Condoms are cheap, effective when used properly, and non-invasive. So I’m genuinely curious—why would someone willingly undergo a surgical procedure like a vasectomy, which is permanent (or hard to reverse) and medically unnecessary for most? To me, it seems like choosing surgery over a simple, accessible option. It reminds me of the argument for circumcision over just keeping clean. Am I missing something here?
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I enjoy sex significantly less with condoms.
Well in one instance you have to use a condom. And in the other you don’t.
Mostly sums it up I think.
Because I have three kids and I don’t want anymore. I don’t even want the slightest chance of having anymore.
Condoms easily take away half the sensation for guys. If he never plans on having kids it’s the way to go
For me condoms decrease my sexual pleasure measurably, and as I’ve gotten older I would risk not being able to keep my erection with condoms. They are also not 100% reliable, which means pregnancy scares remain. A vasectomy is a simply, almost painless surgical procedure that has massive benefits once you’re done with having children, and removes the burden of contraception from both you and your partner. In my case it was one of the best decisions I ever made (16 years and counting!). I would actually ask the opposite question: who in their right mind would choose condoms? 🙂
One feels better than the other. It’s a trade off some might like others might not.
Yeah 100% missing something
The mental burden of knowing I’m sterile vs the constant “what ifs” of whether other methods work. The amount of mental freedom is huge. I still used condoms when I was single, since v doesn’t help with std but yeah, game changer for sure.
I’m not sure why anybody considering v would not do it and stick with condoms only. It seems so much more anxiety and risk that’s not necessary if you know the outcome you want is no kids ever
BECAUSE it’s permanent (or very nearly so).
And I fucking hate condoms. Seriously, if the choice is condoms or no sex, I’ll jerk off.
Unfortunately while super important in the right context, condoms suck.
If I’m married, my wife and I decided for no more children, and she wants to get off the birth control pill. (Birth control pills have a number of minor side effects, so me taking one for the team is a reasonable path forward here.)
Chances are as a married couple we weren’t using condoms anyways, so no point in continuing after having the number of kids we wanted.
I feel absolutely zero pleasure with a condom. It’s only for her at that point. Cannot even ejaculate… nothing. I’d rather not have any sex at all. It’s all about the fluid bonding for me. I also stay hard and can get to orgasm several times in one session. That’s a fuckload of money in rubbers doing it often. Also kills spontaneity of sex and the passion. I’d rather just lube up my Dunlops at that point or just cut my shit entirely.
Because condoms are lame, if you’re with just one partner for life and you don’t want more kids, it’s better to be spontaneous.
Condoms are notably not always effective.
Some people prefer sex without wearing one.
Because following a miscarriage my wife developed medical issues that could literally kill her if she gets pregnant, and getting the snip was the absolute minimum I could do to give her peace of mind I might not accidentally cause her death
Can’t cum with condoms.
I have never been able to finish in a condom. They take away most of the sensation. I still use them but they are awful to wear.
Can mods delete this post? OP is clearly not here for an actual adult conversation
Condoms have a failure rate that is much higher than a surgical disconnect.
It’s a very simple, routine surgery with very little risk. If you’re 100% sure you’re done having kids it makes all the sense in the word. Condoms aren’t that cheap, aren’t foolproof, and can be inconvenient (oh no, we’re out and going to the store right now ruins the mood). Many would say sex feels better without them.
I would have gotten snipped already but my wife has an IUD. We’ve agreed that when it’s time to get it replaced, she won’t get another and I’ll get a vasectomy.
There are lots of people who don’t want children and don’t like condoms, especially if they’re in a monogomous relationship. This isn’t really a head scratcher.
I assume you’re still single if you’re using condoms. Most people getting vasectomies are married with kids and a wife on birth control, and haven’t used a condom in years, so I think your comparison doesn’t apply in many, many cases.
Because I’m child-free and want to keep it that way
For us, the likelihood of kids was low, but not zero. So I got the snip to take the worry out. But for us, it made sex better for that reason.
