Honestly, my husband is my best friend. I find other females so annoying that I just rather not š„²
Is this a thing In your household too?
Honestly, my husband is my best friend. I find other females so annoying that I just rather not š„²
Is this a thing In your household too?
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Tread carefully. Making your so your main and only friend sets you up to get crushed if the relationship/marriage ends. Unfortunately a mistake I have made more than once
Sheās too busy not existing.
Yes. Several good ones.
I had a girlfriend that had no friends and made me her only everything. Too much.
No, and it sucks because I have a ton of friends, some I’ve known since 1st grade and others since college but I hang out with them frequently and I think she gets jealous and then angry at me. Her friends all moved away. She’s starting to make friends with the parents and administrators at our kids school, hopefully they start hanging out and taking the pressure off me.
And to be clear, I might hang out with my buddies once a month. It’s not all of the time.
You need your own friendship circle, whether male or female. Its deeply unhealthy for your entire life to be your spouse.
No my wife has friends new and old. She also talks to family a lot.
Blink twice if you’re in danger.
My wife (F37) has TONS of friends. 3 super close friends she sees at least once a week. Another 5 good friends she sees once a month. A decade of being together and Iām still meeting warm casual friends of hers who have known her forever.
Sheās the friendliest person Iāve ever met in real life lol.
She didn’t when we started. So I introduced her to a bunch of ppl at board game nights and helped her find a DND group. Now she does!
Yeah she’s got quite a few more than I do. We also have a handful of really good couple/family friends that we spend a lot of time with
Yes. She has three friends that I would consider her ābest friendsā + my brothers wife. She has other friends, but those four are her closest ones.
my husband is my best friend too, and i also find women annoying. i guess that’s probably why i’m gay.
She does not. It really bothers me because I do have friends. She is always here and hard to motivate, so I go out with my friends. She does not seem to mind. I want more for her – she does to when I mention it, but she is not good at making/keeping friends.
My wife has a few very close friends. Luckily, I am also friends with their husbands. We all have a very good group of friends. I feel like weāre lucky, after reading some of the comments.
She’s got hers, I’ve got mine, we’ve got ours – there’s lots of overlap for the most part. We’re each other’s best friend, for sure, but we gotta spend some time apart and we don’t share every interest.
My spouse has their own cluster of friends, so do I, and we overlap them here and there.
She has regular female friends, however they’re useless at arranging anything and let her down. Because of this she’s become a regular at the local, with the old boys who, whatever I think of them, are reliable and low effort.
Yeah, she has a few. But we also prefer to spend most of our time together. Neither one of us cares if the other wants to go see a friend tho.
Yes. And she goes on girl trips with them. We’ve been married for 26 years, so something is working.
She does and I encourage and support her maintaining those relationships. Itās better for both of us.
Yes, quite a lot. Girls she went to high school with, former and current Co workers, random assortments of other people who came from the internet when we were kids.
Not alot really. She does have friends but rarely sees them IRL. I see my friends and acquaintances much more often.
My wife stopped having female friends after being stabbed in the back numerous times. It’s sad for her, but she’s happier not dealing with the social stress.
Yeah loads.
A few. But they live in different states. They meet up every few years for a girls trip or whatever
My wife has so many friends I canāt even keep up. I have like 3.
My wife and I both have friends, but we share most of them. There are like 8 people in our friend group, which is also our D&D group, which is also our wiccan coven. We say that one day we’ll all move into a commune together.
Neither of us have friends. Some acquaintances but we donāt see them or go out but a few times a year if that. We have each other. All our left over energy after work and responsibilities goes back into our house hold and each other.
Iām a wife, and no, not really. I have many acquaintances and do spend time with women from church, but I donāt have a deep relationship with anyone besides my husband. Though I have the tismā with a son who also has autism so relating to other women is difficult for me on a lot of levels.
More than I do
When people who say “ugh, I hate people” often, it’s just hyperbole.
My wife means it. She has 3 friends and even those, I’ve met twice each.
We’ve been together for a decade.
My wifeās into equestrian, so she has barn friends (although I think barn women associate better with dogs and horses). I have a lot more friends that I like to see regularly. Not going out at night/bar stuff, but golfing, meeting up for lunch or chat on the phone.
My wife and I are best friends.
She still has her friends though.
