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What are the small things I can do everyday to improve myself?

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I’ve spent so many years bed rotting and drowning in my emotions or using my phone as means of escapism and I feel like I’ve ruined my life a lot. I went from a smart student to someone who procrastinates till the absolute last minute and is barely getting through college. In my free time, all I do is lay in my bed and scroll endlessly through my phone, I don’t notice the time pass by, be it minutes or years. My diet for the past 7-8 years has consisted of purely junk food and sugary drinks and my lifestyle apart from pushing my self to go to college has been sedentary. I’m overweight, socially anxious I barely have any friends. Now that I’m actually adulting, I feel like I’m wasting a lot of potential and I would like to improve myself and live a fulfilling life and be a good child to my parents. Please help me out.

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  1. Middle_Island6971 Avatar
    Middle_Island6971

    saratoga water

  2. rainand12roses Avatar
    rainand12roses

    Shower daily.
    Comb your hair.
    Study for 30 minutes. Take a 15 minute break. Study for another 30 minutes.
    Write down your goals.
    Visualize.
    Listen to motivation in Youtube: Rob Dial / Jim Rohn / Mel Robbins / Brian Tracy. 
    Good Luck. 

  3. soulfulhealingguide Avatar
    soulfulhealingguide

    I hear you. First, I want to say—just the fact that you’re here, asking this question, already shows you’re not stuck. You’re waking up to yourself, and that’s the most powerful place to begin.

    When you’re feeling this overwhelmed, the key is to focus on micro actions—tiny, doable things that start to rebuild your sense of self and momentum. Here’s what I recommend:

    1.  Start your day with one intentional thing. Not a huge habit, just one thing like drinking a glass of water, opening your curtains, or stepping outside for 1 minute of fresh air.

2.  Regulate your nervous system first. (This is something I teach in my work because when you’re in survival mode, no habit will stick.) Try this: Lay on the ground and put your legs up the wall for 5 minutes. It helps calm your system without effort.

3.  Replace the scroll. You don’t need to quit your phone cold turkey, but give yourself a window (like 30 minutes) of no phone time each day. That small gap will slowly shift your patterns.

4.  Celebrate microscopic wins. You brushed your teeth? That’s a win. You opened your notes app instead of TikTok? That’s a win. It’s not about overnight change—it’s about building tiny moments of self-trust.
  4. ashraf_bashir Avatar
    ashraf_bashir
    • Read for 10 minutes
    • Meditate for 10 minutes
    • Gratitude journaling
    • Prepare tomorrow’s todo items tonight
    • Walk in nature
  5. DanteWolfsong Avatar
    DanteWolfsong

    start journaling, 3 pages, every day. usually takes me about an hour. then, stretch for like 15 minutes, every day. finally, get at least 7-8 hours of sleep, and wake up at the same time, every day. even if you end up going to bed late one night, it’s important you wake up at the same time. just those three things, I think, will lead you into bigger changes. the journaling is to build mental and temporal awareness, the stretching is for physical awareness, and the sleep is vital to your energy and all-around health

  6. Deep_Deer_3235 Avatar
    Deep_Deer_3235

    Make your bed

  7. Leading-Revenue4477 Avatar
    Leading-Revenue4477

    Mentalizarte donde estas,a donde quieres llegar y que vas a hacer para llegar hasta ahí.

  8. StrangersWithAndi Avatar
    StrangersWithAndi

    It’s hard to make big, overwhelming changes all at once! Get yourself some small wins, and slowly build up the habit of taking care of yourself. Remember that you didn’t get to where you are now overnight, so it’s okay if it takes some time to get back to who you want to be. And change doesn’t have to be perfect.

    Think of some small changes that feel manageable for you to sustain. Some suggestions:

    • Eat one fruit or vegetable every day.
    • Walk to the end of the hall and back every evening, or around the block if you can.
    • Micro-connect with one other person every day. Smile at someone you make eye contact with, say hi to someone, do that up nod thing. Just greet or acknowledge one other person in your community.
    • Spend 15 minutes with your phone off just being with your thoughts to reflect. If you can, sit outside. I like to do this before bed with a candle. How did you day go, what are you grateful for today, what are you proud of today, what would you like to see happen tomorrow? Some people like to journal as part of this, but that might take a while to get to, It also might feel awkward or forced at first, but it becomes fun and relaxing pretty quick with practice.

    One thing I have learned is that it is hard to invest the time and effort into taking care of and improving myself when I don’t feel like I deserve that. But then it is a vicious spiral, because I feel worse about myself when I’m rotting. You have to kind of fake it until you make it. It helped me to dissociate just a little and think of my physical body like a toddler I was tasked with taking care of. Would I let a toddler eat Doritos for dinner? No, I would not. Is it good for a toddler to play outside once in a while? Yes, I should do that. Would I yell at or make fun of a toddler for crying and feeling tired and overwhelmed? Of course not, I would ty to get them some rest and a hug. That’s how I treated myself at first when my self-esteem was too low to just do it, and it sounds weird but it worked. And of course the more little steps toward health you take, the better you feel about yourself, and the easier it gets.

    You can do this! Good luck and keep us posted.

  9. ji-fai Avatar
    ji-fai

    first thing—respect for even wanting to change. Most people stuck in that cycle don’t even try to get out. you noticing it and wanting more? that’s already step one.

    Start small. don’t try to fix everything overnight. make your bed when you get up. Drink a glass of water before you touch your phone. step outside for 5 minutes, even if you just stand there like a confused npc. these little things sound dumb, but they build momentum.

    also, don’t underestimate how much just moving helps. one short walk. swapping one soda for water. it’s not about turning into some perfect version of you overnight,it’s about proving to yourself daily that you’re worth taking care of. the rest will come piece by piece. you ain’t ruined,you’re just stuck—and stuck doesn’t mean broken.🔥

  10. Acrobatic-Park-169 Avatar
    Acrobatic-Park-169

    Reading