Being geniue and nice when you are around them is more than enough. No need to add them on socials or have their number. For what? It only creates more drama than it needs to be. And neither being over friendly, it just not worth it. Especially if they tend to break up and u befriended her/his now ex. Your friends bf/gf is not ur friend unless u knew them before they started dating, but if u know them trough ur friend as bf/gf then no
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It seems that you have got some issues and I don’t think this sub will help.
Drama? What drama.
sorry, but you seem insecure. i wouldn’t say this is an unpopular opinion aswell as i’ve seen other highly insecure people say the same thing.
Some of my now closest friends started off as someone’s bf or gf. I don’t know why you feel the need to be so guarded, but it’s much more fun hanging out 6 friend than 3 friends and their partners
How else can I extend the reach of my cheeky pranking thousands of miles if I don’t have an insider helping me?
For some people having their Facebook is just a part of that social consideration in that they’re your friends partner. Different people look at what it means to have someone on social media differently. I don’t think most people are friends in the way you use the word with most of the people they have on FB. Different social media, again it depends. My IG is more personal than my FB. I think that’s quite normal, but some people are the opposite. But I think you’re conflating being fb friends with someone & being ‘friends’ in the traditional definition of the word. In my experience FB friend moreso equals knowing someone & being friendly with them.
Right, thought that was already known.
Kinda odd to do that to be honest (as direct or basic result of your friend dating said person).
Tip for anyone born entirely after social media and cell phones became so relied upon.
Nobody gave a shit before. People just lived, laughed and loved 😆.
I mean there’s no NEED to be friends with any specific person ever but if I find that I tend to like being around people my friends like. At least more often than not. Unlike say… Mother in laws THAT ARE IMPOSSIBLE TO PLEASE
“It only creates more drama than it needs to be.”
Elaborate on that please. Why does following them on socials or developing a friendship with them cause drama?
Sounds like weird high school drama.
You know, you can have multiple friends? And it’s one thing when you’re young and rolling through a lot of different bf/gfs. But as you get older, for one it’s nice to be on great terms with your partner’s friends – really, you all probably get along excellently if you’re a good match and they have good friends. Also, like yeah I want my partner’s friend’s phone numbers – what if we want to plan a fun surprise for him? Or coordinate on birthday gifts? I’m not out here trying to hang out with his friends alone, but it’s nice to get along with them. Same goes for him with my friends. We all trust and love each other, of course we’d want to nurture those friendships 🤷♀️
What drama?
“I wish that I had Jesse’s gurrrlll…”
I agree that there probably isn’t any reason to get any closer than: “you’re part of my friend group when we hang, but I probably wouldn’t talk to you individually barring certain circumstances”
But I don’t agree that there isn’t any reason to add them on social media. Most of us probably follow people we know a lot LESS than our friends S/o. I don’t see in issue in following them on social medias as long as neither of you make it weird.
another “this thing happened to me personally so i should post it in unpopular opinion”
I mean, of course you don’t “need” to. But making friends is fun.
This is a weird one. OP must be a teenager or something.
There is quite literally no greater joy I have experienced in life than watching my girlfriend and my friends/brothers hang out and have fun together. It is pure peace
I’m friends with people I like. That’s all there is to it.
ok?
For what? Because they’re a person that is important to my friend, and I want them to feel welcomed and make them a part of our larger group? Because they’re cool people and I would enjoy being friends with them?
What drama? Don’t make drama, there won’t be drama. I don’t force friendships, but I’ve been friends with most of my friends partners, and that’s been no problem.
You refusing to be their friend is causing the drama
The only unpopular part about this is the “it only creates problems” bit. Otherwise this should be a given, of course you don’t need to befriend them. It only becomes drama when you make it drama.
There is absolute need, sorry. Society is where it is because we treat intimacy as though it’s not communal. Unless I come to realize they are terrible or unfit for the kind of relationship that friend is interested in (in which case I can present actual proof instead of trying to give ‘vibes’). Also, I know what my friend is unwilling to bring up. We should be friends and rely on each other so keeping contact now and again wouldn’t be awful. And what I’m saying doesn’t give someone permission to aggressively pursue ex’s. But ensures that their partner doesn’t feel invalid.
based on your posts, im shocked you have any friends
I’m friends with friend’s significant others. I haven’t had any drama.
My guess is it’s the labubu’s that’s keeping them from adding you on socials or hanging out with you