i (F19) don’t normally post on here, hence this throwaway account, but i’m really panicking at the moment. two weeks ago i was with a guy i see on and off, long story short i ended up losing my virginity. it wasn’t full on intercourse, and he didn’t finish either. i was paranoid afterwards because he didn’t use a condom, but my friends told me i should be fine. now, though, im experiencing symptoms that are making me paranoid (larger breasts being the most obvious). i have an irregular period but it shouldn’t come until next week or around the 19th. i’m really scared to take a test, especially now that i’m home for summer break.
i have a trusted adult that is not a parent that i can talk to, but im afraid and embarrassed to reach out. i do not want to go forward with this if it is a pregnancy, and i also don’t want the guy involved because of our relationship isn’t serious, and like i said, i would like it terminated. does anyone have any resources for abortion pills or options
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First , Wait till est. date of your period cycle. After that if your period doesn’t come take a test , then see for the termination process
I understand your paranoia and I think it’s totally valid to be afraid of something that could potentially alter your entire life. However, considering he didn’t finish and it wasn’t a full on intercourse. I’d say your chances of being pregnant is close to zero.
The symptoms you pointed out seem more likely to be just your period coming soon as breast swelling is a common pms symptom.
I’ve been in your shoes before and I totally understand how you feel.
Hope this eases you a little 🙂
it’s better for you to speak to your trusted adult even if it is kinda embarrassing. they probably have more resources and can relate to you on a more personal level. definitely go and get tested to see if your pregnant, and talk to your gyno if you can
If you are showing symptoms that you think are pregnancy related, take a test first. Symptoms like those can be caused by anything. If you cant take it at home, take it somewhere else like in the bathroom of a pharmacy or if that is too uncomfortable, try to find a time where your parents aren’t. Also, tell that trusted adult. This isn’t embarrassing if you’re paranoid. You are trying to prevent something that could alter the whole course of your life, that isn’t embarrassing its being responsible.
Plan b works best within 24 hours 72 hours max. You could try either mifepristone and misoprostol but they aren’t OTC like plan b so you will need to contact your doctor and get a prescription. That could be difficult or impossible depending on where you live. So you may need to travel out of state to depending on your location. I wish you the best of luck.
You’re not alone. take a deep breath and start with a pregnancy test to be sure. From there, talk to that trusted adult; you deserve support, not shame.
Don’t get pregnant.
Luckily, pregnancy tests are cheap. Unluckily, most of them won’t work until about two weeks after your missed period, meaning that you’re going to need to wait on this feeling of dread for a little while longer. Look into Planned Parenthood, if you have them nearby — they may be able to do a blood pregnancy test for you and get you the help you need.
Take a test for your own peace of mind and go from there.
Take a test first.
The mind is incredible and can make physical changes to you and trick itself and your body into doing these things. The test being negative will calm it down and your body should start to go back to normal. I recommend 2 tests just in case. If it’s positive talk to your trusted adult about next steps.
I’m going to have the same conversation I told my sister years ago…
Just take the test. I would test now and again when your period should start. It’s been 2ish weeks so chances are it’s negative.
I tested positive for my daughter between 3 and 4 weeks.
It’s better to find out sooner that way you have time to process and then go to your trusted adult.
If it is negative all around, I would have you sit down and have a conversation with your trusted adult about birth control.
And please, just breathe. One way or another you have options and it’s not over.
One time my doctor told me that pregnancy symptoms don’t occur until after your missed period and that provided me with a lot of relief on the months I was nervous
First off are you in a state where it’s legal. If you are or can go to one you can go to planned parenthood or some free clinic for a consult. Have you taken a home pregnancy test?
If he didn’t ejaculate in your vagina then you can’t be preggers
Take the test at a chipotle or smth idk lol so U don’t have to throw it out in ur house. If your period is suppose to come next week, that might explain why you are experiencing breast enlargement. That’s really common a week before your period. I know this is so scary & your mind is probably going a million different places but you’ll be OK. Take a test, see a planned parenthood & discuss options then. One day at a time boo.
ok, just wanna say i’m reading everyone’s comments and i’m so incredibly grateful you guys are willing to drop by and help. i’m not sure if i’ll “update” or anything later, lol but i’m taking everyone’s feedback to heart thank you guys so much, i’ll stay on, but i’m really hoping for the best
I was 17 when this happened and scared to go to my dad so went to my friend’s mom. I made the plans while lying to my parents-getting a plane ticket to another town for abortion. I got it ALL set up on my own. My “trusted adult” ratted me out to my dad. But he let me go. This is a different time of course they make it harder now if you don’t want to be a mom. Just tell your parents if they are in your life. I understand how you feel! It’s terrifying. No matter what you decide it will be ok. I wish I had just said at the start “Hey dad I got knocked up and don’t want to be pregnant in school!” Good luck!🍀
(At least for me) It hits you like a brick. Fuck-I’m pregnant. I took the test in the bathroom of the store I bought it. Even though it was early I saw the line. Hopefully you’re ok! I’ve had many scares. But you can get pregnant without the climax. I guess the ding dongs leak a little bit?
