If he’s nice to me and a good communicator. Too many guys are so transparently in it for the lay and all about themselves, that when a guy can hold a decent conversation with me it’s usually turned out well in bed too
In my experience, if a guy says he’s super into eating pussy that’s a really good sign. Those guys have always been so attentive, so good at listening, and so invested in my pleasure whether they’re using their fingers, mouth or dick.
– If he can dance (and isn’t too embarrassed or “cool” to do so)
– Some level of physical fitness & upper body strength.
– If he is generous to people, and thinks of others before or equally to himself. (Not necessarily financial, but little things like does he share food with you? Does he notice when you’re cold? How attuned is he to other people’s needs?)
– If he doesn’t take himself too seriously. Can he laugh at stuff going wrong, or does he get all stressed and annoyed?
– Confidence, sadly enough. If someone is deeply insecure or shy or lacking confidence, chances are that will impact bedtime activities.
– Having had previous long term relationships. And I don’t just mean lots of sexual partners, as plenty of promiscuous men are terrible at sex. I mean one partner for an extended period of time normally means they are slightly more aware of what is and isn’t good for their partner.
I think it’s a man who will actually share his fantasies, encourage you to share without judgement and then sets up scenarios wher r
The fantasy can be made part of foreplay
Well groomed beard, I don’t know why but it’s something I’ve noticed.
Actually takes me out on a date instead of just wanting to hook up
Lower body count than I think he should have based on looks.
Actively likes to eat pussy, the attention to detail in it.
Dad bod
I have found 1 guy that 100% met all these traits. The most amazing beard ever, asked me out on a date, we flirted, found out his body count was only 4 which shocked me because he was handsome as fuck, towards the end he hit me with the line “They say Disney World is the happiest place on earth but have you ever sat on a beared mans face and let him eat his way to your heart?” I almost came hearing that in the restaurant. He was the absolute best I ever had and wanted to be in a relationship with him but he was dealing with a lot of emotional damage and mental health problems and he felt like he wasn’t in a place in his life to be able to 100% give his all in a relationship and I totally respect that. We keep in touch and I check in to see how he’s doing (we live half way across the country from each other now) I’m secretly hoping when things do get better for him that I’m the one he seeks out, I will drop everything to run to this man.
Honestly listening to you in non-sexual conversations. Seems obvious, but like, definitely flags to me that he’ll be someone that’s willing to take direction in bed which is SUPER important imo.
A man who is generous. Might mean he’s giving in bed too.
A man who is open minded and curious. Means he’s willing to explore with you and learn about what works with you sexually.
A man who is confident in himself but not arrogant. He’s not afraid to figure out what makes you feel good.
A man who is communicative. Means he’ll ask you exactly what you’d like and be direct with you which will better your sex life.
A man who’s not in a rush. Means he will take his time with you and figure you out.
A man who has had lasting relationships. A high body count doesn’t mean anything – what counts are those that stayed as it means there was something worth staying for.
A man who truly knows the art of seduction:
He’ll give you longing looks, caress you and kisses softly in non intimate areas (hands, forehead, cheek etc), affectionate, compliments you and treats you like a princess, takes his time kissing you, knows how to keep you guessing, foreplay in a non sexual way, is slow and intentional with his actions in day to day life and especially with you.
I’ve only had 2 partners… one terrible..one mmmmm.
I dont know signs for general, but one thing that has always been intriguing to me about my current man is his hands are very hard and strong, but he touches me so soft.
It’s like he understands that power and dominance doesn’t just mean rough and aggressive
I learned that it’s all a mental thing with girls. If she truly likes/loves you she will be extremely into it and more likely to finish. If you hook up with a random girl, she won’t likely be as into it, won’t finish, then complain guys never make her finish. It’s more than just sex with women. It’s an actual connection that matters first and a lot of women themselves don’t even know it.
Literally nothing. I’ve yet to find a pattern or a way of guessing. Two guys could do the exact same thing and in the end be very different as far as skill.