Are you seriously asking? Why would someone undergo a vasectomy when they are done having children and want a fun and easy sex life without having to worry about birth control?
Yes you are missing something incredibly obvious.
Condoms kill something like 80% of sensation. I’d rather have sex with my partner, not a rubber glove. If you’re worried about STDs then you’re with the wrong person.
Various reasons.
Sex is more enjoyable without a condom. So, especially if you’re married or in a super long term monogamous relationship and you don’t want anymore kids, a vasectomy makes a lot of sense.
Especially if you’re young and unsure about whether you’ll eventually want kids, a vasectomy probably isn’t a great idea.
And, of course, even if you have a vasectomy – if you’re single or have multiple partners – a condom or other precautions are still necessary.
It just depends on your situation.
Because I’m married and I already have two kids and don’t want anymore. Ever.
Because I don’t want to be a parent and found a 15 minute procedure to be worth the peace of mind. Condoms can fail. My vasectomy won’t.
Condoms aren’t cheap when you added up the cost of the rest of your life.
I want to have spontaneous sex, and not have to worry about periods all the time.
Got mine a few years ago, never been happier. #Condomssuck
Condoms suck. Condoms break. Condoms ruin the fucking mood.
Vasectomy done right is foolproof. Zero oopsies, don’t have to remember to buy them and dispose of them or put things on pause.
Personally, anyone done with kids that thinks condoms is the answer over a vasectomy is most likely undereducated.
I had a female that I was casually seeing when I was single call me on that phone, “I’m so scared. I’m pregnant and I don’t know what to do!”
Me, knowing I had a vasectomy 10 years prior, “Oh, I’m sorry to hear that. Have you told the father yet?”
Crickets…. “Um, no. Not yet.”
Cost savings and it’s an outpatient surgery. Condoms to limit the sensation to a degree (not as bad as some might say) and are not 100%. Personally, if my wife got pregnant, we would find a way to eliminate it. Planned parent hood say $800 for an abortion. Vasectomies are cheaper, and most of the time covered by insurance.
$800 per abortion plus 2 dollars per condom (maybe?), or one low price of “this procedure is covered by your insurance provider” letter.
Can you honestly not feel the difference? After our 6th, we feel like we did our part with regard to population of the next generation 🧬
But I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE skin-in-skin contact with my wife… so… vasectomy.
It’s cheaper than all the plan B I used to buy. Bulk buying from Amazon made it affordable. Who uses condoms? Are we still in highschool?
This is a dead giveaway that you are relationship unexperienced…
I started to feel slightly responsible for all the abortions.
It means you don’t have to wear a condom (at least not to prevent pregnancy). Condoms don’t feel good. It also means you don’t have any chance of an accident occurring with a condom breaking or something.
My vasectomy was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I can’t recommend it enough if you don’t want kids (or in my case, more kids).
Why would someone spend a lifetime of money on a birth control method that (can potentially) lessen sensitivity and the full enjoyment of the experience?
Cumming inside a woman without a condom is a profoundly exciting, beautiful, mind-blowing, dopamine-laced experience.
Condoms are 98% effective. So if you’re doing it weekly, that’s only one baby a year.
Because sex with a condom and sex without a condom may as well be two different acts. If I knew without a doubt that I don’t want children, I’d get snipped tomorrow.
That’s a weird way to tell everyone you’ve never had sex.
I’m 62, and there is not one reason in this universe that I would ever want an additional child. Condoms drop sensation by 35%. Yes, I made that up.
When I was sure I didn’t want to father any more children at age 39 I got the snip. Easy, inexpensive, and effective, with only a few days of discomfort (or as my doctor said, “Just like a kick in the balls.”)
Condoms kill the feeling and act like a dick ring. Sucks.
I agree with everything you said.
It weirds me out when people do that…
Because I don’t want any more kids.😑
Because I didn’t want kids