I was hanging out with this girl and it seemed like we were close to each other. But now I feel that I don’t want to continue it further. She keeps texting and asking to meet again but I don’t feel like it. She is nice but I’m not looking for more with her. I want to focus on other things. How do I end things because I’m not the type to just ghost people.
How to break it off with this girl respectfully
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Props to you for not wanting to ghost her, that already shows maturity. Just be honest but kind. Something like, ‘Hey, I’ve enjoyed getting to know you, but I’ve realized I’m not in the right place to keep this going. You’re great, and I didn’t want to leave you hanging or be disrespectful.’ It might sting a little, but honesty is way better than leading someone on
Tell her honestly how you feel and be ready for her reaction, treat her emotions respectfully and expect respect from her.
Totally fair to want to be respectful and not ghost her. Just send a short, kind message that’s clear and honest. Something like: “Hey, I’ve enjoyed getting to know you but I’ve realized I’m not looking to continue things romantically. You’re great and I didn’t want to just disappear. I just don’t feel the connection I’m looking for. Wishing you all the best.” That’s enough. Don’t overexplain. Don’t delay. Be kind, firm, and let that be the end of it.
Say what ever you want, just add respectfully afterwards. I think straight to the point is the most respectful way. This ain’t working, good luck to you.
Be honest and polite. It will hurt but I’ve respected men who have done that and gotten over it easier than being ghosted.
Totally fair. Thanks for being a good person and not wanting to just ghost.
It’s difficult, but just send a message being straight up. “Hey, I don’t feel like this is something I want to continue.” If you want to soften the message, just add that you have things going on.
It won’t feel good for her but it also would feel worse if she found out you were leading her on. Get it over with.
Doing this through a text message will probably be just as bad as ghosting.
Honestly and succinctly imo
There is no way to do this that won’t hurt..
Just be direct, firm and too the point.
Well… it’s kind of mean to leave her in a lurch like this after you got the sex from her that you wanted,
She might go after you now like in that movie ‘fatal attraction’ …
Rabbit stew anyone?
this is sad.
at least have the courtesy and courage to do it face to face,
“it’s not you, it’s me”
It’s so nice to want to be kind when you’re not feeling like you want to continue a relationship. I would say either meet up with her in person, at a public place where it’s not too crowded, and tell her you are not ready for the type of relationship she wants. Tell her you want to concentrate on other things.
Just tell her. She’ll respect you more afterwards.
Good on you for not ghosting! I’ve been ghosted twice and it’s honestly one of the worst feelings in the world emotionally speaking to sit in that limbo of confusion and sadness.
You just tell her straight up and be honest. “Hey, I’m not feeling it anymore. I think you’re great, but I want to focus on other things.”
Just tell her you’re sorry but you’re not feeling it anymore.
>>I’m not looking for more with her. I want to focus on other things.
Just say this… “I’m not looking for more with you; I want to focus on other things”
Be honest and kind. It’s important to finish things that we start. No hard feelings, although you can’t control how others may be affected by your decisions, you did your due diligence.
“Hey, its been nice getting to know you, but I dont feel like we have a connection. Good luck!”