brother, she was sleeping around but my brother has the most steady and well paying job so she picked him. She never allowed him to do a DNA test when he ask. Years later we find out she knew the actual dad the entire time which was not my brother. Our mom was the idiot that fell for her lies and provided a few things to her 🤣
Agree with what most above are saying. You don’t know if it is yours. But try to keep conversations polite. If it is yours, it will put you in a better position and she won’t have as much potential anger working with you.
Refusal to engage until the DNA test is the leverage you have now. If you surrender it, you’re done. If she’s refusing to the DNA test, that should give you alarm bells.
No dna test no money. You’re doing the right thing. It’s not like this is some long term girlfriend. She’s. A stranger. You’re not obligated to do anything until you know it’s your baby. Idk why she’s asking for things right now anyways. The baby doesn’t need anything rn.
Yes you’re doing right. Don’t give her money or anything until you find out the baby is yours. It was a one night stand.
Tell her to take a NIPP test for DNA before you’ll communicate with her on anything else, and before she can expect anything from you. It’s a simple blood draw from her and a cheek swab from you. The baby’s DNA is in her blood and detectable by about 8 weeks. So, assuming she is 2 months along, ya’ll can do it now. There is no reason anymore, that’s you would have to wait for the baby to be born.
If you weren’t the only one to screw her that night, you have to assume there were other nights with other guys as well. You have to have the results before you get involved.
I’ve been the father a few times, only to learn I wasn’t the father a single time. What I was, was financially stable, and not the only guy they were hitting up for money. I wore a condom with a girl, pulled out, got a BJ for a couple minutes and finished in her mouth, and months later “was the father for sure”. She insisted I was the only guy she had been with in months, when the night we did the deed she was telling me about her other hookups.
Back then fluid had to be drawn from the fetal sac and couldn’t be done until like 13 weeks. A couple of these girls drew all this out until birth. I assumed I wasn’t going to be the father, because I was always careful and they so refused to do testing, but eventually someone needed to be daddy, so tests were done and I was always in the clear.
And I know for a fact I wasn’t the only person she f*cked that night.
Seems like a real prize!! STF away unless DNA says otherwise
Something tells me you know 😂 😅 but nah I’d still want to be 100% positive also if there were others the same night. Maybe you and another dudes nut mixed into a super nut and you both the fathers. Okay but in all seriousness (sorry) you are doing the right thing. Although maybe offer to pay for the DNA test to get things going possibly. I think this should be a lesson either way for you mate. Also try to be easy on the girl it’s probably pretty rough on her as well and I imagine scared and concerned. Explain everything from your side and take responsibility if you need to good luck mate.
First, understand this: she’s in a highly vulnerable state. Pregnancy amplifies hormonal shifts, often overwhelming her ability to think purely logically. Right now, she’s focused on how to cope with her situation—and because you slept with her, she may see you as responsible.
The best move? Know that you can get a paternity test during pregnancy. Reach out to her calmly and say something like, “I know this is a really difficult time for you, and I don’t want to add to your stress. So here’s what I propose: let’s schedule a prenatal paternity test. If I’m the father, I’ll step up and support you through this. But from where I stand, I don’t yet have certainty, and I can’t take on that responsibility until I do.”
This approach gives her a path toward what she’s seeking—support and accountability—while also protecting your interests. It also reduces the risk of her cutting off contact and potentially disappearing with your child (if it is yours), which could create a long-term emotional nightmare.
By now DNA test can be done still during the pregnancy (at least in my country) in non-invasive way. So make DNA test and all will be solved.
You should set up and pay for a paternity test.
I just wanna know how you’re positive she fucked someone else the same night and were you before or after the other guy(s) ?
Who cares that she is uncomfortable? Obviously, you need a DNA test, don’t be a fool.
Also next time wear a condom, if you are the father you just seriously messed up your life.
lol she FAFO.
She is making your life difficult because you are allowing it.
If you do not get DNA test, well then that baby aint yours, closed case.
She can get a DNA test done now. Its a NIPP. Non Invasive Prenatal Paternity test.
My advice to you. Mentally (and financially) prepare for it to be your baby. If its not, then you’ll have a feeling of relief and maybe some extra cash. If its IS, then you’ll at least have begun preparing.
If you were in a relationship with her, she might have a leg to stand on not being happy with a paternity test, because it would imply a lack of trust in an exclusive relationship. As you two were never in an exclusive relationship, there should be no offense.
Get a paternity test as soon as possible, and ensure that you have written records of you requesting the test in case she postpones it and then tries claiming you didn’t ask.
