Was it an ex? Was it a male friend? Someone that her friend introduced her to? Coworker? Neighbor? Or something else?
Guys who have been cheated on: Who was the other guy?
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Was it an ex? Was it a male friend? Someone that her friend introduced her to? Coworker? Neighbor? Or something else?
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It was actually another woman
I think I’ve checked all those off except neighbor. Tinder find being the “something else”
An ex. She was a bampot and it was a blessed relief. Jealous to the point of insanity and it was her shagging about.
The last holiday we went on, she accused me of flirting with the waitress and wouldn’t let me back in the room so I rolled up my jacket as a pillow and went to sleep in the corridor. Got shouted at for that for not trying to sort things out. That was a relaxing holiday, sweet christ.
She was cheating on me with a girl she met on Bumble BFF.
Some rando dude who was giving her attention at work. Fucked up part is that she could have just come to me and told me she was having a work crush. Our marriage was already in the final stages. I’d have probably told her to enjoy the attention.
“But you say he’s just a friend…”
athlete at our school. not even a starter either smh
Work
I was the other guy, she cheated on her husband with me.
it was a co-worker, in a way. She joined the air force for her internship/residency and we went LDR. There she started cheating with an enlisted (this is mainly important because of who she is as a person). I found out they divorce after he’s career overtook hers too and she’s now married to someone else that is less educated and make less money.
I never knew how anxious she was about my career trajectory overtaking hers. Like she made a lot of jokes before that but boy did I underestimate how insecure she was about it.
“Just a friend.”
It was her best friend’s brother. They’d have girls nights and she’d somehow always bump into him while out. Eventually I checked the cell bill and saw she was texting him back and forth thousands of times a month. Still “just a friend.” After we split up she moved in with him.
An ex. Turns out she liked recycling garbage
A small cunt that shared a difficult familly situation and a few mental illnesses with her.
I was so stupid back then. Well I still am but at least I learnt a few things from that shit.
A co worker.
Another was someone she knew in highschool.
Some guy she studied with in university.
A mutual friend… cut them both out of my life since
Friend of hers
Someone I considered a friend….
But looking back at it I should’ve seen it coming lol
I fucked my ex wife a couple times, after she was remarried. Once when they were “on a break” and the other time when she was going through the divorce. So, I’ve never been cheated on, but I guess I’ve been the guy, and my answer is “the ex husband”.
A “friend” who rode a crotch rocket, who she was obsessed with but didn’t feel the same about her. Tale as old as time.
A guy she knew from college,
A guy she knew from school,
Our neighbour,
My best mate’s friend,
A guy she met when she was out,
A guy she met online.
Some deadbeat loser. I wanted to marry her and I was devastated. I took solace in the fact they got married and look like a couple you would see at a Kid Rock concert with a litter of kids.
Client of hers I was “not to worry about” lol what a ho bag. Two adults and three kids lives changed forever
Director of Supply Chain at a huge multinational that she worked at, married, 14 years older than her. A giant piece of shit at that, I let his wife know.
She cheated on me with a higher up at her job.
Twice that I know of, both times it was the guy I was told not to worry about
All of them. Seriously, it’s like asking about a guy hunting deer thinking, it’s just great to get a deer! I’ve had two girlfriends cheat on me with a guy they didn’t know at all. That’s just like a guy driving through the forest, no tags, not hunting season, but after a few beers, they see a nice deer and think “free meat! No one will know!” Though both women did immediately get with friends of their last boyfriend, so I’m assuming they thought of them as back ups. I think most cheating is just impulsive behavior.
My ex’s friend would purposely invite her out on “double date” kind of outings with her, her boyfriend and the boyfriend’s friend. After weeks of this behavior when I asked about it and basically called it out I was made out to be some horrible controlling manipulative angry person. Well guess what? She left me and was dating the guy within a couple days. Lesson learned: trust your gut.
A younger version of me (admittedly, he had better hair, but found out later that he was abusive and neglectful).
Some guy at work. I even told her that I could tell he had a thing for her, she called me insecure and all that other bullshit. They’ve been together for like 20 years now and have 3 kids.
