My brother 23M and I f21 have taken responsibility for our baby sister f8 between us due to our mom not being a sensible adult. He usually does what needs to be done via phone calls etc, and he doesn’t let me take on too much. I love him a lot, and I respect him so much. Today he asked me to chase something up for her school and I said I’d get it done. I didn’t end up doing it, and when he asked me how it went I panicked and said they said they’d get back to me. I know I’m such a piece of shit for lying to his face when he trusted me to step up, and I feel like I’ve let him down majorly. I feel like shit and Im sick to my stomach. I don’t wanna be like our mom, and I feel like I’m just as unreliable as her. I plan to get it sorted first thing on Monday so he doesn’t have to worry about it but that doesn’t make me feel any better. I’m extremely ashamed of myself.
I lied to my brother and it’s eating me up inside
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It’s okay. It’s not like u did it on purpose , everyone forgets. And as long as it gets done asap it will be fine. You have a huge responsibility of caring for a child so don’t put too much pressure on yourself especially as you are young :))
Just take care of it Monday and be kind to yourself. I don’t know the stakes of dealing with whatever it was today vs next week, but take that into consideration and give yourself some grace here. One time does not make a pattern. 💜
Kids don’t need perfection, kids need flawed adults who try their best. The perfect parent ruins kids too.
One way not to be like ur mom is to take accountability for your actions and rectify mistakes. You’re already doing it.
Ohh. We do that daily
OP, cut yourself some slack. You’re 21. Biologically, if she were your child, you would have had her at 13. Realistically, that would make for some incredibly hard life choices and though it does happen, it likely wouldn’t have happened. Now you’re responsible for a child, but she isn’t your child, you’ve just been put in this position to care for her as if she were your own and look at you go!
I have no doubt you and your brother are both doing your best, given the situation. Show yourself some grace. Monday morning get it done right away and don’t worry about this. Your priority is her well being, but in order to maintain that, you also need to make your mental health a priority, which is directly connected to physical health. Without those, you will not be able to care for her.. stressing over this will only make you sick. Let it go and step up for it on Monday. No harm done.
So cough it up. Best through is to do it. Tell him and let the chips fall where they may.
OP, you’re stepping up and doing things right! I can tell by post and words that you have tremendous strength of character – you’re a rare one and so is he.
That doesn’t mean you’re exempt from mistakes, unfortunately. Just be honest about it. Get it done Monday morning and prove to yourself and him that you’re doing the best thing. That’s all you have to do!
Even teams get let down by other players sometimes, the important thing is to realize the mistake, move forward as a team and rise above it. You’re going to rectify it Monday Morning. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Even parents forget to do things. It’s ok. Take a moment and breathe. It will all be ok.
No judgement here don’t be hard on yourself your only human
Sounds like you have what really counts.
You care. Hence why you feel like shit, but there’s more. You not only care about your sister but you also care about your brother as well, which will be the key to raising your sister up to the best of your brothers and your own abilities. Since you guys are basically taking on the roles of parents, you gotta treat each other with that same respect.
People make mistakes, you can learn from how you’re feeling now, and correct it. I think you’re gonna be a very great, and important role in your sisters life.
Make it happen Monday.
Don’t tell him … ever .. just do it tomorrow. But don’t forget 🤣 plus it’s a small school issue , on the bigger scheme of things it’s really not an issue is it … white lies can be ok