This sounds like you’re the most financially stable of her “possibilities” so she’s betting on you for instrumental reasons.
I have questions. You know you “weren’t the only one she f#cked that night.”
Lots of things running through my mind. Was she having unprotected sex with multiple people? Was she impaired? Was there consent?
She doesn’t know you’re the dad, she just thinks you’re the least sketchy dick she rode that night. Don’t give her anything until she agrees to that DNA test.
Do you really want to be tied to a kid that’s possibly not yours and another woman for 18+ years?
Ask for the test and stop randomly f*cking people without protection for you both. Get STD test too.
In the end what’s the big deal if you help a pregnant woman out a bit! Good deeds will only come back to you 10 fold. Don’t give her cash, buy a few things she will need, blankets, diapers, bottles, carrier. If it’s yours sure! Man up and support the child, if it’s not you helped someone in need. Best wishes to you both!!
You’re doing the right thing!
Test for sure.
Just because she’s 5 months along doesn’t mean she got pregnant that particular night. It could have been a window of weeks
First of all, have you actually seen proof she is pregnant? Because it would not be the first time that someone came across a past hookup and played the “I’m pregnant and need money for baby stuff” card to get cash when they aren’t even pregnant. I knew a guy who paid for a bunch of stuff and eventually found out she was never pregnant and that when she said she miscarried, she was lying. Second of all, DNA test before you claim anything or pay for anything. You choose the tester and pay for it. Chances are better than not that this is a play for cash and once you pay, you’ll never hear from her again and find out there is no kid.
don’t fuck random strangers raw dog. That is my best advice. Its incredibly stupid on so many levels.
If you know your aren’t the only person she was with that night, do you know who the other person/persons were? If so could you contact them to see if she has done the same to them?
But do not agree to anything or sign anything until you have the DNA test. And don’t put your name in the birth certificate before you have confirmation. You can get a DNA test don’t legally if she tried to go for child support etc
Absolutely you should ask for a DNA test as the result of a one-night stand and especially so if you know she had sex with more than one person that night. You also may want to get an attorney ready to go as well in case she makes things difficult; if you are the father you will need someone to help you negotiate your obligations. Whatever you do, don’t assume a woman will act in good faith in this scenario. And assuming that you actually are not the father, then take this as a very valuable lesson in not doing something like that ever again.
DNA test. Required! Depending on the results then meet with attorney.
If she is upset about the DNA test. Then she has doubts it is yours. My guess is that she is telling more guys than you. It is theirs. Getting a DNA is no big deal. If she gets upset. Hire a lawyer. It can turn into a lifelong nightmare. Had a highschool girl friend sue me for child support 35 years later. DNA test settled it.
I feel for you both. For you though, you absolutely need a DNA test and confirmation before you do a damned thing. Be nice to her, buy her a hamburger or some shit if you need to, but don’t become a parent until you know for a fact you are one.
She can get a paternity test before the baby is born. Just a blood draw.
“I know for a fact I wasn’t the only person she fucked that night”
How do you know for a fact? Were you in the room watching or something??
I would give some serious thought to what you think of Jenny, even if you don’t know her well. What do you plan to do if it turns out she is the mother of your child? Is there any chance you would pursue a long term relationship with her or is that out of the question (for whatever reason)? Is she only latching on to you because of the possible candidates to be the father you are the only one she could find or is there another reason she contacted you? Is it wishful thinking on her part that you are the father, and then maybe she has feelings for you, or is she just looking for anyone to take responsibility and someone to collect child support from? Did she even consider abortion or giving up the child for adoption, what made her decide to carry the child to term and keep the baby?
In any case, it sounds like there is a lot of things you should be discussing with Jenny, so I wouldn’t ignore her, you should be keeping the lines of communication as open as possible and trying to find out her intentions, and at the same time figuring out your own. That doesn’t mean paying for things, but if there are easy ways you can support her until you find out if you are the father or not, I don’t see how that could hurt.
As a woman who’s been in a similar situation, it sounds like Jenny’s trying to manipulate you. Wait for the paternity test before even considering any financial support. I’ve seen friends get burned by rushing into these situations without proof.
Asking for a paternity test is reasonable. One could be done right NOW since now days they only take a sample from the mother’s blood to analyze free-floating fetal DNA. Both of you could know right now and you then act accordingly.
That said you sound like you do not like the woman. Your post drips of venom, so why in the hell would you date her? Also man, get better at using condoms or get snipped if you have a habit of fucking random women while drunk.
