He moved to Big City, TX a few years back, got a great job as a sous chef making more than I do, and then he met this chick 8 mos ago.
When he met her, he was about to move into a new place. Suddenly, he needs to move into a bigger space bc she’s moving in too. I keep my mouth shut.
Then she needs to stay somewhere else because she’s convinced there’s black mold in the house causing her to be sick, so she has him rent Airbnb’s while their landlord assesses and finds nothing wrong with this apartment. I keep my mouth shut.
Now she wants him to move to Europe. She’s been before, of course, but he needed to sell all of his possessions so they could get some money together, and he’s put in his 2 weeks notice at work. He’s there for 3 more days and he flies out somewhere on May 20.
I just ran a quick background check and I know she did 8 days in county for reckless driving in 2006 and 30 days back in 2010 for “Obstructing a Highway or Passageway”. I don’t know if he knows that or not.
Anyway, thoughts?
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You can say it one time: Son, you need to wake up and smell the coffee. Nothing I can say you will listen to now, but when the time comes that you realize what she is doing, I want to make sure you don’t hide from me because you think I will say I told you so. And don’t be too hard on yourself when that day comes. All of us have these moments in one form or another when we are young.
No condemning her, no condemning her, just planting the seed that tells him he can leave it when the time comes because you will be there for him.
I’m not sure you can. You can try, but he likely won’t listen to you. Sadly he will probably have to figure this out for himself. At his age, it probably won’t take long.
He will resent you if you tell him that. He will figure it out on his own and when he does just be there for him the best you can
Who in the family does he listen to? Because if there’s a grandma who you can have visit them who will later say “kid that woman is a nightmare” he might hear it
Does he listen to you? Are you the right messenger?
Why is her weight an issue in this?