Ok, maybe a weird answer. But I always know I’m gonna get it when my husband cuts his nails. Of course spontaneous sex happens. But if he’s preparing he always cuts his nails. I think the forethought to make sure I’m as comfortable as possible shows he’s willing to go that extra mile.
Cat’s are often really particular in how they want to be treated and can only communicate it through body language. It’s a good sign if someone is good at reading a cat’s body language and responding to the cat’s wants. It usually means that they will be present and attentive enough to notice how my body reacts to what they do,as well as caring enough to want to please me.
Stroking pussy, in both connotations, requires a lot of the same skillset.
I’m just a man, myself; but the best sex I’ve ever had happened mostly between the ears, rather than between the legs, and involved a lot of prior communication and collaboration.
Confidence not arrogance. If he’s sure of himself outside the bedroom, he usually is inside of the bedroom. Like the guy that reverse parks with one hand smoothly cause it’s second nature and not because he want to impress you.
“Honey, I’ve put the blanket on so the bed’s warm and opened the window so the room’s freezing. We’re gona sleep so good tonight! Water is on your bedside.”
If he’s a musician. Been with guitarists, bassists, drummers, pianists, and violinists—and let me tell you… they all have rhythm, stamina, and magical fingers.
Can control himself. You steer the conversation away from sex, he can keep up with you and actually immerses himself in the non-sexual experience.
there’ve been signs along the way that he’s also thinking about other people’s experience. Maybe even, at times, prioritizes other people’s experience.
Is curious, asks questions, and wants to learn.
Makes you feel safe and accepted whatever is happening.
Large hands. Quiet dominance. Sexual aura. Good at kissing, especially the neck. Mindful of touch. Bonus if they have a peachy bum, muscles there for a reason.
When he has control of his body and knows is strength. It’s a mix of good posture, body awareness, body tension, being aware how he moves/sits, controls his strength when giving a hug or handshake.
It’s a good sign that he at least can control his body and can keep up pace during sex.
Also if he is aware of others and their needs… Somebody’s shoes need a tie? He notices and politely point it out. I am cold? He gives me a blanket or something. He makes himself a snack/drink? He also asks or bring something for others. He isn’t overly loud and self-centered in a crowded space, because he knows it can make people uncomfortable. Especially when he does this regardless if he is sexually interested in them. It shows that it’s important to him that others are comfortable and he has no issue doing something for others… Chances are he will not only focus on his pleasure in the bed but has also interest in making you feel good…
If I see both in a guy, chances are, the sex will be good… But it’s surprising how often men don’t have any body control or are absolutely not aware of others and their needs.
It’s always said about women, but honestly the quiet ones really surprise you, lol.
Though, on a real note, if they’re attentive, chances are they’ll be attentive to you in bed. There’s nothing more sexy than a man who actually pays attention to your pleasure, too, and isn’t out to fuck only for his own. A man who will actually learn what turns you on, your kinks, and is willing to explore that with you (and vice versa).
Bonus points if he has a playful and adventurous side to him as well. That applies well in bed. 😉
Dealing maturely with periods. It shows that they understand womens’ bodies are a whole thing and not just there for their own pleasure, and it usually shows that they’re the kind of guy that wants women to feel comfortable and feel good which can carry over into the bedroom. I don’t mean that they need to deal with periods during sex, just that the Venn diagram overlap of guys who will get you tea and a hot water bottle during your period or handle a bit of blood on the sheets with grace, and guys that will rock your world in the sack is pretty significant
Myself and my housemate were talking about this the other day and she said the most bizarre one of these I’ve ever heard. She said if the guy goes to the bathroom a good few times during the date, as in doesn’t hold his pee, she knows that they’ll be good in bed hahahah
The ones I dated before getting married were genuinely confident, smart ( have a career), and could hold a conversation for more than an hour and was just comfortable with himself (no ego involved with himself and others) and of course could joke and laugh at himself.