And for the love of all things safety, wear a freaking condom. You’re lucky all she called about was a baby and not a disease. You’re an adult and you should be just as careful. Oh and yeah no financial help until paternity is confirmed. Paternity can be determined with a blood sample from mom. Fetal dna can be detected as early as 7 weeks. So you don’t even have to wait until the birth.
You had sex with her so there is a chance you are the father. However, you need the test to find out. Be careful what you say in text or email. Be civil, but don’t give in to anything until you know for sure based on the results of the test.
If it’s yours then you have a lot more to decide in life. Remember there is a child’s life here.
Learn from this and make better choices.
The absolute only way you can move forward is by getting a DNA test. I say this is the mother of two. Do not get involved financially with a child that you are not 100% sure is yours.
Having said that, if this baby is yours, what is your plan?
You’re 100% correct in all your actions so far. And you should be on hand for the DNA test, and pay for that and only that.
I completely agree – you are handling this well and quite appropriately.
Get (and insist) on a paternity test before doing anything. It is amazing how women think they know who got them pregnant or gave them an STD when sleeping around. You have every right to insist on a test and if she declines then block/ghost her unless there is a paternity order from a court. Don’t feel sorry for her but it’s a lesson learned that if you don’t use protection this can happen.
There’s nothing at all wrong asking for a DNA test. For all you know she’s asking the same thing of multiple people.
This happened to my brother, although the white mother refused any testing until birth. He and our mom were present for the birth, and didn’t need a test to see that the half-black baby was not the fruit of his Ashkenazi loins.
Use a Goodyear next time!
This happened to my brother, although the white mother refused any testing until birth. He and our mom were present for the birth, and didn’t need a test to see that the half-black baby was not the fruit of his Ashkenazi loins.
She wants to play, it’s DNA
I had this exact same thing happen to me. Give her nothing and go full no contact. When the baby is born and she takes you to court for child support, they will require a paternity test, which is free. After that, your either clear or screwed. In my case, I was screwed.
You’re making the right call. Don’t pay for anything don’t sign for anything
If she is not agreeing for a DNA test, then there’s your answer. Even she isnt sure thats your baby.
From what I know dna test while pregnant come with risks for the child. I know I heard there’s a newer way that’s not an issue idk. So if thee second part isn’t an option you’ll have to wait till she gives birth if she tries to sown other bs don’t listen. Also as others did if you sign that birth certificate you’ll have to pay for the kid even if it comes out later via a dna test your not. So don’t sign a thing
So you were just one of the guys she had sex with that night, and you did so without a condom? You’re lucky she didn’t give you a baby AND herpes.
This is the most literal example of “Fuck around and find out” that I’ve ever heard.
You’re being smart. Keep up with the messaging that you’ll be involved and supportive once you know for sure you are the father.
If you do want to be involved in the child’s life (if it’s yours) you may want to register for your state’s putative father registry if they have one.
Advice:wear a condom you purchased,all the time, every time.
It sounds like you’ve already made your decision here and I can see most people agreeing with you in the comments. It’s very hard to tell from what you’ve written what the true situation is outside of your perspective (there’s always 3 sides to any story right?) but my advice is going to be a little different.
It sounds like you already think the child isn’t yours but what if you’re wrong and she is pregnant with your baby? What kind of relationship do you want with the child and her (the mother of your child)? Do you want it to be combative and difficult (as it seems to be so far and as it will continue to be if it keeps down this path) or do you want to be involved in your children’s life? If you don’t want to be involved then I think you’re going about things the right way. If you do, I don’t think taking this kind of stance will help at all. If I were her, seeing your reaction, I think I’d just get on with things on my own and assume you didn’t want to be involved. Now by that I don’t mean you don’t have a right to know for certain, of course you should have a paternity test if you don’t trust her word but it’s how you ask and how you treat her. The way you’ve spoken about her here isn’t the most respectful. I’ve no right to judge you for that but have you treated her this way when you’re interacting? Because if so she’s probably hurt and offended. As someone else pointed out she’s particularly vulnerable too not just because she’s pregnant (although pregnancy hormones can do crazy things) but think how she must be feeling? She’s alone, she’s probably scared, I imagine it took a lot of guts to come to you for help. Have you helped her (and I don’t mean money, there’s ways to help and support someone without spending anything) or have you just made an already difficult situation more difficult? I’d ask yourself these questions and really decide what kind of man you want to be. Even if the child isn’t yours do you want to be the kind of man who makes life harder for someone already in a hard situation or do you want to be a good man who faces up to the potential consequences of his actions and helps her cope with both of your past choices?
