What’s something you started doing for self-love that unexpectedly improved your relationships?
What’s something you started doing for self-love that unexpectedly improved your relationships?
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What’s something you started doing for self-love that unexpectedly improved your relationships?
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therapy
Exercise – better mood, more confidence, more energy = better me, better partner
Therapy and seeing a psychiatrist for medication management
Getting enough sleep
Asking clearly for what I wanted / needed
Therapy. I have been going for years but then stopped for a bit after moving to a new town. I started again when I noticed PTSD from my past relationship was affecting my current relationship. It has gotten a lot better and my therapist gave me some coping techniques that have been very helpful
Setting boundaries and speaking up.
Honestly it was just loving myself. I know people say if you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else but I don’t agree. I’ve found that even if you don’t love yourself, you’re more than capable of loving others. What you can’t do is believe that anyone else loves you. So you push people away or you test them and eventually it becomes so hard to love you that they leave and that confirms to you that you’re unloveable. I stopped placing my value in what others think of me, what I look like and instead place it in what I think of myself, am I a good person, am I kind, do I try to do the right thing? Once you start looking at yourself in that way, it’s much easier to love and like yourself and it’s so much easier to allow someone else to.
I stopped giving my family as much power over my emotions. I was breaking my own heart with unrealistic expectations and thinking things would change. My relationships with everyone improved alone with my self esteem.
Setting my boundaries. Like actually speaking up about things that bother me..
Practising saying “no” more. Especially at work. Lots of no to extra shifts.. Still need more practise in that area, but at least i am as far as 2 “no” before i cave in anyway..
Forgiving myself, not letting the little things bother me
Taking time to enjoy my hobbies, treating myself (within reason), and planning a solo shopping trip