…either outright, or because the staff ignore you and serve people who were behind you unril you become annoyed and leave.
Why do you think this was? And how did you react?
I’m interested in seeing if it happens to other people too.
I’ll start – since i hit my 40’s (f) and put on weight it’s happened once a year or so, and it’s always servers in ice cream vans or market stalls who just pretend they can’t see me, and then look behind me to serve younger women! I suppose if i waited i’d get served eventually but i always just walk off and go somewhere else.
Please let me know i’m not the only one!
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What did they say when you spoke to them?
Nope, never happened to me.
Yes many years ago at a pub & a local shop for being Romani.
I am 36F and fat af, no one had ever not served me. If anything they probably think I’ll buy more food?
Yeah when I lived in Glasgow I lived in a strong celtic area and once wore blue on a match day. From then on I was ignored from my local corner shop. Eventually a mutual friend argued for me and I was let back in. I thought prices seemed off and within two weeks clicked I was being overcharged. I stopped shopping there but it was gutting. Proper centre of the community and I used to love going in there. Tbf though my fault.
As a kid, I was refused Shandy Bass and Rennies.
Back when I was 19 I was banned from McDonald’s for a whole 5 minutes. My sister and I had gone into town to get some takeout for a family gathering. She went to KFC and I went into McDonald’s. I was wearing jeans and a baggy hoody and looked very young for my age in general.
There was a short queue and whilst waiting I noticed several staff pointing in my direction which I didn’t really think much of. When I got to the front though a manager came over and told me to leave immediately and I was banned for life. I wasn’t in a good headspace at the time as my mum had only passed away a few weeks before so I just burst into tears and left.
I went into KFC and told my sister what had happened. She stormed back into McDonald’s with me and demanded to talk to the manager and get an explanation. It turned out that earlier in the day a group of younger teenagers had been vandalising the play area and one of them was wearing the same hoody as me. When the manager realised the mistake they unbanned me, apologised, and gave us our food for free.
Still took me a few months to work up the courage to go back to the store though!
Your not the only one I’ve been to so many places where they serve their mates or regulars first, I went in a sandwich shop last month I was the only one at the counter 2 of the staff looked at me without saying a word then another asked one of the 2 to serve me but still nothing do nor said ( all it would have taken was a be with in a minute) so I left there are so many shops, takeaways and cafes to put up with lack of service or bad service
Not necessarily refused but reordered the queue.
I arrived first, queued behind the next guy, the person behind me decided to queue on the opposite side of the door leaving a gap for the door despite being room behind me so when the next person came in they queued behind me ahead of the other guy.
The other guy got served first followed by me, it was a chip shop I was trying for the first time, wished I hadn’t of bothered, the potato frita’s were paper cardboard, and the chips were awful.
Stuck with my regular place after that.
Can’t say I’ve ever been deliberately overlooked, when whose next gets called people are usually quick to be fair and point to the next person in my experience.
Never in a shop, but I was once refused service in a Samuel Smith’s pub on account of having visible hand tattoos.
I know the chain has a blanket ban on electronic devices and swearing in their establishments, but apparently this one had a dress code that forbade visible tattoos as well.
I didn’t have ID one time so I said “have a nice day” and went home when it was for a game.
But when I went to go pick up a package for my family I kicked off because I was even able to tell the little fucker what was IN the package, the name, address, everything.
(For context it was a desk fan)
The weirdest I ever had was being refused alcohol in a shop I always went in because I didn’t have ID. Yes, not at all unusual, I’m aware of that. The difference is I went in this shop like hundreds of times. Multiple times per week for what was easily about 7 or 8 years. I spoke to the guy behind the till every time, just an overall pleasant thing. He knew my job, that I had a kid, etc. Then one day I go in and put wine on the counter and he’s like “can I see some ID please”. I’m a bit surprised and I don’t have any, so I’m like “eh, what’s going on?” then there’s a back and forth where he completely pretends to have never met me. Straight up “I don’t know who you are” when I’m saying “you can’t be serious”.
I never went back to that shop again because it creeped the hell out of me. So whether it was some kind of prank gone wrong I couldn’t tell you, but if it was then that guy missed a career in Hollywood with his acting talent.
I’ve only ever been refused service when I didn’t have my ID on me. Sainsbury’s wouldn’t let me buy paracetamol once when I was in my early 20s.
I’ve refused to give service plenty of times. Lack of ID for age restricted goods being the most common. The Limit on paracetamol/ibuprofen pisses a lot of people off. Barred shop lifters. And yes, rude and obnoxious people. There’s no law saying I have to sell anyone anything, and the likes of the big national retailers I’ve worked for generally don’t need your individual custom. They get enough foot flow from genuine respectful customers that they can tell people to f’off without fear of loss of business.
I was asked to leave a department store before
I had finished a night shift and was staying up to sort out my body clock.
I probably looked a bit rough, and I looked young for my age.
I’m guessing the security guard decided took it upon themselves to get rid of me , as I was just browsing.
I was too tired to care, but found it annoying enough that I ended up buying my sofa from somewhere else.
Yup, I was refused a monster energy drink because I didn’t have ID.
I’m 30, bald and with a beard.
Happens to me in bars, and makes me anxious each time I go to the bar anticipating it might happen again, incase I have to interrupt to get served.
A jewellery store at the Dubai Mall. The security guards wouldn’t even unlock the door if you didn’t look like you had a few million dollars to waste…
In my early 20s I was shouted at and refused service at a train station kiosk because I could only pay in coppers. This was in the early 2000s so paying cash was still very common and i think it was only £2 worth. I was broke af, coppers were all I had left after buying the train ticket. 🫣
The pharmacy next to the hospital wouldn’t sell me paracetamol because I was visiting a patient and they suspected it might be for them.
My sister got banned from Wetherspoons for pointing out they’d sent her out the wrong food. Twice. She complained to head office who banned her for life.
In all fairness, I don’t know how snotty my sister was. She claims she wasn’t a bitch until after they’d already started having a go at her for sending the food back twice.
It wasn’t even close to what she ordered and my sister had dietary restrictions due to a medical condition.
Yup. I’ve been banned from few for telling entitled managers what I think of them as a person.
I got banded from a town pub, as I was with a group of people from work.Someone on another table threw a glass in the direction of the bar,and the staff thought it was us,even tho we were regulars.
Even pleading innocence, nothing would change their mind. So we just decided it wasn’t worth the arguing and went elsewhere from then on.