I hope this doesn’t sound like I’m judging; I’m really not at all. Only you can answer these questions and only you can decide what kind of man you’re going to be. I just wanted to give another perspective that’s not people giving advice on how to escalate this whole thing and see if there’s a way to have a better outcome regardless of who the father ends up being. I hope you’re able to figure things out.
She’s a stranger telling you that she’s pregnant with your baby. Why wouldn’t you ask for the test? Seems like a no brainer.
Don’t sign the birth certificate until the DNA results come thru.
Flight of the concords has a song about this exact scenario
You are not in the wrong . Get that DNA test done and go from there. Do not go to drs apt or even the birth if you aren’t the father. She can put you down on the birth certificate and that’s a whole different mess. Any money or gifts given can be seen as helping her with “your” baby. Definitely get the DNA test.
Ya’ll still go to house parties at 28?
I really think it would be within reason for you to attend an ultrasound or show up to the hospital. And that’s really a choice, and you get to make it. But it is much safer for baby if you wait until he/she is born to have the paternity test run.
Updateme
nope. you are not making the right call. you are assuming just like she is. be supportive. go to the scan. get the dna test. be a kind human, she’s going through a lot and i bet is scared. Get your ducks in a row,but don’t be a dick. good luck!
Bud….don’t fall for it. The only reason she is mad is she knows and is scared for you to know as well.
Get that test. BUT if you are the father, get ready for a change in life buddy. Don’t be a dead beat dad.
Why wasn’t I invited to that party?
What she did that night was (hopefully) all voluntarily. FA:FO. She has to learn to live with her consequences.
I do hope she willingly did all that and not… you know… forced…
Get the dna test. Don’t pay for anything.
WHY DIDN’T YOU WEAR A CONDOM?
Lets see. A woman who has never met you before has unprotected sex with you…
Yeah, get the DNA test 100%. Who knows how many guys she has been with in that time span.
Don’t pay for anything. Have the DNA test done as soon as possible and upon finding out if it’s you’re child immediately get a lawyer involved to sort out 50/50. Do not let the child be with her constantly or you may be on the hook for full child support.
Yep do nothing until paternity test. Who knows how many other guys she’s stringing along cause she doesn’t know who the dad is.
Paternity test. Don’t let her talk you out of it, even if you think the baby looks like your twin, do the test. Until then, don’t give her anything. Someone mentioned how judges love a deadbeat, implying you should be helping her already… But NO reasonable judge is going to hold YOU Accountable for wanting to prove Paternity before obligating yourself to a lifetime commitment. Good luck.
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Next time only have sex with people u know . U owe her ur support to u know for sure I’m sure u can even do a test now kinda sounding selfish
I’m gonna go on a limb here and say that your not the first guy she slept with after meeting them for the first time that night…..get the DNA test bro
You could go to the reveil the Dad party and if it’s your name in the balloon yr fu🎈……
She’s looking for 18 years of child support. Make sure you get the results in writing in person before you shell out a dime
OP you are NOT the Father!!
Unless you were pulling if Eiffel Tower, you should tread lightly on the concept she was with someone else that night. Get the DNA for confirmation and don’t give her a cent until that happens.
It would be foolish not to do a paternity test. Maybe you are the father, maybe not but she’s either asking all the men for financial assistance or just decided you would be the best option. You can do a paternity test no before the baby is born and it is safe to do.
I would not financially give anything until you know. I’d push for the test sooner than later so you don’t have this hanging over your head and you can either exit out of her life or figure out how the two of you plan on coparenting.
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I would start a baby fund, so if you end up finding out the child IS yours, then you are ready to buy everything your kid needs right then and there.
But don’t give or spend anything without a DNA test. Just plan for the possibility you are the father since the timing aligns.
If your results show you’re not the father, then you have extra money in the bank. If you are the father, you’ll have been ready to take care of your kid rather than twiddling your thumbs.
Been here done this, DO NOT SIGN THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE without a DNA test.
Please exhibit some sexual discipline. Drunk or not, say no. This woman was clearly not a good decision. If it’s not yours please develop some standards moving forward.
Wait, you barebacked a woman knowing she might get pregnant. You didn’t use a condom. And if by some chance your sperm didn’t fertilize her egg, you feel like you have no responsibility. Who raised you? You most certainly have a responsibility. Grow up dude.
You can have one done while pregnant, totally non invasive. Pay for that and go from there, if she’s reluctant, then oh well. You did your part.
