Greetings,
I decided to ask this subreddit vs asking my boys about this one. Definitely need an outside perspective on this BS.
My ex emailed me 2 days ago telling me to reach out to her. We ended our relationship in early 2024 & since then, she’s reached out twice. First time around early November, she wanted to set the record straight between us & how we ended. The second time was around christmas, she was feeling lonely and emotional and reached out once again. Both times I was a gentleman yet set my boundaries firmly. I told her I couldn’t be friends with her as I don’t see a reason to know her if it’s not romantically. She understood & I kept it pushing…
Fast forward to the present & she emails me asking for me to reach out as she lost my new number. My curiosity allowed me to do just that, I call her and she hits me with “this is so inappropriate and I know you’re going to hate me but I need advice”. The picture was pretty much painted at this point and after beating around the bush she finally tells me she’s seeing someone new and it’s not going well so she wants my advice.
I give her my advice and she takes it, I angrily hang up, and she calls me back to back. She then states she wants me as a support system, I shut it down and reinstate my boundaries. She then gets sad I can’t be that for her. At this point I lose my composure and begin insulting her. I called her a whore, a stupid bitch, and then I remind her how much I hate her.
She tells me I have no room to get mad as we haven’t been together in so long, and with that, she further confused me & left me absolutely baffled by her stance.
I get she has no one to tell but me, her EX? It was absolutely diabolical as she would tell me about the sex, and the comparisons between our relationship and theirs.
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Maybe it is time to get really rude to her. Maybe get a whistle a blow it into the phone when she calls?
Do you know her friends and family? Contact them about her messed up behavior.
She’s asking you for relationship advice? Nah, bro, that’s like calling your ex for cooking tips after she burned the kitchen down. Block her and let her figure it out on her own.
She’s either trying to keep you around as a backup, and/or to make her current boyfriend jealous/motivated.
She’s toxic. She knows you’ll be her inappropriate behind-the-scenes backup boyfriend.
Don’t give her advice. Give her the boot! Block her and move on.
Your ex’s behavior is inconsiderate and confusing, pushing boundaries that were clearly set. It’s understandable that you’re frustrated, but reacting with insults only fuels the emotional chaos. You’ve made your boundaries clear; stick to them. Don’t let her use you as an emotional crutch in her new relationship. Keep your distance and protect your peace.
Well what kind of response do you expect when you call someone a bitch, whore and tell them you hate them? Why did you even stay on the line? You’re both confusing for not ending it then and there IMO and even considering talking to each other again.
Sorry you had to deal with this.
She sounds emotionally instable
Avoid her, cut contacts, make it impossible for her to contact you.
Best thing to do in such a scenario is to not say anything at all… If she is able to contact you, don’t respond.
She’s trying to bait you. I assume when she started talking about sex it was how you were better than this guy she’s seeing now. She’s trying to make you jealous and stroke your ego at the same time since her other attempts to slow roll you back into her life haven’t worked
It sounds like she doesn’t want to give you up. And by you answering her messages and calls, you are allowing this to continue, negating your boundaries. Block her and do not have contact and she will (hopefully) take a hint.
That is some ultimate cuck shit.