Sometimes, you can just tell. If they really like you, they are most likely going to be good in bed. Normally the shy ones, surprisingly. My boyfriend now, was my work colleague for 2 years before we even became a thing, so we’ve been friends for a while and he was always shy around me. As soon as we saw something there he would preposition me to things, and talk about how what he’d do to me. My friends told me that was just “small dick energy”. He’s the best guy ive ever been with, and he knows exactly what he’s doing. 10/10 for the shy ones at first 😆
An ability to hula-hoop well. I was at a work event with a significantly better looking colleague. A hula hoop was doing the rounds, he gave it a go, performed poorly and it limply fell from his body. It was passed to me, I gave it a whirl, got a good rhythm going, the hoop stayed firmly on me as I danced around. There were audible gasps and some interested expressions around the room, and by the end of the evening I’d had more female attention than I’d had in years
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If they helicopter their dick clockwise or anti clockwise.
If their dirty talk is actually hot and not cringe.
If he doesn’t make it all about the physical side.
If he’s nice to me and a good communicator. Too many guys are so transparently in it for the lay and all about themselves, that when a guy can hold a decent conversation with me it’s usually turned out well in bed too
In my experience, if a guy says he’s super into eating pussy that’s a really good sign. Those guys have always been so attentive, so good at listening, and so invested in my pleasure whether they’re using their fingers, mouth or dick.
When he genuinely cares about you, how you feel, and what you need.
Good reviews on Yelp.
Some potentially less obvious ones:
– If he can dance (and isn’t too embarrassed or “cool” to do so)
– Some level of physical fitness & upper body strength.
– If he is generous to people, and thinks of others before or equally to himself. (Not necessarily financial, but little things like does he share food with you? Does he notice when you’re cold? How attuned is he to other people’s needs?)
– If he doesn’t take himself too seriously. Can he laugh at stuff going wrong, or does he get all stressed and annoyed?
– Confidence, sadly enough. If someone is deeply insecure or shy or lacking confidence, chances are that will impact bedtime activities.
– Having had previous long term relationships. And I don’t just mean lots of sexual partners, as plenty of promiscuous men are terrible at sex. I mean one partner for an extended period of time normally means they are slightly more aware of what is and isn’t good for their partner.
I think it’s a man who will actually share his fantasies, encourage you to share without judgement and then sets up scenarios wher r
The fantasy can be made part of foreplay
If he doesn’t try and convince you how good he is in bed
Well groomed beard, I don’t know why but it’s something I’ve noticed.
Actually takes me out on a date instead of just wanting to hook up
Lower body count than I think he should have based on looks.
Actively likes to eat pussy, the attention to detail in it.
Dad bod
I have found 1 guy that 100% met all these traits. The most amazing beard ever, asked me out on a date, we flirted, found out his body count was only 4 which shocked me because he was handsome as fuck, towards the end he hit me with the line “They say Disney World is the happiest place on earth but have you ever sat on a beared mans face and let him eat his way to your heart?” I almost came hearing that in the restaurant. He was the absolute best I ever had and wanted to be in a relationship with him but he was dealing with a lot of emotional damage and mental health problems and he felt like he wasn’t in a place in his life to be able to 100% give his all in a relationship and I totally respect that. We keep in touch and I check in to see how he’s doing (we live half way across the country from each other now) I’m secretly hoping when things do get better for him that I’m the one he seeks out, I will drop everything to run to this man.
He can lick his eyebrows
Honestly listening to you in non-sexual conversations. Seems obvious, but like, definitely flags to me that he’ll be someone that’s willing to take direction in bed which is SUPER important imo.
A man who is generous. Might mean he’s giving in bed too.
A man who is open minded and curious. Means he’s willing to explore with you and learn about what works with you sexually.
A man who is confident in himself but not arrogant. He’s not afraid to figure out what makes you feel good.
A man who is communicative. Means he’ll ask you exactly what you’d like and be direct with you which will better your sex life.
