hi r/advice
for some bg, i bought a house with my friend a few years back. We both live there with our significant others.
the other weekend, my friends significant other invited their friend over which was fine, they dont seem to have many friends, but the whole time the friend was over, they were playing with a loaded firearm they brought. at first i thought it was fake and i asked if it was a real gun and they confirmed. Myself, my so & my friend were like “wtf why did you bring a gun into our home?” my friends so & their friend didnt think it was that big of a deal but the friend put the gun away “out of respect for us” but also said “they technically dont have to bc where theyre from they have open carry” but im pretty sure thats not true as we live in boston. my so expressed how very uncomfortable they were having a weapon in the house and the friend kinda took the hint and left.
we tell my friend and their so that we dont want firearms in the house and if they come over again, not to allow the weapon.
Last night, my friends SO invites that person over again to stay the weekend. we asked if they left the gun at home and the person pulls it out. I asked for them to please put it in their car and keep it out of the house.
I do not want this person to be at my house, how can i civilly get this person(who seems kinda crazy) out of my house with out creating too much drama between my friends SO and myself + my SO?
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Frankly, I would start calling police next time he brings it, or not even let him in the door. This is pretty messed up and someone could definitely wind up shot. What unhinged person plays with a loaded gun?
Is your friend’s SO on the mortgage? If not her ability to invite friends over should be taken away.
Probably shouldn’t be friends with an irresponsible gun owner. Normal gun owners don’t play with their guns. Weird thugs play with their guns at their “friend’s” houses.
Yes, be assertive. I personally know two people who accidentally discharge guns. Fortunately, no one was injured but it’s way more common than people think.
I personally know a person who was shot in the face by someone playing with a loaded weapon.
Now is not the time to be polite. You’re going to need to be firm and tell your roommate you will not tolerate having a loaded gun in the house.
The person sounds like he’s way too casual about bringing it over and flashing it about.
Say something now before you accidentally get killed.
Get a protection order now
This is the exact reason I live somewhere where carrying a firearm is illegal. People can’t be trusted. Even pepper spray and tasers are illegal here. I feel so much safer because of it.
Frankly, if I owned a firearm, I would also play with it all the time…
…after I have checked that the magazine and the muzzle are empty. And even then it would be an irresponsible thing to do, building bad habits which could one day cost someone their life or limb.
Your roommate’s friend is a moron.
Who is on the deed? It sounds like you might’ve bought a house with an idiot. I am so sorry but I would not allow this either. That is crazy.
Inform the landlord. You could also contact whoever you get your renter’s insurance from. The police, too, that person could lose the open carry permit.
And of course talk to your roommate! That person cannot come over again. If they say no, you contact the landlord again. This is a valid reason to break a lease.
Do not tolerate it. Please be safe OP.
For one he should not be playing with it .tell your roommate that there is no guns allowed in the house hang a sign ( inside) no guns .calling police unless it is known to be an illegal gun will not work they won’t come.unless someone is threatening with it .if they insist on bringing the gun in tell them to leave if they do not THEN call the police and tell the cops they have a gun .they will show up fast
Its probably a glock, which makes it worse.
U have every right and put sign on ur doors saying that u bane weapons from ur place then if he still does it call the police and does he have a permit go it
Just call the cops.
Confirm: it was loaded when they were playing with it?
If yes, do not be polite: Ban them from your house right now. Do not wait for them to disrespect you again. That’s twice they disrespected your safety in your own home. Responsible gun owners do not “play” with loaded guns. If they show up again after banning, tell them they are not welcome. If they don’t leave, call the police and have them trespassed.
Call the cops ?
My whole family has permits, me included. My in laws and my dad are collectors. They don’t do this crap and would have a fit if someone was playing with a loaded weapon. It is way to dangerous. They carry everywhere but they don’t take it out and play with it. You also have the right to forbid something in your house especially if it is dangerous. Even cleaning them can be dangerous. My grandpa had a friend that was cleaning his unloaded gun after hunting and it went off and killed the guy’s son. This guy was usually responsible but evidently didn’t see the bullet in there and it was the worst mistake of his life that he had to live with. Maybe talk to an attorney but I was wondering if you can get a restraining order to keep him away from you and your house. He hasn’t done anything violent but your scared and this is dangerous and the person is putting you in danger. If the friend is coming from another state the permit may not be reciprocal. For example, I live in PA and we were going to Georgia and had to go through South Carolina which will not recognize our concealed carry permits which my husband was carrying so we did the speed limit and behaved for that hour or so we were in the state (I think it changed now). Maine, I believe, also won’t recognize a PA permit. Maybe do some research on that too. If the friend is from a state where the permit isn’t recognized they could be in a lot of trouble.
Why did you buy a house with a friend? There seems to be a lot of legal implications in re keeping someone out.
It’s time to make some house rules. You and your friend who are on the deed/mortgage should be the main participants, but your SOs should have to agree as well.
You may have outgrown each other as roommates if you have such completely different views of acceptable behavior and enjoyable company. This sucks, but it’s better to try to figure it out now or risk losing the friendship completely (or having a tragedy occur in your home).
Open carry does not include brandishing firearms.. Carry is just that, in a holster or slung for long arms.
No one should ever “play” with a firearm. The first thing they teach you in gun safety is to always assume every firearm is loaded and to never point any firearm at anything you don’t intend to shoot.
If I’m someplace and someone thinks it’s ok to “play” with their gun, I leave. You don’t want to end up accidentally shot.
He needs to not be invited to your house. If your roommates won’t accept that you need to start looking for different roommates.
It doesnt matter if they have open carry or whatever. That applies to the sidewalk. The second they come onto your property, they do as you say or you kick them out. If the stay then you call police for trespassing.
If your friend who owns the house with you will not enforce keeping the gun out of the house, then have the gun friend unload the gun before entering the house.
I’m hoping that the non home owners who live there have a lease. The lease should say that no guns can be on the property brought in by themselves or anyone they invite to the property.
Unload the gun.
For the record
https://thegunlaws.com/massachusetts-open-carry/
The problem is OP bought the house with the friend. The friend has gun & bible loving friends.
OP can’t really command what the other person can do, since they own 1/2 of the house.
NEVER buy thinks/ other people.