Plural. Mostly randos at festivals. Few of them fellow party people she’d get with routinely when high or just bored I guess. (To clarify, I wasn’t a party or fest person, she was. I just fell hard for what ended up being the wrong girl when I was in high school.)
Then my dumb ass trying to build a life for us. Left her once it all came out.
My first gf cheated on me with:
A friend of mine
A work colleague of hers
An ex.
A guy that was in her running group she got close to. Beware of those running groups. Made up of generally insecure people who thrive on validation from each other. I figured it out, kept an eye on them at a wedding for a mutual friend, and it was clear as day. Found the convo on Snapchat. He was a massive scumbag. Cheated on his wife several times. They are still together. I, on the other hand, divorced my wife and remarried into a relationship I never thought I could have. So it worked for the better for me.
It was an old friend of ours from HS. The reconnected through FB and were both stupid enough to make random things public which exposed them.
I left military college for the Army. She had one more year. She hooked up with a guy a year behind me, same first name, same company, similar build and coloring. When confronted, he swore on his ring she told him we had broken up. I found out later she slept with him the night before coming to the base I was posted to for our first “non-family” Thanskgiving, then took him to her parent’s house after she left. I found out over Christmas break. Kept it to myself and revenge fucked her during Christmas, New Years, and Easter. Dumped her before her graduation in front of her parents (they knew) and told them I’d known for months.
First one was a dope man, second one was a guy that stepped to me and found out. He thought he got me good when he actually done me a solid! 🤣🤣
“Friends” all four times
First time was my childhood friend. We were engaged and everything.. I was utterly shocked tbh..
Second time was when I was in an open relationship and she just felt I wasn’t giving her enough attention so decided to meet and shag someone who was just at the right place, right time and then tell me about it. Bareback no less (don’t know why nor why she had the need to tell me, maybe to twist the knife??)
They are getting married now..
There was another time where I found out that I was the other dude. She was 9 years younger than me (I rarely go for people younger than me but she was “mature”). We had slept together after dating for weeks and then her boyfriend had come back from abroad (found out afterwards) and she dumped me. They had been going out together for years and he would go off to work in a ship for months at a time..
The last relationship I was in, she and I also had an open relationship that worked well until she met this guy who wanted her to himself. He was married and had kids, cheating on his wife with others and I had a bad vibe. I was told nothing would happen until it did then she said that my feelings still counted until she left me for him because I was the toxic one in her life but would then complain to me for months afterwards how badly he treated her…
Currently single and enjoying the peace and quiet as I feel my trust in people is damaged and until it’s fixed and my stuff is squared away? I’m not going to try another relationship.
The “gay guy” she told me not to worry about.
Some pos she met in her archeological studies class while overseas for 2 or 3 months in Greece or Spain or wherever the fuck. Honestly, I can’t really even blame him, she was this cute lil redhead and I’m sure she was giving him her flirty looks, I’m sure her classmates urged them both to get together despite knowing I was living with her back home.
She did whatever they did there, she came back home and broke up with me so she could go visit him in Chicago, all pretty much around both our birthdays. Fast forward a couple months, she’s crying to me to take her back. We were together over 3 years. Our relationship at the time wasn’t at it’s high point sure, but it broke my heart like a ton of bricks.
Nerdy white ass Chicago dude with glasses who stole my gf back in summer 2013 while overseas, go fuck yourself. My life took a left turn that took almost a decade to recover from.
It was either an old bf, a guy in her friend circle, or a dude from work.
Tbh, anyone that complimented her got in there.
On again off again ex that was “just a friend”
Ah to be young and naive enough to believe people again.
coworker both times. they were just friends…. such bullshit.
A guy who claimed to be my friend.
In my experience it was never a stranger. Always a toxic ex.
Co worker, that she said she couldn’t stand.
The guy she told me not to worry about.
A random walking penis who had been giving her attention at work.
They moved in together and it lasted a month or two. Rumor through mutual friends was that he cheated on her and she was trying to sell off all the video game shit (guitar hero, rock band, console gamer stuff) she’d bought him. It’s been nearly 20 years and it still gets a cackle out of me when I think about it.