A man who’s not in a rush. Means he will take his time with you and figure you out.
A man who has had lasting relationships. A high body count doesn’t mean anything – what counts are those that stayed as it means there was something worth staying for.
A man who truly knows the art of seduction:
He’ll give you longing looks, caress you and kisses softly in non intimate areas (hands, forehead, cheek etc), affectionate, compliments you and treats you like a princess, takes his time kissing you, knows how to keep you guessing, foreplay in a non sexual way, is slow and intentional with his actions in day to day life and especially with you.
I’ve only had 2 partners… one terrible..one mmmmm.
I dont know signs for general, but one thing that has always been intriguing to me about my current man is his hands are very hard and strong, but he touches me so soft.
It’s like he understands that power and dominance doesn’t just mean rough and aggressive
Seriously every woman is different, you may rock one woman’s world and the next one does not even register on the Richter scale
Bragging is a one way ticket to disappointment
I learned that it’s all a mental thing with girls. If she truly likes/loves you she will be extremely into it and more likely to finish. If you hook up with a random girl, she won’t likely be as into it, won’t finish, then complain guys never make her finish. It’s more than just sex with women. It’s an actual connection that matters first and a lot of women themselves don’t even know it.
High on emotional intelligence = very good in bed
Stop using porn as your benchmark
He’s selfless in other things
Trust me, it transfers in the bed too
Literally nothing. I’ve yet to find a pattern or a way of guessing. Two guys could do the exact same thing and in the end be very different as far as skill.
There isn’t a reliable sign..
Just gotta fuck around and find out 💁♀️
Ok, maybe a weird answer. But I always know I’m gonna get it when my husband cuts his nails. Of course spontaneous sex happens. But if he’s preparing he always cuts his nails. I think the forethought to make sure I’m as comfortable as possible shows he’s willing to go that extra mile.
When in the moment he cares about you, and not himself
I may not be great in bed, but at least it won’t take up too much of your time.
Light-hearted personality. Not in the edgy, sarcastic way. Just genuine light humor and relaxed atmosphere.
His car. But not for the reason your thinking.
The ones that drive shitty Honda civics are where it’s at. Doesn’t need a big lifted truck to back it up.
man why is every question in this sub about fuckin
He’s good with cats.
Cat’s are often really particular in how they want to be treated and can only communicate it through body language. It’s a good sign if someone is good at reading a cat’s body language and responding to the cat’s wants. It usually means that they will be present and attentive enough to notice how my body reacts to what they do,as well as caring enough to want to please me.
Stroking pussy, in both connotations, requires a lot of the same skillset.
I’m just a man, myself; but the best sex I’ve ever had happened mostly between the ears, rather than between the legs, and involved a lot of prior communication and collaboration.
IF they are good kissers, espect good oral sex! Who knows how to kiss knows how to handle sensation for other partner
Funny how much of the time the answer is “when he’s a decent human being”
If they’re a good kisser lol
Cares about you finishing before him.
There’s really no way to tell beforehand. My husband seems like he’d be timid. He is not.
He is not on reddit
I learned that there is apparently no reliable sign.
If he eats his food like this.
Confidence not arrogance. If he’s sure of himself outside the bedroom, he usually is inside of the bedroom. Like the guy that reverse parks with one hand smoothly cause it’s second nature and not because he want to impress you.
Really loud snoring. Oh wait, I’m a man.
I’ve never had bad sex with someone I had fun dancing with.
When thinking about why it’s probably because you get to see them move their body and how they communicate and interact with you.
General sensuality. Like if he loves the pleasures of life. Food, touch, beauty. If there’s a lot of casual physical contact.
Soft personalities…they’ll do what they’re told and not just go at you like a horny teen
When he puts your legs above his shoulders 👅
“Honey, I’ve put the blanket on so the bed’s warm and opened the window so the room’s freezing. We’re gona sleep so good tonight! Water is on your bedside.”