I have 2 friends. But I donāt see them much
Iām a 37 y/o wife. I have lots of friends. Some are women, some are couples that we are both friends with. But we also hang out separately with parts of the couples too. Meaning Iāll go hang out with the husbands even if my husband canāt join or the wives canāt or donāt want to. The trick is being selective as you get older. I wonāt hang out with catty, critical, judgey people.
Not a thing in my household. My wife is quite social, has lots of friends, some of whom are mutual friends. Edit to add: I wouldn’t like it if I was her only friend. Too insular, plus I value the time away from her. She & I are besties, but we each have our own stuff going on also, and we both like it that way.
My wife and I spend a significant amount of time with one another and in general our friends are intermixed so we all hangout. That being said we both do have our circles(very small circles) of life long friends.
My wife has lots of friends, she’s very social, I am more introverted. My best friend is my wife’s ex co workers(ex co worker meaning they used to work together but are still friends) partner. I spend more time with him than she does with her. Just needed the first introduction. While I don’t have a lot of friends, that’s because I’m an introvert, I don’t make my wife my main and only friend.
She has more friends than I do! Then again I’m an introvert and she’s not. It’s all good. I like her friends.
This was a huge part of why my ex and I split up. She slowly stopped seeing her friends and just wanted to be with me. It sounds beautiful but I need alone time regularly just to recharge from life. It got to the point where I’d be sitting at my computer gaming with friends and she would just sit beside me watching. It was very smothering and went from being nice and cute to absolutely too much
Yes. Close friends she’s had since she was a youngling, her cousin here who’s one of her best friends, work friends and friends from our kids’ schools.
My wife is also friends with my friends, and that includes my friends’ spouses. We’re social people, it’s really nice.
I would consider it a pretty big problem if my wife had no other friends besides me. Thankfully she has a very solid circle of lifelong friends.
She does. I don’t.
Sad, I know.
Yes
My wife has so many friends she gets on my case sometimes (less so recently) about how she always has to be the one to initiate friendships and how I donāt have any.
In reality, weāre so goddam busy with her (our) current friends, youād think me having some guy time with my 2 every month or so was the end of the world.
To quote something she said yesterday, āthe best relationships are psychological, Iām psycho, youāre logical.ā It was pretty cute
My wife has no close friends. At times, it’s been annoying, but as we’ve gotten older and closer, it’s fine. She’s my best friend and vice versa. She likes our couple friends, but she def won’t set anything up unless I arrange it.
It’s pretty common for at least one person in a couple to rely on the other personĀ for the majority of their social support and interaction once they’ve been together for a while.
I’d like to say it’s weird and unusual, but I’ve seen it happen more often than not.
Holy crap does she have friends and she keeps collecting them. Itās wonderful bc she is in a very demanding business that is cut throat and they are all super supportive of each other.
She does but we all have families so sometimes we go a while without seeing anybody.
Not a lot. It’s a combination of sucking at maintaining relationships and easily losing respect for people when they don’t thinkperform to her level.
I assume so as I’ve never met her.
Im no longer married, but my wife had a number of friends that I encouraged her to hang out with fairly often.
I need me time, as does everybody.
We were still besties but we also knew how to push eachothers buttons so time apart was essential.
That time apart gave us time to miss eachothers company
It’s so hard making friends after our 20s. I swear it’s like freaking high school all over again. I just want to chill and watch ncis or svu and bind my books and play my games. I don’t have time for drama being created. Like, I’ll have your back if shtf, but I don’t need or want someone whose sole purpose is creating drama. I just want someone who will stare at half-naked men with me on tiktok and read smutty books and vent about our kids. It’s not alot to ask for is it?
Yes she does and Iām extremely supportive of it. There was a long time there where we shared all of our friends, even those from before we got together were friends with āusā not with me or with her.
Over the last few years we have each picked up our own friend groups and itās been a really fun thing for both of us. Centered around our kidās school, with my being friends with a bunch of the dads and her being friends with a bunch of the moms.
We all coordinate together so the moms and dads are almost never planning social events for the same evening which means childcare is generally pretty easy (either sheās going out and Iām on dad duty or Iām going out and sheās on mom duty). Itās been really fun so far.
Iām glad that my wife has friends.
She has maybe 2 relatively close ones, the rest are just an excuse to sit around and drink wine.