I got cheated on by three women.
My first gf went out for girls night. About a week later we were watching a movie, suddenly her phone rings.
I tell her to answer because the phone kept ringing, i didn’t suspect anything, i trusted her completely. I see her freeze.
I tell her again, because the phone kept ringing. So as she froze, i stood up and answered the phone. I hear a male voice say: “Hey babe, how are you?” I then say, who is this?.
The voice says: “(name of ex)?”
I say i’m the boyfriend, who gave you this number?
Voice: “Oh eh bro, i’m sorry.. she gave me this number after we kissed in the club about a week ago.. my bad, i won’t call again.”
I just said: “It’s alright, have a good one”
Confronted her about it: she starts stuttering. I tell her we’re done. Left and never came back.
Second woman:
Was turning extremely jealous and becoming too much. I used to practice a very specific sport, so i wont go into the details.
So i sometimes took her to practice as she wanted to look. There she met several teammates of me, all fine and dandy, we were all having fun.. so no problem right?
Eventually during a time when we were arguing a lot, i suddenly received a video from an unknown number with the text: “You probably want to check this out”.
It was a video of a girl getting railed from behind. As the camera panned up and i saw her head wobbling due to the pounding, the woman in the video turned her head. I saw that it was my girlfriend. I recognized the voice of the guy talking and moaning. It was one of my teammate.
I just started laughing uncontrolably. Like if something inside me broke.
I replied to the number that texted me, but that person never replied and i never knew who told me.
I called her and told her we were done. She starts going mental on me. She screams that i’m a coward for breaking up like this and tells me that if i’m a man i go to her and try to fix things lol.
So i was around early 20’s. I went to her place. Looked like a damn movie. Pouring rain, i’m all wet with no umbrella. She opens the door in an angry manner and says: “So?! Are you going to fix this?!”.
I look her straight in the eyes as the rain is pouring over my face. I say that we’re done. She throws some of my stuff at my face and yells: “Is this is? You bastard! Piece of shit!”
So i pick up my stuff and look at her and say, yeah i came all the way over here to see your look in the face as i break up with you. I turned around and walked off into the rain. Total relieve. I hear the door smash close behind me.
Number three:
Same thing as the last girl. I was a stepdad to her son. She wanted to be a bit more social and party a bit more. I told her sure thing. She then asked me if i was okay with her going to a fetish party, to which i asked her if she fell on her head.
I could hear the dissapointment in her voice. She got a bit upset but later told me she understood. Needless to say this should have had me standing on my toes.
A couple of weeks later she tells me she is a bit sad because she doesn’t have a lot of friends. She then tells me she wants to go to a festival with her friends. I tell her she should have fun and text me when she gets home.
Couple of days later i’m at work and she calls me. I ask her how it was, she sounded happy and i was genuinly happy for her. As she is telling me about the party, she says: “Yeah met lots of cool and fun people. I also think i made a friend there, we had such a great connection. We talked about a lot of stuff. So we exchanged numbers, he is really cool!”
To which i say: wait what? He? Exchanged numbers? I think we need to have a chat.
So as i got to her place, i saw the bed was undone. She always did the bed after waking up. I tell her who it is. She refused to tell me. I got a bad feeling about the whole ordeal. So i grabbed her phone and told her to unlock it. She refuses.
I got angry, but not violent and told her that she really is going to treat me like this? I told her to unlock the phone NOW.
She reluctantly unlocks it. I grab it and go through the conversations. I ask her the name of the person and she mumbles it. I see the chat. A guy that looks a bit like me but taller and darker. I open the chat and see massive flirting. I then see that he sent her: “It was fun at your place hottie. Hope to see you again soon xx”.
So i was fuming. I asked her how she could do something like this to me. Stepdad of her son. She then got a bit upset and told me that if i expected her to delete the contact, she wouldn’t do it.
So i put her phone on the table. Gave a kiss on the forehead of her son and a hug. Told him to take care of himself (he was 5). I looked at her and told her that we’re done and to never contact me again.
