My best friend (M35) and I (F33) have the same career paths and qualifications- except I have finished my doctorate and still has a year to go (I worked harder to finish quicker). The only other difference is I say yes to everything- I network, I hustle, I do all the side projects that we are told will improve our career prospects, I supervise students. We both applied for the same job. I got rejected without an interview. He got the job.
I have no words to express my rage.
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Could you have maybe been over qualified? Just in personal experience, the times I never got an interview, was because I was over qualified, and throw out from the potential pool, instantly.
It’s really not fair, and it’s got to be sexism. I’m so sorry.
I have a friend who’s trans and she gets turned away from interviews as soon as they find out she’s trans. There is so much discrimination on the job market it’s really awful. I have so many examples and it’s so unfair for others.
Do you resent him for getting the job?
Can you ask him to compare curriculum? Maybe there’s something in the formatting? Missing key words to get past AI?
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So like, I’m really stumped by this… Why do you think he got the job over you despite having the same qualifications? Was there something in his application or interview that stood out to them? I mean, I’ve seen guys get hired just ‘cuz they seemed more confident, y’know?
Might have been an auto-rejection by AI for missing a specific keyword they were looking for. Ive heard of situations where the hiring manager specifically asked someone to apply, only to find out the system auto-rejected them.
If their selection criterion is: ‘has a penis’ then I suspect you’re better off not working for that company
Rage over what, exactly? Life is not fair, so settle down and look at the facts.
Why did he get the job vs you? What is the FACT? Not your guess. the FACT.
He may interview better. He may have spoken in a way that was familiar, comfortable, and understandable to the interviewer. He may have answered a specific question in exactly the way they have been searching for.
Maybe it’s because he’s a man and you’re a woman. I’m guessing this is your angle – do you have any facts to support that?
Where there any other applicants for this position? Where they all women, more qualified than him? That still doesn’t mean that the decision was gender-based.
Look, there is a lot of injustice in the world. In this case of you vs your bestie, you would be well advised to consider how wrong you may be, because getting friends isn’t easy and your attitude about this employer / interviewer could spoil your friendship.
Your obvious ambition might threaten management already in place. I stagnated for eight years because the people that were gatekeeping my next role we’re threatened by me
It is an awful job market. I’ve finished my PhD and I’ve been looking but have had no luck so far. It feels like some places reject due to AI bots reviewing applications, or worrying that someone is overqualified. It is really hard to get anything and I’m sorry you didn’t get an interview.
What’s the timeline like? Were you rejected before his interview?
As someone who does hiring, you may be overqualified, or the bots rejected you automatically. I would lean on overqualified. It sucks, massively, and I am sorry that happened to you.
I would suggest having your resume/CV reviewed by someone in the career center at your university.