Breaking up with someone is way worse than being dumped

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Getting dumped gives you an insecure type of heartbreak that makes you feel terrible, but the hurt and guilt from breaking up with a nice person is paralyzing, especially when they don’t want to break up

Edit for clarity: I mean breaking up -with someone- vs someone breaking up with you

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  2. cathcart475 Avatar

    Wtf? Isn’t breaking up and being dumped the same thing?

  3. Axel_Dino Avatar

    Yes. Every time I’ve dumped somebody, I’ve cried my eyes out. In fact, I once cried so hard that the girl I had dumped ended up trying to comfort me. I feel guilty about things that aren’t my fault, so directly hurting someone, especially their feelings, makes me feel absolutely horrible.

  4. DowntownSasquatch420 Avatar

    My last ex faked being pregnant for an entire 9 months after I broke up with her, claiming I was the father.

    I realize she was a special kind of crazy, but I will never feel bad about breaking up with or ghosting a person ever again.

  5. lana-ki-jawani Avatar

    Honestly depends on the kinda person you are

  6. ynab4file Avatar

    Yeah, breaking up with a good person sucks and you might feel guilty, but at the end of the day you still had control. You wanted out. That’s a totally different flavor of pain than getting dumped and feeling unwanted or blindsided.

  7. Last_Tourist_3881 Avatar

    Being rejected by the person you love is the worst feeling a person can feel.

  8. ecmana Avatar

    sound like breaking bad

  9. Joshthenosh77 Avatar

    That’s the worst opinion ever ! So take my upvote