If you feel bad because you’re being manipulated by society. Listen to the parts of your brain that tells you do not pay for shit unless you know the child is yours. Don’t sign anything don’t commit to anything. Don’t do shit. If you can’t get a DNA test, Block, and move on. She’s not entitled to anything from anyone, even if she had sexual intercourse with you. I assure you, you’re not the only guy getting these messages from her.
Dude, wear a condom and this is not even a conversation.
If she has the baby name it Thomas
DNA should be mandatory!
You’re approaching this with caution and respect, which is completely reasonable. Wanting a DNA test before making commitments isn’t unfair—it’s responsible.
Definitely get the DNA test before anything as you don’t want to get too attached. I’d recommend putting money inside every week also. If you’re the Dad I’m assuming you would help out. DNA test first. Good luck
First, you are absolutely doing the correct thing in getting a DNA test to validate whether you are the father or not. Also, she may be the mother of your child, so tact and diplomacy should be at the front of your mind on all your communication. Do not make this woman your enemy.
Explain that this is a huge deal, and that it’s important to you to make sure, because you are going to want to tell your family ect. You don’t want to do that until you’re sure. Tell her that you will pay for the test, and make sure the results come directly to you. Keep a hardcopy in a safe place. If it’s negative, you want to make sure that you can prove it if she gives the state the wrong name, and DFS/DCF comes knocking.
What do you know about her?
“I wasn’t the only one that night.”
Get tested for STD/HIV also. 18 years of Child support may not be the only thing you may have gotten by not using protection.
get the dna. it must happen.
What kind of event was this?
Kinda sad even if conception could be narrowed down to a single night, she couldn’t say with 100% certainty who the father would be. But with that said, could be even more potential partners as well within the same general time frame. It’s not even well within your rights to ask for a paternity test (and I would insist the results be sent DIRECTLY to you as well, not forwarding from her), but it would be expected. It would be extremely rash and irresponsible to just accept caring for a child for the next 18 years with the mother being basically a total stranger, without firm, undeniable, scientific proof that it is indeed your responsibility as the father. Do not commit to anything without that proof.
My ex let the girl pay apparently it was lost in the post company charge extra to post so that was a lie 100% second one was emailed but the test was “redone” she posted the second one not him and it came back not the father (the result she wanted) but her daughter and ours are identical and the company confirmed results can’t be lost if posted they would also be emailed
Basically just make sure you do the swabs and send it yourself but you are right not to pay until you know 100%
Been there done that and it doesn’t end well for anybody, make 100% sure before you proceed. Do and sign nothing before finding out…
a paternity test in utero is risky for the baby
however
wear condoms, you are in the find out stage rn
“ I will accept full responsibility of the child and we can figure out how to co parent once the baby is born and we can confirm it with a DNA test. “ is the only response you should have
Without a paternity test, its a no dawg. She banged you and others that night, whats to say she didnt bang a few the night before or the night after, or every day for that matter.
Hope you got tested for stds
No paternity test? End of story.
Cut off communications. She has essentially told you she’s not sure its your child. THATs why she doesnt want a paternity test.
Dont meet her “halfway” on ANYTHING now. And if she should suddenly and mysteriously agree to a test, turn 180 degrees and refuse it. Let her compel it in court.
UNDER THE LAW, IF YOU ACKNOWLEGE THE BABY, THE BABY WILL BE DEEMED TO BE YOURS, AND YOU WILL PAY SUPPORT FOR HER AND THE CHILD, EVEN IF A LATER PATERNITY TEST SHOWS YOU NOT TO BE THE FATHER.
So do not buy so much as a pack of Pampers. Do not meet with her. Do not drive her to an appointment. Do not acknowledge a child that is not yours.
We all know whats going on here. And you know too. Dont ignore your gut.
Pay and give nothing until there is proof the child is yours. You could be the only one she’s able to contact, or you’re the better and more stable man that she was with at the time so she’s trying to pick you.
So tell her until the DNA test is done, and at a doctor not some kit you buy at a store, you will not be helping her at all. Many won’t do paternity until a child is born so she will have to wait a bit. But thats what you have to do to protect yourself if she’s just trying to find a father for her baby even if it’s not you.
Also do you know for a fact she slept with others at or around that time? Or are you trying to justify it in your head? Like did you see her with others or others told you they slept with her too? If there’s no actual proof she could’ve done this to baby trap you in the first place. Good luck.
Get the test, then do what you must.
So you raw dogged a party thot??? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