I think that was the last straw for me. After my last relationship something in me changed. Hit the gym like a beast and then i became the guy women cheated with. I didn’t do it on purpose by the way, but the majority of women i had sex with were in relationships or married. It definately fucked me up in some way i guess.
Co-worker. This is very common.
Half the tri-state area.
The tattoo artist who gave us matching tattoos we got for 10 years together, 3 years married.
It was a coworker of hers.
She was manic depressive, and in the middle of a manic episode. She got horny, wanted to get laid, and I was at work. So she hooked up with a coworker at her job.
To her credit (the little bit that she gets here), she did admit to it a couple of hours later. She tried to blame her mental illness, but she was the one that went off her meds when she felt the manic episode coming on.
Let’s see if I can remember in order here. Am I supposed to separate them by the ex or is that not important?
Who knows how many people from school, I only heard rumors
One of my coworkers
Some random person idk how they met
Technically a nephew by marriage
One of my former coworkers but I believe that was by total chance she met him at her work
Some random person she knew from school years before
Some random person she knew from school years before
One was “just a friend”.
Another was an ex.
Another was her grad school/work friend.
My client’s senior executive. The worst thing is…he knew who I was before I found out.
Practical a whole football team I played for. Gas lighted me that it was all in my head.
Once we finished found out the truth from the guys.
Struggled to trust again.
My best friend!! Best fucking friend in the whole world ! Was his wingman more times than I could count ! Backed him up with everything I had. Her was my brother! Went over to surprise her with flowers when she was on vacation for her when she got home and his car was in her driveway and hers was gone ! They went to Nashville together!
My ex didn’t cheat that I know of, but she was talking to a male colleague who was now married. She tried to get with him before he got married. I basically cut it off before any cheating could take place.
A work colleague who cried to her his wife was accusing him of cheating constantly.
He really was cheating on her. With a 17 year old girl.
She claimed he was just a friend. They went away for the weekend together and she told me she was visiting her sick grandmother. This was on our anniversary.
It cost her her job. I was absolutely not heartbroken.
Unfortunately he was working for my client so everyone knew what happened. My boss wanted me to work with him. I absolutely refused. He cheated again and his wife kicked him out. His children disowned him.
Her best guy friend I was never concerned about because I had trusted both of them. Turns out I was wrong to not be concerned.
A long time friend of hers. It was obvious to everyone but her that the guy was in love with her, but any time I mentioned it I got told I was just being “iNsEcUre” and he was just a friend.
An MLB player.
The funny part is that a week later, she tried calling me in tears after a local paper published an article about him and mentioned his wife…
Disabled neighbor who sold pills. I was working 3 jobs because her ass grew a couch and had to add daycare to our expenses because she couldn’t be bothered to change a diaper all day.
How I found out. She had cut me off for 4 months then she got super flirty and I told her to fuck off. Surprise she was pregnant by him and tried putting that shit on me.
An internet guy who gave her more attention than me.
She came back a month later to me crying and saying she made mistakes. I said NO
Her coworker.
They got married. Had kids. He cheated on her. Divorced.
I’m married. Two kids. Happily married
I win because I don’t cheat
Every guy she worked with, then my brother.
The guy she told me not to worry about.
The girl she told me not to worry about.
Which one?
Most of them were “friends of mine,” like my best man at our wedding.
In my experiences its usually always the previous guy they were talking to who happens to slide back in at the right moment.
You just had an argument and shes mad at you? Uh oh, her previous fwb just messaged her with pretty lucky timing. Thats how its always started for me.
While I’m obviously not a male, my ex cheated on me with a former friend and then proceeded to get with another. All of them suck
A married security guard from my workplace. At the time there was on-site daycare at my job. She’s bring the kids in and drop them off on her way to work. I’d pick them up a few hours later in my way home.
That was the first time I caught her. The second time I found out that she was in a “harem” with her boss and his mistress.
And that was the end for me. Best decision of my life.
After 20 years together and 2 kids, she met a 60yr old playing pickleball (she was 38 at the time)
Coworker. It’s a common story.