A couple but not really. Itās tough because I donāt want to involve her in everything I do, but feel bad if sheās left out.
She used to, but they all moved away. I don’t have any friends either.
My wife has tons, sheās lived in this spot her whole life
Honestly this attitude is off-putting and concerning. Not just that your whole life is your husband, but the fact that you canāt make one female friend. Thereās two options here – either every other female on the planet is a problem, or you are.
My wife has a good group of friends that Iām perfectly friendly with, but she does things with them. And I also have a group of friends outside her circle.
Being able to make and maintain friendships outside your spouse is just a sign of a well rounded individual.
Ya she has lots of annoying friends but they’re good people that are there for my family. I need her to have friends BC I don’t have any and her friends keep her busy ( I’m boring)
Yes but she’s too much of an introvert to actually do anything with them, which in turn makes me feel a wee bit guilty when I go out to hang with my guys or play golf or whatever. She doesn’t mean to make me feel guilty, but it’s still kind of a mental damper
My wife has a small collection of friends sheās had since, not kidding, first grade. I have one friend from high school and one from college.
Frankly, Iām jealous of her.
That said, we have both often said that we are best friends. Other friends give us some time to be apart, which is valuable, but we freaking hold hands when we sleep soā¦
No, just me and her 4 sisters.
Very few. We are both very introverted and can sit in silence/entertain ourselves and we love it. Yes we talk/chat/have fun. We are happy existing.
Not in a day to day sense but neither do I lol
No. She’s fairly independent, but I would love it if she’d hang out with friends on the weekends.
No
While my wife always says Iām her other half, she has several very good friends and many friends.
My wife like socializing, but she doesn’t seem to actually like any of her ‘friends’, judging by how much she complains about them.
Not really. She has some people in her class she likes and some female family members she hangs with on occasion, but that’s it. Really, it’s more than me, but im fine being alone. We moved a lot and neither of us are from the city we live in. I had one friend living here when we moved here and he has since moved. She has family here at least.
Yeah my wife hangs out with me and my friends mostly. Few acquaintance and that’s about it.
Women with no friends are so frustrating, they smother and donāt allow you to be with your own friends as they donāt want to be left alone. It can be so isolating, Iāve seen too many friends disappear because of their leech of a wife/girlfriend.
Yeahā¦. Me
I will never date a woman without friends ever again
She has a few friends but she needs more; she’s told me explicitly. Part of the problem is we’ve relocated long distances twice already in our 5 year marriage. We’ve been living in our new place less than a year, but it’s encouraging because she’s started to make friends with some of the other white middle aged white office women š
I don’t mean offense to you, but I’ll never trust a woman that doesn’t get along with other women
It depends. If she has never had female friends then she is probably the type to be on her partners ass 24/7, not good.
If she now avoids women because of the drama that comes with navigating their emotions, perfectly understandable.
Whether its the highschool cafeteria or the church fish fry, some women will find a way to introduce drama and drag everyone in it.
My wife is my best friend. She has friends and I don’t.
She does. I wish they were better at making plans- but they just have a hard time organizing. That said, they are the type of friends that pick back up right away when they do see each other. I just know how important friends are!
Yep, tons
My wife has friends, and sometimes we all get together but most times she just goes and does stuff with them when itās not one of our mutual hobbies.
Me and my wife have friends, but truthfully we see them every so often. Not much more. We have younger kids and life is just demanding. Not to mention we have been eachothers best friend so long all other friends faded in time.
I still love some of my friends as does she. I consider them family, but I just don’t hang with them a lot.
My wife is friends with a couple of other mom’s with kids the same age.
Not really. Sheās very introverted and has social anxiety, so she doesnāt make friends easily. I have several and I think she gets jealous sometimes
My wife probably has more friends than I do. A big draw for both of us is that we each have solid groups of very close friends.
But my wife is my best friend honestly.
Oh wow so I was just talking about this with someone. No she doesn’t. Not anyone nearby anyways. Why is this common?! What the hell is going on?
Yes, my wife has friends. Mostly other moms. They go out for dinner and do other activities. I don’t really maintain close friendships at this point, but I am pretty social with my family. My wife has a much bigger social battery than I do, so it works out fine for us.
The guys I know whoās wives have no friends have no equity in their own existence. Shit isnāt healthy
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