Small talk is hard for me. People can be nice enough, but I find that unless I can build a meaningful bond with someone, devoting 20 minutes of my time is almost painful.
And the gossipy and nosey neighbors are no fun. There’s always one. I don’t want to hear about your complaints about everyone else on the block. Especially since I know you are complaining about me.
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I think this is a highly popular opinion in today’s society.
Maybe it’s unkind but I pretend I’m talking on the phone every single time I cross paths with a neighbour lol
My neighbor complains about her husband’s dementia all the time. And I’ll just be in my backyard and she’ll yell something so now I have to go over to HER to not be rude? I’ve been peeking out my window before I go outside just to avoid her. She’s probably old enough to be my mom so it’s not like I have a lot of interest in being besties but I want a polite relationship so I feel obligated to adjust my plans for a random half hour of talking.
Not unpopular at all.
It’s important to get to know your neighbors however I completely agree that I don’t want to do 10 minutes of small talk every time I pop out of the house and run into someone.
Is this unpopular? I can’t stand talking to my neighbours. I have nothing to say to those weirdoes, lol
r/self
My actual neighbors are shitty people. So yeah.
I actually don’t mind small talk. Would I say I love it? Nah. But the thought of every single conversation needing to be a deep and meaningful discussion sounds fucking exhausting.
Small talk is proof that sometimes a human interaction can be superficial and still have worth. Sometimes it’s just a nice little two-minute chat that takes nothing out of your day but which can brighten your mood. You don’t need to be best friends with a person, or invite them over for a drink. You can just make them feel, for a moment, that another human being is acknowledging them. It can be a small positive interaction in a world that desperately needs positivity.
I do get small talk being unappealing, and I’d be lying if I said I actively sought it out. But is a pleasant, brief chat really worse than going through life aloof and haughty and thinking other people’s conversations are beneath you? Really?
As a fellow introvert try r/introverts
I don’t even know my neighbours’ names and I have lived alongside them for years. Occasionally I am walking outside and they are right there and say “hi” so I say “hi” back and keep walking. My housemate once told me he was going to be more social so he walked over to them and introduced himself to them and tried to be their friend. one day later they asked to borrow $50 from him for an “emergency” and never gave it back.
no thanks, I will keep being anti-social.