So one of my (f, still 24) best friends (f, 26) has texted me a really sweet and heartfelt birthday message. I was so happy to receive her cute words and really miss her (we are currently living in different countries).
The only thing: she sent it 10 days before my actual birthday which I think is super funny (and kind of want to know for how long I could keep my fake birthday). I also don’t want her to feel bad at all and I am 100% not in any way mad about it. I don’t put a lot of value on my birthday and it’s more the message and sentiment that is important to me.
I replied with an equally sweet thank you and miss you as well message. But my roommates think it’s an asshole move not to let her know right away.
Please give me your opinions and also tips how to tell her in a lighthearted way.
Thank you – a still 24 year old 😉
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Backup of the post’s body: So one of my (f, still 24) best friends (f, 26) has texted me a really sweet and heartfelt birthday message. I was so happy to receive her cute words and really miss her (we are currently living in different countries).
The only thing: she sent it 10 days before my actual birthday which I think is super funny (and kind of want to know for how long I could keep my fake birthday). I also don’t want her to feel bad at all and I am 100% not in any way mad about it. I don’t put a lot of value on my birthday and it’s more the message and sentiment that is important to me.
I replied with an equally sweet thank you and miss you as well message. But my roommates think it’s an asshole move not to let her know right away.
Please give me your opinions and also tips how to tell her in a lighthearted way.
Thank you – a still 24 year old 😉
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I wouldn’t say you’re TA, but I would also tell your friend cause she may kick herself later for not having the right date. I know I would lol
I would have told her as part of the thank you. Not got much planned for this week but got some days of next week to chill and on the bug day itself going out for some food. Something subtle but referring to the correct date.
In the future say something it’s no big deal. “Girl thank you I love an early birthday message my actual birthday is on 5/5 ❤️😉”. You could now text her on your actual birthday and say miss you wish we could hangout today and celebrate my birthday together something something.
I have cousins in Australia and I live in the US. My cousins send me birthday wishes on social media every year and I have to explain to my American friends about the International Date Line every year.
Maybe you can make your Unbirthday a kind of secret holiday just for you and your friend. Friends Day, or whatever you want to call it.
I think just telling your friend that you care more about their friendship than the actual date might help with their embarrassment. Don’t try to make a joke out of it because your friend might feel like the butt of the joke.
You just tell her, have a laugh, and that’s it. wtf…
That happened to me last year. I congratulated a friend on her birthday a month early, and she gently corrected me. I felt a little bad then, but it’s honestly kind of funny now.
At least your friend was early, so you didn’t think she forgot. I’d just thank her for the heartfelt message and let her know that she was a little too eager.