Adulting is overwhelming lately. I’m showing up, I’m doing the things, but I’m drained and self-doubt keeps creeping in.
I just need that “you’re doing your best and that’s enough” talk I’d give someone else if they were me.
If you’re reading this and you’ve got even a little emotional energy, I’d love to borrow some.
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I understand this feeling. I’m here to tell you I see you’re trying your hardest and still moving even if you just want to lay down. I’m out here cheering for you, a lot of people are. You’re strong, you never quit and you’re going to keep on being awesome. Get rest when you can, please drink some water. I’m here for you.
Hey! I’m so glad to hear from you, how’s it going?
I know it’s feeling tough, that’s ok. You’re doing what you can, and it might not meet your expectations but it really is enough for now.
How you’re feeling is temporary. It will pass.
You’ve been here before, and you’ll be here again. As hard as it is right now, hold onto that. It is only temporary.
It doesn’t stop happening, we just get better at the process ok? And you’re doing great at getting through, you’re not stuck. I promise. Even if today feels a bit stuck, it will pass.
Have you got the voice too? The one always telling you you’re hopless and broken and will never be worth anything?
I hope not, it sucks. A lot.
Have you tried naming it? How about theobald? Or Ignatious?
It feels a bit silly but then you can tell Ignacious to shut the fuck up. And tell Ignatious they are flat out wrong, and need to go have a nap and fruit snack.
Some days it’s oddly helpful.
Now, I want you to read this, and get off your phone. Go and do one thing. I don’t mean one big thing. I mean one small thing. Fold one pair of socks. Put one book away. Walk one block.
Do you have some music? Have you tried the automated DJ? Where it picks the songs for you? It’s usually half wrong and half ok, give it a try.
You take care. You’re never alone and you don’t need to change. You’re worth it exactly as you are
Xx
I bet you’re doing better than you’re giving yourself credit for. 💕
Not only you did your best, but you also joined this insanely healthy habit of saying it. Let’s just say it. Adulting is hard sometimes (every time except when you want chocolate and there are no adults telling you you had too much) and it’s better if we do this together supporting each other.
Speaking of which, here is your chocolate
Adulting is hard I’m 56 and need a nap. Do your best, pray and just keep living and learning.
Been there. I’m in my 60s now, and some times I still have those feelings too. Have you ever thought about therapy? Or even life coach? It might just help you get through these hard times.
It’s ok that you are here, even when you are tired. It’s progress, not perfection, that’s important. Some days, just showing up is progress! If the weather is nice where you are, go outside and just breathe some fresh air and look at the sky. Smell a flower. Pet a dog or cat. I’m so glad you are here today!
Let’s read that back: you’re showing up and doing the things. Enough said. Even if you’re doing them poorly, anyone doing honest work and not hurting anybody is doing enough. You don’t have to put in 110% every day, or even most days. You’re doing enough.
Persistance is the key to success. Keep going!
Think about someone you admire—maybe someone a little older than you, who always seems to have it together, who is resilient and wise.
They undoubtedly went through times of self-doubt and fatigue like you’re feeling now. In fact, it’s the exact recipe for becoming resilient and wise. You have to go through the discomfort of growth.
These hard times are shaping future you for the better. Future you is going to admire how you got through it, your energy and tenacity even when you wanted to throw in the towel.
You are doing your best. You are showing up. If you mess up once in a while or only give 75% some days, it’s ok. You’re becoming the awesome, strong, wise person you will end up. Keep going! And remember, it’s ok to be kind to yourself.
When I feel similar, my go-to is 85%!
Your mileage may vary….
Your best is all you can do. It more than others can even fathom.
Even when you’re standing still, the planet keeps moving forward. So give yourself some grace. You’re moving faster than you think.
Buddy, “tired and still trying” is the best thing! It’s like courage: courage without fear is just foolishness. Being courageous in spite of fear is actual courage. Everyone can put in effort when it’s easy (not everyone does but it’s not hard), putting in the work when it’s a struggle shows your true mettle.
Adulting is hard but it’s also rewarding! 🙂 You’re doing great so keep going!
Life is full of surprises and we’ll never know if we are going to get the best or the worst of it. But hey, for as long as you’re still here and fighting, i’m sure you’ll get the best out of it. Remember that all those negative feelings will eventually fade and will turn to positive, all you need to do is claim it! Healing energy for you!! 🙂
It’s all okay. It will be okay. Even the things that aren’t okay will work out okay. Why? Because you’re showing up, you’re all in, you’re doing your best and your prioritising what you can that’s most important right now. Oh and remember to do a small self-care ritual every day. Maybe 10 minutes of journaling in the morning or get outside for a 10 minute walk morning, noon or evening. It will help clear your mind. If you’d give 10 minutes for someone else, you deserve 10 minutes for yourself. You’ve got this.