I’ve just recently started a new job which I love – I have a great boss and the company seems like a really great place to work so far. I’m definitely trying to make a good impression with my work and also making an effort to get to know people outside of the office as well, going for beers and stuff.
I have a long commute as well plus a wife and kids and I’ll be honest at the moment I’m really finding it quite hard to juggle my desire to do well at the job and get integrated with the team with family life without feeling guilty. I feel like if I say no to a social event or beer after work then I’m damaging my perception but then I’m not at home spending time with the family.
I am a bit of a people pleaser and I suspect this is part of the issue that I don’t feel like I can say no to things when I should, but whatever I do I end up feeling bad about it in some capacity.
Maybe this is just how it is sometimes but any advice or thoughts? Anyone else feel the same?