If you had sex or sort of sex two weeks ago take a pregnancy test. It very likely be negative. Most people ovulate around 14 days before their period. It can vary and not always accurate but if you on the very very very slim chance had sperm make it to an egg it could give you an accurate result. Get a two back or three if you feel really paranoid. My friend used to be on birth control and use condoms sometimes and would take pregnancy tests just to check. My period was never regular or was like 35 day cycles I would do random testing. We used them as weird charms to ward off pregnancy when condoms and birth control and knowing are cycles or dumb luck was keeping us from being pregnant. Take it in the morning. Don’t throw it away and look at it hours later because some tests have show where the line would have been if you were pregnant but that shows up in minutes.
I doubt you’re pregnant. I’ve totally been here. Take a test before you take any medication. Also there are planned parenthood’s or health clinics that can give you pregnancy tests or STI testing and help with birth control. Or they have condoms. I would take a test and when it’s negative it’s likely right. My boobs always hurt a week or sometimes longer before my period. Especially if I eat salty things. Try not to panic.
You’re probably not pregnant. There can be a very small amount of sperm in precum so even if he didn’t ejaculate, there is a very slight chance to get pregnant. For peace of mind, you can go to a planned parenthood in another town and get a blood test. A scare like this happened to me when I was 17. I thought I had pregnancy symptoms but it was pms. The scare got me to go on birth control pills! Things happen, but consider this your one time pass and get some protection! Good luck!!! You’ll be fine!
You need to get a home test, first and foremost. It’s important that you test AFTER your period is due. Even if you get bleeding, take the test anyway. This is going to be the most accurate way to determine if you are or are not pregnant.
If it were two weeks ago and that’s the only “interaction” you’ve had, you should be able to take a pregnancy test and have it be relatively definitive by tomorrow. At the very least, you are 9-14 days post ovulation if you ovulated the day of, or up to 5 days after which is when sperm can live. Though for most sperm the more realistic time frame is 3 days. (It’s like the life span of a human is around 75-80 years, but some can live to over 100.)
You are likely just paranoid as the pull out method (raw sex, no finishing) while unreliable as a birth control method, it also really really sucks as a “get pregnant” method. While there’s a chance of pregnancy, it’s relatively small if the only thing in you is pre-cum.
I would just take a test tomorrow, “first response early result” is your best bet to get a good read. If it’s negative, wait about 6 more days and if it’s still negative you’re almost 100% not pregnant since that would make it 20 days since the event, and at the least you’d be 15 days past ovulation.
Just a heads up, personally condoms that are latex are the only ones that have never broken. Non-latex condoms have broken almost every single time in my experience. So in my opinion, if you have to use non-latex please make sure you are using a backup protector. Ideally even with latex use one, but 🤷♀️
TL:DR take a test tomorrow and in a week. You’re probably fine. Next time wear a condom and/or get a birth control implant or IUD or something.
Too soon to worry.
a week or two leading up to my period i would always get bigger and sorer breasts, sometimes it would be stimulated by sex as well. i think it’s a pretty normal thing for a lot of women to go through who are sexually active / nearing the TOTM. try not to panic and overthink it, but just get an early detection pregnancy test to put your mind at ease!
As someone that struggles terribly with pregnancy paranoia, I understand your fear! Even if I haven’t had sex I somehow convince myself it’s somehow possible. I also get significant breast swelling 7-10 days before my period starts, and often pain too. I almost always assume it’s pregnancy related even though it happens to me nearly every month. I think you are likely in the clear, stress can also delay your period. I’m sure once the relief of your period comes, this will be a huge learning experience for making sure you’re protected next time. If this happened two weeks ago, you can probably test some time within the next week or so to get a relatively accurate result, and hopefully peace of mind
Taking a test can feel terrifying, but knowing early gives you more options and control. If you have even one trusted adult, please consider talking to them.
If he didn’t finish and you didn’t have full penetration I think you are just tripping urself out. Go take a pregnancy test
I totally get being paranoid, you probably don’t need to worry though. Two weeks isn’t even enough time for pregnancy symptoms to start and you are unlikely to test positive until 6 weeks but go ahead and test anyway. Next time definitely use protection to avoid this kind of fear.
Take a pharmacy test or a blood test. The one from the pharmacy after two weeks will give the right result.
I did it 16 days after having sex and it tested positive