The longer I go without drinking the more I find it pathetic that adults lives revolve around drinking and/or partying. I’m not talking those that drink very sparingly… I’m talking, every weekend have something centered around it. The ones that make their whole next day or next time they see each other talking about how fucked up they or someone else got. The worst is when they tell me these stories and want some kind of validation through me thinking it’s funny when in reality it’s not. Idk I just think it’s stupid and there are so many ways to have a good time without getting hammered, doing dumb shit and wasting a bunch of money.
So yea I’m sitting on my high horse judging.
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Young adults do this. It’s fairly regular in your twenties.
After that, not so much.
People wanna adventure and fuck around. Let them, it’s fine.
There are a lot of late-30/early-40 professionals I know who spend an incredible amount of time and money boozing and partying. It’s pathetic at this age.
I had a couple drinks with some coworkers last week. Tried to do a cartwheel, landed flat on my back. It was funny, had a great night
You weren’t invited anyway lol
Are you a bit jelly that they are having alot of fun that you arent able to participate or enjoy maybe?
Someone doesn’t get invited to parties
I’ll do what i want and its not of your business.
But what i want is mainly take naps and staying home. But if i WERE to party, i would.
Sitting on a high-horse, judging people based off shit that literally doesn’t matter or affect you is also pathetic. I don’t like a lotta shit that other people do, I don’t think they’re ‘pathetic,’ they’re just different than me.
The glorification of getting obliterated every weekend as a lifestyle is pretty sad, especially when it’s packaged as “just blowing off steam” or “having fun.” There’s nothing inherently wrong with drinking in moderation or even partying occasionally, but when that’s the main thing people look forward to, talk about, or build their identity around, it speaks to a serious lack of depth or purpose.
My adult life is centered around playing World of Warcraft, it can always be worse O:)
Totally agree. I quit drinking when I was early 30s. Took up hobbies and spend my weekends doing things I enjoy. I’m aghast at every now and again bumping into old friends who still drink and do coke etc in their forties.
Crazy how many comments in here are attacking OP for being sensible. If you’re over 30 and drinking until you’re drunk or partying on the regular you need better hobbies.
So glad I got this shit out of the way in my teens and 20s. My 30s has been peaceful and empowering ☺️
I quit drinking ten years ago and don’t miss it. But I would be lying if I didn’t admit that life was more adventurous and interesting back then.
Speaking as someone just starting to get his life together and trying to do better, I completely agree.
Downvoted because this is not unpopular.
Lots of miserable folks who can’t let others live their lives.
Proud of you.
have an upvote!
As long as they’re not hurting anyone and it doesn’t influence the rest of their lives, I’m not sure what’s pathetic about it.
But sure, feel free to judge about how people spend their free time, as you say ;). I’m sure many of these people would do the same about someone spending every weekend gaming or sitting at home with their kids.
As you get older the house parties become weddings and you don’t bounce back from hangovers as quickly. Partying is fun but definitely not as fun as it used it to be.
I know guys in their 60s still doing this every weekend
Adult is anything over 18. It’s not pathetic for young adults to party.
It is pathetic for young adults not to party.
Mind being more specific?
I fill sorry for persons trap in drinking problem.Once you are hooked , is not fun any more.
I gotta agree with OP on this one. The same partying you did in your twenties gets sadder and sadder as you get older and older.
Remember that old creeper at the bar when you were 21? that’s you when you’re in your thirties and forties.
I left the bar scene years ago after I got sober but recently I met up with an old drinking buddy for a night of pool at the old dive bar. That was actually not so bad, it wasn’t really partying. I had a good time sipping on seltzer and playing pool. But the thing that really stuck with me is I was seeing a lot of the faces I used to see but everybody was a lot older and a lot heavier and had much worse dental and worse hair lines. They were downing pitchers of shit beer on a thursday night like I would when I was 23 (I’m in my thirties now).
All I could think was “I don’t have time for this” this being the late night and the hangover the next day. I was home by 1030 and happier for it.
I’ve never been a club guy but I imagine it’s the same for the club scene. Imagine being 30 or 40 and trying to impress some 19 year old girl at the club?
Don’t be the guy who recently quit and is immediately putting down everyone who is still doing it. You could be off the wagon again soon and then this sounds hypocritical.
If you have put some years between you and alcohol, okay cool. And heavy drinking that people brag about is most definitely a problem.
It’s a sober life for me and I was only lightly using cannabis before for years.
Alcohol is taking a dive in society and I have absolutely zero doubt that all the freshly new anti-cannabis hate that’s going around the internet these days is a campaign funded by the alcohol industry because Gen Z drinks a fraction as much as generations before, even millennials who already drank less.
It wouldn’t be something new. The Partnership for a Drug-Free America who made the “this is your brain on drugs” commercials was almost completely funded by the alcohol, tobacco and pharmaceutical industries. They do want you on drugs, just THEIR drugs.