Hilarious bit came after. She fell for his “I’m in the process of leaving my wife” routine, so she moved into a condo she couldn’t afford, expecting him to move in too. He didn’t. Never left his wife either. When she realized that he wasn’t coming, she immediately tried to “fix us”, and became absolutely unhinged when I made it clear that I had zero interest in ever talking to her again. Her entire life imploded. Couldn’t have happened to a better person.
Her “Best friend”‘s husband. Can’t say I’m upset it happened. I had been trying to leave for years prior but was constantly guilted with my step son.
The guy she told me not to worry about.
“Oh he’s like a brother to me” married him after cheating on me with him. They have multiple kids.
Another was some random guy at a bar, she blamed the booze, but ended up dating him days after we broke up.
Another one was a drug dealer that she wanted free shit from.
all different girls. All different states, even.
A guy that she worked with, much older and grosser.
She claims now that she had a mental break down or something, I think she was just a coward that wanted out but didn’t know how to communicate that.
Idk when I called there was a toddler in the room asking questions in the background he just told me “since you’re autistic you wouldn’t suspect I was cheating” never heard from him again…
Some lame she worked with
And old co-worker, we hadn’t been moved in and living together for more than 6 months. I stupidly stayed thinking it would get better. Once a cheater always a cheater my friends.
It wasn’t a guy. She told me she was hiding the fact that she was gay. We divorced several years ago.
Her boss at work
“Just a friend” that I had “nothing to worry about”.
It was “just a mistake”. She “slipped up”. She really didn’t mean it.
She “accidentally” began confiding in him about her problems.
Then she “mistakenly” began texting him behind my back.
One night she “accidentally” lied to me about working all night, “mistakenly” drove an hour and a half to pick him up from his job, and “absent mindedly” went out for a few drinks with him just “platonicly”. Because he was “just a friend”, that she had to take home afterward where she mistakenly went to his bedroom and her clothes “accidentally” fell off. Next thing you know, “WHOOPS!” his dick “accidentally” fell into her vagina.
I mean, a guy might believe that making secret plans, lying about your location, driving an hour and a half, going on a date, returning to his place, going to his bedroom, taking off your clothes, and fucking him would appear VERY INTENTIONAL, right?
Nope. She didn’t mean it. It was all just a little “whoopsie”.
a work colleague of mine not hers
Her coworker, a married man with four young children. Got the news from the (understandably devastated) husband’s wife. This was a year ago now, and it has gotten easier, but it still feels so unfathomable that the woman I spent 9 years of my life with was capable of causing so much pain.
Guy that got out of prison.
His mother worked with her mother. Mom said how great of a guy he was blah blah. Mother feed her full of the bs. And how I wasnt good enough and going to take care of her like he would
She cheated
Prego.
Single mom
It was fun
I honestly don’t remember because they weren’t the ones I was angry at.
A dude who has been in prison (still is) for raping minors. 9 years of our relationship lost to a guy who’s been in prison for almost 15 years? Long story short.
A friend.
We had a large friend group and about 10 of us would hang out together. So it wasn’t uncommon for my GF to be at his house. My dumb ass assumed there were a bunch of people over there. Guess what? They were banging it out.
He is a cop now.
My wife is a manager. One of the guys she had to fire. He was accused of sexual harrassment to another guy (something about a 12 in purple dildo) and racist remarks. She even went to bat for him at HR and got thrashed for that. After two years she figures out he is a bad guy, mean, narcissistic and alcoholic.
it was the guy you’re worried about. it’s always the guy you’re worried about. you’re not crazy.
It was the guy that was always hovering? We fight, he’s there. We see him some time in public. In some ways I envy him. He persistented. I wish someone would do that for me.
My best friend.
He got kicked out of his parents house and moved into my folks house with me while we both were trying to save for an apartment. We worked together as waiters at the same restaurant and he decided to fuck my girlfriend.
Fuck you Josh.
I’ll trust 4 bald tires in the rain going 140 mph before I’ll ever trust: “he’s just a friend”
Her best “friend”. Fellas, if she has to say “don’t worry about him” or “you’re being insecure”, run. Run and do not look back.