Need an outside opinion

Trigger warning abuse

I (39F) was with my ex for just shy of 8 years. I want to sue him and ask for a court by jury which you can do in his area…

Here’s why.
In the beginning our relationship wasn’t bad he had two kids and my nephew even lived with us for a year, then he lost his job where we worked making good money and he made me quit. So his girls went to live with their mom and my nephew went to live with his step dad.

This is when things took a turn for the absolute worst. Our relationship became increasingly toxic I caught him talking to other females inappropriately and I really should have left but I didn’t because I felt like I had no where to go.

His parents bought him a car and I pi’s mostly for a van we got that I didn’t want but put in my name so if something happened I wouldn’t be without a vehicle- he ran it into the ground took it on a trip to Montana and South Dakota that I paid for all with the verbal agreement he was going to trade me the car for the van(he never did).

The abuse I suffered under his tender mercies including sexual, verbal, and emotional. By the end I wasn’t allowed to wash my clothes in laundry soap just dish soap and two cap fulls of bleach to “sanitize them”, if I went to the store for groceries I was yelled at for buying more than one meal worth of food. I was even burned with cigarettes.

Towards the end he moved in a room mate who later moved in a girl friend- it’s relevant.

Roughly two weeks before August 3 I found out that he and the room mates girlfriend had been sleeping together since February. I confronted her and told her I wanted her to leave to live out of my house as I was paying all the bills. She said if she had to live she would kill me. I tried to make a police report but bc my ex is friends with the police in the small town they wouldn’t actually file a report. Two weeks later on august 3 I come home from work and the first thing out of my ex’s mouth was not to be mad but he had been throwing my stuff away- this was the start of my night from hell. I got yelled at later for parking the car in the driveway and then we find out the room mate broke up with his girlfriend. I told her since she was single now she needed to leave because I knew she had been sleeping with my ex and that she needed to go because I paid all the bills and bought all the food I wasn’t gonna support her freeloading and sleeping with my partner and that I would kill myself and write a suicide note blaming both of them for my death bc they were the cause.

The night ended with me arrested bc then lied on me and said I came at her with a knife- I didn’t find that out until months later. I was charged with felony assault. I got out of jail I. September and fought my charges until February of this year when I finally got the charges dismissed. During my first night in jail I made a police report on the abuse I suffered and even showed his latest burn mark on me as proof. Nothing was done to him.

I want to get him on stand in a court room and when he lies I want to play multiple recordings I have of him verbally and emotionally abusing me the longest of which was 58 minutes long and during which I told him no less that twice he was being recorded. Should I succeed in just getting him to admit to the abuse. Which includes forcing me to perform fellatio less than 24 hours after having two wisdom teeth pulled.

I want to then aim for suing the counties and cities and eventually the state where this happened.

My abuser was protected by law enforcement because he’s their buddy and it isn’t right and everytime I think about it it makes me so angry and makes me wonder who else has this type of thing happened to.

What do you think?