Remember what it was like to have legal access to liquor? It can be exciting. Give them a break, most of them will grow out of it.
Lots of depressed and triggered millennials commenting haha. I know lots that partied when they are 20 and are still partying and sniffing blow every weekend “but they don’t have a problem” at 35-40
If your a coke head and partying every weekend at 40, you are pathetic and I have no sympathy when you sniff some fent mixed in your coke and drop leaving your kids and family behind.
Play stupid games and win stupid prizes
I stayed drunk from 16-22. Seems ridiculous at 47z. But I quit drinking at 22 and if I started again, I don’t think it would go well. Probably an alcoholic but I’ve never done the 12 steps program. Just a Christian rehab, I guess God/church is my meetings.
Maybe, but I realistically don’t have much better to do than drink. My life sucks, so leave me be, I just drink in my room not bothering anybody.
Nah. Me and my gf will be out drinking and partying with our friends two, three times a month. We are all 35-45 and are enjoying ourselves.
When you’re young it’s adventure and experimentation. When you’re 30+ it’s aggressively escapist.
This isn’t an unpopular opinion
Ya what nerds. Don’t they know they could be redditing for internet points instead?
It’s funny how we Americans think the choices are to either be completely dry or go on an alcoholic binge.
What the fuck is wrong with a couple of glasses of wine and good conversation with friends?
Jesus H Christ.
When you’re an introvert, you expend energy to meet with people. When you’re an extrovert you gain energy from socializing so maybe that’s all there is to it.
Some people are still in search of a personality. Be grateful you found yours.
We have some friends who do this
All married couples with teenagers. Good for them if they enjyit BUT….
I find those people so boring
Saturday morning shall we go out for a hike etc? Nope got a hang over
Fri night how about a movie, play, just some simple conversation – nope make the music louder and let’s get wasted
Seriously it’s just boring not liberating
Some ppl enjoy getting fucked up on the weekend while other just arent built for it
So, you’re ready to move on to a new set of friends. With different interests I mean. Agree, by the way, even though I do enjoy a glass of red, every now and then.
Not on the high horse though, not my style. Just found myself ever so quietly drift away from people with more alcoholic tendencies. I guess it’s an age thing, too.
I had a friend that did this into his 40s. Landed him in the hospital needing a liver transplant that he couldn’t get because of his drinking. It aged him 20 years. And he can’t drink now or he dies. Exactly what the Dr said. He has a young son, but only sees him every other weekend.
All the “friends” he had were bar flies and now they’re gone.
My mom, drinking killed her at 44. It was her coping from DV.
This generation doesn’t really drink I’ve noticed. But if they’re in their 20’s and have no kids, whatever. Older with or without kids, it will turn into an FAFO eventually. And I just hope they get help before it does.
You don’t have to drink and party anymore, and that’s fine. I don’t, either. But you don’t get to decide what is acceptable for other people. Frankly, this sounds like someone who stopped eating junk food trying to convince themselves that their ice cream made from cottage cheese is better than the real thing. Because the people who don’t do a thing because they don’t want to also don’t spent time thinking/talking about it. Like, who are you trying to convince?
I’ve always wondered why some folks judge others off factors that have zero direct impact on their own lives. Does it make you feel better than them? Holier than thou? I don’t live that type of life. If someone else wants to that’s their loss. I’ll just stay away from those types rather than judge them
Let people live their lives lol. Some people like to prioritize a social/party lifestyle while balancing all of their adult responsibilities and they’re not hurting you
Tell me you’ve finally grown up without telling me. This isn’t an unpopular opinion. It’s a matured person opinion that we all should reach by the time they’re 3040+
You would absolutely hate Nebraska. Absolutely nothing to do here besides drink. And I’m the one that gets made fun of for staying home.
It’s the stories about getting wasted that are just so boring. Trying to one up each other with your stupidness. Especially when you’re older.
I wouldn’t want to be your child
Ok so go out and do what makes YOUR life enjoyable? I don’t party or drink either, I love school so I’m in school to be a nurse and spend most of my time/the past few years studying which is fun to me. You’re going to live a very miserable life being this worried about others, especially since you can’t do anything to change their actions. I suggest finding a hobby that you like so that you aren’t so bothered by other people are doing
But then again this is also unpopular opinions so take my upvote 😂
I used to do it all the time and then I grew out of it but I don’t judge others in the place I used to be
Who cares? As long as they don’t hurt others and especially not drunk driving, I don’t give a shit.
Are they centering their lives around partying/drinking or are they getting invited to gatherings that you’re not getting invited to?
You still upset that you were always the one that was never invited to parties or to the bar?
Adults who are make not partying or drinking their entire personality are far more pathetic, OP
TBH I don’t know why you care. But I will tell you this — nobody is looking for your validation. They’re just sharing what they think is a funny story with you. It isn’t more complicated than that.