Ask his wife
The way my boyfriend dances… I’m always like “that guy fucks…”
If he’s a musician. Been with guitarists, bassists, drummers, pianists, and violinists—and let me tell you… they all have rhythm, stamina, and magical fingers.
He never brags about how good he is in bed and honestly, that’s the biggest sign right there.
Large hands. Quiet dominance. Sexual aura. Good at kissing, especially the neck. Mindful of touch. Bonus if they have a peachy bum, muscles there for a reason.
When he has control of his body and knows is strength. It’s a mix of good posture, body awareness, body tension, being aware how he moves/sits, controls his strength when giving a hug or handshake.
It’s a good sign that he at least can control his body and can keep up pace during sex.
Also if he is aware of others and their needs… Somebody’s shoes need a tie? He notices and politely point it out. I am cold? He gives me a blanket or something. He makes himself a snack/drink? He also asks or bring something for others. He isn’t overly loud and self-centered in a crowded space, because he knows it can make people uncomfortable. Especially when he does this regardless if he is sexually interested in them. It shows that it’s important to him that others are comfortable and he has no issue doing something for others… Chances are he will not only focus on his pleasure in the bed but has also interest in making you feel good…
If I see both in a guy, chances are, the sex will be good… But it’s surprising how often men don’t have any body control or are absolutely not aware of others and their needs.
I’m great in bed, I’m asleep within 30 seconds.
When his main goal in bed is to make his partner cum as many times as she can.
When he knows how to put the tiniest bolt on a car engine with his fingers
If he’s good at listening before you get in bed, he’s probably good at listening in bed, too.
It’s always said about women, but honestly the quiet ones really surprise you, lol.
Though, on a real note, if they’re attentive, chances are they’ll be attentive to you in bed. There’s nothing more sexy than a man who actually pays attention to your pleasure, too, and isn’t out to fuck only for his own. A man who will actually learn what turns you on, your kinks, and is willing to explore that with you (and vice versa).
Bonus points if he has a playful and adventurous side to him as well. That applies well in bed. 😉
Dealing maturely with periods. It shows that they understand womens’ bodies are a whole thing and not just there for their own pleasure, and it usually shows that they’re the kind of guy that wants women to feel comfortable and feel good which can carry over into the bedroom. I don’t mean that they need to deal with periods during sex, just that the Venn diagram overlap of guys who will get you tea and a hot water bottle during your period or handle a bit of blood on the sheets with grace, and guys that will rock your world in the sack is pretty significant
Empathy. And emotional intelligence. Also reciprocity in other aspects of life.
Myself and my housemate were talking about this the other day and she said the most bizarre one of these I’ve ever heard. She said if the guy goes to the bathroom a good few times during the date, as in doesn’t hold his pee, she knows that they’ll be good in bed hahahah
Bros asking so he can masquerade as a decent performer.
The ones I dated before getting married were genuinely confident, smart ( have a career), and could hold a conversation for more than an hour and was just comfortable with himself (no ego involved with himself and others) and of course could joke and laugh at himself.
Oral hygiene and hand/nails cared for = Man can go down.
Sometimes, you can just tell. If they really like you, they are most likely going to be good in bed. Normally the shy ones, surprisingly. My boyfriend now, was my work colleague for 2 years before we even became a thing, so we’ve been friends for a while and he was always shy around me. As soon as we saw something there he would preposition me to things, and talk about how what he’d do to me. My friends told me that was just “small dick energy”. He’s the best guy ive ever been with, and he knows exactly what he’s doing. 10/10 for the shy ones at first 😆
An ability to hula-hoop well. I was at a work event with a significantly better looking colleague. A hula hoop was doing the rounds, he gave it a go, performed poorly and it limply fell from his body. It was passed to me, I gave it a whirl, got a good rhythm going, the hoop stayed firmly on me as I danced around. There were audible gasps and some interested expressions around the room, and by the end of the evening I’d had more female attention than I’d had in years
Comment was directed at women but 90% is dudes.