Most of the time people are giving me souvenirs or gifts that I do not need or want at all. Keeping the useless gifts will cause dust accumulation which leads to unnecessary cleaning required. It feels bad and unethical for me to throw or give them away.
Rejecting the souvenirs or gifts will be deemed by others as being not grateful, being unappreciative of other people effort, being arrogant or lack of proper manners. Even with upfront explanation, most of the gifters do not understand and will still forcefully give you the stuffs thinking that you are just being shy or reserved, and you will have to act happy and grateful for the gifts.
And then the troublesome chain effects come.. After you travel overseas, or during the gifters’ birthdays, they will be hoping to receive something from you in return, otherwise they will think that you do not value the friendship/ relationship or you are not sincere at all. Then we will have to crack our puny brains and guess what they would love to receive, wasting each other’s efforts and money unnecessarily.
Gifting culture annoys me a lot and brings me stress. I hate the gifting culture to the extend that I will skip company gift exchanging events, avoiding people and taking leaves for several days during my birthday (best if nobody remembers it) to prevent getting my day ruined.
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Huh. And yet I’m annoyed bc I’m expected to go to a baby shower and give a gift for a choice thet was made