Literally listening as I write this, I love the POD.
SO, this post somewhat goes with the previous posts I’ve made. If you want a good understanding of the toxicity of Father In Laws family, take a gander. Otherwise, not super necessary.
My husband (28M) and I (28F) are inches from cutting off contact with his Dad and that side of his family.
Ever since I got pregnant and our priorities shifted to the family we’re creating, FiL’s behavior has been WILD. He’s many times screamed at my husband over the phone when we’ve spent time with either my parents or his mother, called me names, attempted to dictate our lives and how we parent our child, manipulated and gaslit my husband, overstepped boundaries, blatantly disrespected our wishes and more.
We’ve attempted conversations about his manipulative and disrespectful behavior on multiple occasions and in a multitude of ways. Things always go the same way. He’s super apologetic, claims to have not intended any disrespect or hurtful things and is on his best behavior for a week or two, then he’s right back to his behavior.
On top of all of that, husband just found out from his mother that this behavior has been consistent throughout FiL’s life and is part of the reason they got divorced. Even she said that he’s not likely to change despite how many times we try “talking it out” and encouraged us to cut ties.
Then we found out…
Father in law has been lying to and manipulating my husband for the majority of his life. The story he has been telling his children, and anyone else who will listen, is FAR from the truth of why they got divorced, and he’s even further from being the victim he portrayed himself as.
Now that we know the truth and husband has the validation and encouragement to cut ties with his father, he’s just waiting for the next issue to come up so that he can let everything loose.
I’m just hoping it doesn’t happen on the vacation we’re about to take with them… Although we’re both ready and willing to pack our things and leave mid-trip. Updates to come.
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Backup of the post’s body: Literally listening as I write this, I love the POD.
SO, this post somewhat goes with the previous posts I’ve made. If you want a good understanding of the toxicity of Father In Laws family, take a gander. Otherwise, not super necessary.
My husband (28M) and I (28F) are inches from cutting off contact with his Dad and that side of his family.
Ever since I got pregnant and our priorities shifted to the family we’re creating, FiL’s behavior has been WILD. He’s many times screamed at my husband over the phone when we’ve spent time with either my parents or his mother, called me names, attempted to dictate our lives and how we parent our child, manipulated and gaslit my husband, overstepped boundaries, blatantly disrespected our wishes and more.
We’ve attempted conversations about his manipulative and disrespectful behavior on multiple occasions and in a multitude of ways. Things always go the same way. He’s super apologetic, claims to have not intended any disrespect or hurtful things and is on his best behavior for a week or two, then he’s right back to his behavior.
On top of all of that, husband just found out from his mother that this behavior has been consistent throughout FiL’s life and is part of the reason they got divorced. Even she said that he’s not likely to change despite how many times we try “talking it out” and encouraged us to cut ties.
Then we found out…
Father in law has been lying to and manipulating my husband for the majority of his life. The story he has been telling his children, and anyone else who will listen, is FAR from the truth of why they got divorced, and he’s even further from being the victim he portrayed himself as.
Now that we know the truth and husband has the validation and encouragement to cut ties with his father, he’s just waiting for the next issue to come up so that he can let everything loose.
I’m just hoping it doesn’t happen on the vacation we’re about to take with them… Although we’re both ready and willing to pack our things and leave mid-trip. Updates to come.
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