Someone should get some friends.
It is weird. Sitting in someone’s home for four-six hours doing really nothing but talking and drinking. When you’re sober, you’re pretty good after an hour or two. You’ve talked to everyone, had some laughs. Then you think, these people want to stay here for hours and hours! All because of the booze.
I like drinking often and getting wavy which is much better than being a judgemental prick about how people enjoy spending their free time
To each one their own. I, myself, would prefer a drinking friend than a judgemental one.
> there are so many ways to have a good time without getting hammered
Are you in elementary school ?
Key West & all of Arizona has entered the chat
We’re literally here to have a good time, friend.
It’s mainly the hangovers that stopped me.
I’m going to meet up with my friends this Friday night to grab a drink before we head to a concert. Then, I have a birthday party on Saturday at someone’s apartment. You will be posting on Reddit?
I’m in my late 30s now and really looking forward to my 3-4 drinks of alcohol on the weekend. They’re usually nice cocktails. I think I treat it more like a nice food item now instead of a medication? I often share what I drank over the weekend along with what food I had.
someone invite this person out
All the alcoholics joined the chat💀
What is adult? 30+ drink and party much less.
Why do you mention partying when your problem is with drinking? Tons of people party without drinking.
Mine is centered around daydreaming
Judgy teetotalers and people who get wasted all the time are both super annoying and hard to hang out with.
Fortunately most people are somewhere in the middle.
This is the most reddit post i’ve seen in a while
You sound fun. There’s nothing better then getting completely blotto in your 40s and then taking your kids to practice at 9am the next day like goddamn super hero.
There’s a word for that, alcoholism. If you spend all week at work waiting for Friday to come so you can get hammered all weekend you’re an alcoholic. More than 16 drinks in a week is considered alcoholism.
I feel like a life surrounded by work is equally pathetic.
Have you noticed how virtually every holiday or celebration is just an excuse to drink heavily? For example: St Patrick’s Day, Memorial Day, July 4th, Halloween, homecoming at every college…
I agree with you. It’s sad.
I know people who don’t want to do certain activities because they can’t drink there. And of course these are the people who are adamant they don’t have a problem.
This isn’t an unpopular opinion. Wellness has been hugely topical for decades. In general, people who party every weekend know they’re problematic. Past like ~25 I don’t think there’s anyone who thinks it’s cool to get wasted, but everyone’s just trying to get through life. I wouldn’t judge or assume too much about how other people cope.
Is this unpopular? I always enjoyed spending time with my friends, but the rest, not so much. I was never much of a drinker, and since my husband quit drinking, we haven’t drank in years. I never wanted to spend that much money on booze. I was too cheap to drink! I mean, there are funny stories of being drunk, sure, but eh, now I have funny stories without it. Also, the older I get the more I just don’t like how I feel drinking. (or felt when I did)
OP is pissed they can’t be an alcoholic anymore.
Counterpoint: Adult lives centered around work are pathetic.
I know what you are saying, is everywhere, I live my life into 4 to 5 times a week Brazilian Jiu-jitsu and run 5kms every morning at 430 am or something like that. sometimes, is a little bit later, sometimes earlier, I don’t drink or party but I went the other day with my wife and her friends for a night out and i felt that I’m just an alien and I don’t seem to like the same things that everyone else lol.
People seem uncomfortable with it if you’re not also drinking and we drink at almost any event, its weird~
Not drinking absolutely feels so much better, you can have an occassional drink but even that is pointless unless you just rly enjoy it personally.
“Son, never trust a man who doesn’t drink because he’s probably a self-righteous sort, a man who thinks he knows right from wrong all the time. Some of them are good men, but in the name of goodness, they cause most of the suffering in the world. They’re the judges, the meddlers. And, son, never trust a man who drinks but refuses to get drunk. They’re usually afraid of something deep down inside, either that they’re a coward or a fool or mean and violent. You can’t trust a man who’s afraid of himself. But sometimes, son, you can trust a man who occasionally kneels before a toilet. The chances are that he is learning something about humility and his natural human foolishness, about how to survive himself. It’s damned hard for a man to take himself too seriously when he’s heaving his guts into a dirty toilet bowl”
Let people have fun why tf do you care lol
How not fun are you at parties? Wait,you’re never invited. My bad
I’ve never seen so many triggered people before holy shit
Drinking as an activity after 25 is pretty pathetic and not a good look. Also means you’re in for a rude awakening if you keep it up. Under 25, you’re still a little bouncy from childhood usually and your body is more willing to forgive stupid decisions a little faster.
Drinking as an activity after 45 is absolutely mystifying to me. It kind of sucks to even be around people like that, let alone do it. I can’t understand people drinking all day in a bar and paying for expensive drinks either. It’s such a commitment.