I feel like I don’t get along with the men in my age range (early 20’s). I’m a bit of a grandma and most of my hobbies revolve around reading, academic research, journaling, nutrition, crafts, cooking, baking, etc. I enjoy doing fun outdoorsy activities too but I’m not actively doing them. Like I enjoy traveling, but don’t travel much.
Most guys I’ve talked to enjoy the gym, sports/watching sports, reading, hanging out with friends, sort of thing. Which is great too. But I wonder if this mismatch matters at all. What are yalls thoughts on that?
Also….i really like athletic, muscular men but im not super into fitness 😭 Like, I’m really passionate about nutrition and health, but I’m not a gym rat and I don’t have an athletic build. I’m a curvier woman and don’t have like abs or a tight lean body or whatever lol.
I’m not picky about looks at all but I assume my type wouldn’t be interested in me? I don’t know if I should bother getting to know someone like that if they won’t find me attractive 😂 I think I look good in other ways; I take care of myself, exercise at home every day, eat well, smell good, maintain my skin/body/hair care etc and dress nice. But I’m not slim or skinny. I have a soft/fuller hourglass figure if that makes sense. Is that a turn off for gym bros? Should I do things differently?
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Somewhere out there, there is a dude on a bulk / cut that needs your nutrition knowledge badly.
Also, it doesn’t matter what you’re into; As long as you’re confident and unapologetically you the right person will come along.
Don’t overthink about it; your type is muscly dudes and yeah you can find them at the gym, but nobody, man or woman is at the gym to get hit on.
Overlapping hobbies are good, but aren’t THE big factor in a relationship.
Preventing your partner from still enjoying those hobbies, even if they don’t include you in what’s most important. If you “take away” something or give them shit for something they loved doing, they’ll resent you.
Plenty of gym bros are into your body, assuming you’re at a healthy weight or even a little overweight. You won’t struggle there unless you’re obese based on BMI.
I don’t really care about how many hobbies line up, I have plenty of my own and am open to trying new things. I care way more about how the time is together, as long as there’s enough we can do together that we both like that works for me. But it could be as wide of a range as playing cards, a board game, hiking, travel, going out to eat, amusement parks, playing sports together, going to concerts/shows.
Judging by your words – you are a young, healthy and beautiful woman. I think you worry in vain, just do what you like and let men show you signs of attention
You don’t need to like the same things, in fact, it’s better to have your own separate interests so there’s things you can talk about when you’re together about the time you’re apart. I also wouldn’t worry so much about physique, it’s good to be attracted to the other person but like you said, you’d want them to want to get to know you. Keep an open mind because athletic types can mask a lot of insecurities or unhealthy obsessions, and someone who’s rounder or soft in the midsection might be more emotionally healthy and strong.
Young girl likes an attractive men don’t think you’re alone in that. Just have a good personality and you will go fine. Early 20s that’s what most guys care about me included but it’s a different generation now
I can’t really comment on the hobbies aspect I think some shared interests are nice but I don’t think they’re everything. As far as your type, you are fine. Someone else mentioned that people dont go to the gym to get hit on and that’s usually true. I am a regular at the gym and I think I’ve gotten hit on maybe once in the past two years lol and from what I’ve noticed with my own guy friends and acquaintances you do not need to be a gym goer to get a fit/muscular guy. If you take care of yourself in different ways you’re good.
Only if you don’t shit in my Pokémon collection