So two nights ago I did a thing where I went through my boyfriend’s phone (I know completely wrong)
Now back story my boyfriend of two & a half years told me he lost his job a month and a week ago. I didn’t find out until the day our landlord texted us that we were late on our rent which was surprising as my boyfriend told me he paid for it already. As I read the text I immediately got a call from my boyfriend saying it was an error, an hour later he came home to tell me it was all a lie and that he was fired and couldn’t pay our rent. Now back story about us, my boyfriend makes 3x what I make in a year (thanks to my current promotion, before it was 5x what I made) so when I got the news I was a mess however I had enough saved to pay our rent. The following month was super heavy on me but my boyfriend landed a new job 4 weeks after everything happened. Now I’ve been unsettled as this isn’t the first time he’s lied to me about finances, a year ago his car was repo’d in the middle of the night which shocked me. About two nights ago when I went through his phone (intuition or whatever you wanna call it) and I read through messages with friends/coworkers about how the firing happened in January (it’s current May) which completely shocked me as he lied to me about when everything happened. Now I’m second guessing everything. What do I do, how do I forgive this?? Help 🙁
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Backup of the post’s body: So two nights ago I did a thing where I went through my boyfriend’s phone (I know completely wrong)
Now back story my boyfriend of two & a half years told me he lost his job a month and a week ago. I didn’t find out until the day our landlord texted us that we were late on our rent which was surprising as my boyfriend told me he paid for it already. As I read the text I immediately got a call from my boyfriend saying it was an error, an hour later he came home to tell me it was all a lie and that he was fired and couldn’t pay our rent. Now back story about us, my boyfriend makes 3x what I make in a year (thanks to my current promotion, before it was 5x what I made) so when I got the news I was a mess however I had enough saved to pay our rent. The following month was super heavy on me but my boyfriend landed a new job 4 weeks after everything happened. Now I’ve been unsettled as this isn’t the first time he’s lied to me about finances, a year ago his car was repo’d in the middle of the night which shocked me. About two nights ago when I went through his phone (intuition or whatever you wanna call it) and I read through messages with friends/coworkers about how the firing happened in January (it’s current May) which completely shocked me as he lied to me about when everything happened. Now I’m second guessing everything. What do I do, how do I forgive this?? Help 🙁
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Why are they lying?
What else are they lying about?
Why are they crummy with finances?
Liar liar pants on fire!
You figure out a new living situation and break up. You are setting yourself up for an unhappy life staying with a liar.
You are not wrong. He can’t be trusted to tell the truth and you may very well end up homeless because of his lies. Not to mention what he will do to your finances and even credit.
I’ve been there. I’m older than you. Not worth it. I ignored it and covered for him. But I had a child and I was not happy with the lying and putting our child at the risk of homelessness.
WHERE IS THE MONEY GOING? REPO D CAR? RUN AWAY QUICKLY
As he’s a proven liar, how can you trust that he even earns/earned that much?
All though you didn’t get in to figures, you spoke in multiples. If you earn basic minimum wage (prior to promotion) and he earned 5 times that, that was the financial equivalent of 6 times the basic minimum wage salary, for two people to live on. But yet this wasn’t enough to pay for his car.
He’s definitely being dishonest here too.
He’s either not earning what he said, or he’s spending, on things that he doesn’t want you to know about.
He is a serial liar.