You don’t gotta read this. It’s very late where i am, and i’ve been in a month long bender. my grandfather died about half a year ago, a month later my girlfriend left me. i lost everything, i had to reset at 27. life’s just been kicking my butt lately and i just needed to type something out. imam keep going, i have to keep going. no matter what.
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Just keep going… Like Dory from Finding Nemo.
You have nothing. So you have nothing to lose. Try do the things in life that have risk but will fulfil you the most
I reset my life with a divorce and a new place to live at 27 and my aunt (who was like my mom) died in those time. I’m now 29, I have a boyfriend, a new place, a new car. Everything will be ok trust me, keep smile, be strong, trust me everything will be beautiful just trust in your life
Life is like a swing, you go up, it feels great. You go down, it hurts. It’s from a Mexican song, I’m not taking the credit. But things will turn around for you. It will be bad for a little while, then it’ll get better. Stay up!
that’s a lot to carry, no wonder you’re feeling like this. Just take it one day at a time, you’re still here and that means you’re stronger than you think.
Your turn-around story could be epic. To hit such a low and then find reasons to go on. Find someone who inspires you/has the life you want and follow their blueprint. Some days it will mean being able to just get up out of bed. Other times you will surprise yourself.
Even the toughest soldier needs a break,
so take it easy and take one yourself, and I wouldn’t recommend alcohol since the hangover would bring you even more down the days after, so just sober up and take time
I’m sorry you are struggling. Losing a family member is hard, I can empathize as I’ve lost my mom. As far as your girlfriend, heartbreak is so painful, but your person is out there. Sounds like now is a good time to focus on yourself. If you aren’t in therapy, I highly recommend it, it has helped me so much. I will pray for you, mystery person, to have God comfort you in your time of sorrow and help guide you to better days 💕 From your post I hear that you haven’t given up, you are just tired of the pain and I get that. You WILL get through this and get to a place of content and happiness, you got this! 🌸 🏵
You are 27 and you have a long life ahead of you. You have lost nothing. Yes love ones are hard to say good bye but it happens. I lost my own father who was my best friend not long ago. And the girlfriend who left you, you really don’t want to be someone who doesn’t want to be with you. You will find someone soon who won’t leave you perhaps.
The best you could do now is to treat every second your life like a million bucks. Spend them for the best thing that fulfills you. Don’t do drugs with that kind of money. That’s all. Love.
I lost everything around the same age. My wife left me and stopped paying our mortgage due to drugs. I was completely unaware, so I lost my wife and my house in the same month.
Life was grim, but after several months, I snapped back into life, and now I own my own multi-million dollar company. Sometimes, you have to hit the bottom before you look up.
It can get better; just start climbing out of the hole you fell in. Quit alcohol for just 3 days. Then, you’ll have momentum. Next, try for a week. If you slip, try again. You only fail when you stop trying. Don’t stop trying brotha!
Mate! I was in the exact same place as you about 3 years ago aged 29, my gf had been cheating on me and just left out of three blue, I was a total mess! The 3 best things I did though was
Stopped drinking for 6 months (now I only drink on occasion)
Talk to friends, you’ll honestly be surprised how many of your mates would of had something similar done to them and it’s true, a problem shared is a problem halved.
Consecrate on something totally different, start a new hobby or get back into something you used to love, I started getting into adventure motorcycle riding and it was awesome, rode all over Europe, on/off-road, made a load of new mates as well through FB groups etc.
I’m now 32 and have a baby on the way with a girl a thousand times better than the one who cheated on me and ruined my life, honestly it sounds weird but looking back it was the best thing that ever happened to me, feel free to pm me mate
This won’t mean much to you, but you’re 27. You have so much ahead of you. Be depressed and miserable. Get it out of your system. You’ll reach a turning point.
I feel you bro, keep your head up and always keep pushing forward. Things will get better as long as you allow them to and you put in the work. I just had to reset my whole entire life at the age of 35 bro with no family or nothing. Know that it can always get worse. First though stop drinking before its ton late and you cant stop on your own. Its tough what your going through but its all apart of life. Pull up your big boy pants, lift your chin up and push forward without the past. Believe me if i did i know as a fact that you can do it. Ive been dealing with stuff like this my whole entire life. If i told you what ive been through you wouldnt look at your situation the same, Its really not that bad OP. Its only as bad as you allow it to be. Its time for you to dig deep down within deeper than you ever dug before and restructure yourself and reprogram your mind. You got this OP, let the past be the past, Pick yourself up and move on with the now!!! Im sure your grandfather wouldnt want noting but the best for you. Also think about all the bs going on in society and the world right now, its insane. Im saying that to say this, im pretty sure its safe to say that your grandfather is in a better and happier place now and i highly doubt hed want to see you down and out like this. As far as your girl leaving you, you gotta look at it like its her loss. Now you just get on your best bs and work on being all that you can be so the next you see her shes reminded of what she lost. You got this OP and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Feel free to dm me if you need someone to talk to. I know what its like bruh. Have a good one and be easy bro….RELAX
“Might delete in the morning..”
Find a counselor and give them your doctor’s phone number. Do what they say, and I’ll just bet things will get better!!
Sorry to hear about the losses you have faced. It’s clearly a very hard time. Take care of yourself.
Do me a favour. Throw out the rest of what you’re drinking. Go and have a shower, brush your teeth, put your pjs on and go to bed. Sleep.
You can’t solve all of your problems in one go. So take them one at a time.
Think about it tomorrow, it’s too hard now. Just manage the things you need to function now. You can stop drinking. You can wash yourself and clean your teeth. You can put your pjs on. You can get into bed and sleep. Look at what you’ve achieved already!
Get up and ask for help again tomorrow. See you then!
Fighting no matter what happened.
i don’t want to die. i want to learn to love life.
It’s cliche but it’s only up from here. You’ve got this, friend. You’ve survived your worst days thus far & you’ll be able to survive the rest of them too.
Fresh start.
Those are two significant losses quite close to each other. That would mess with anyone.
Recognize what needs to change and do the thing. You got this!!!!
I have been there. Joining the army was my “escape” because I didn’t have anything to lose. Focus on your self. I’m only 29. I get it.
Keep going, man. Shit happens. You gotta keep living at least for yourself, if not for somebody.
I guarantee you things will get better. I’ve been there. I’m familiar with the pain..If you only knew how valuable you are. Life is waiting for you. It’s an odd compulsion that can hit you suddenly at times and lies to you. It tells you their is no way out. I’ve had a rifle to my skull more than once..death is one thing, your best days are ahead of you I promise. You can do this if I did.i feel your pain but let it pass..Thei is a creator that is full of love for you, ask for help, he will help you
.I’m here for you
Man up and put the bottle down. Set goals and find hobbies. Hit the psychiatrist up too because it helps a ton. You’re a man and have a long life ahead of you. Single is way better anyways 😂
You will be fine and good luck
It’s the dark night of the soul . Deal with shadows your inner , and eventually you will good and stronger, it’s just a fase . See it in different way .
Listen, my friend. I’ve been where you are, I’ve had the world just dump on me over and over again. There’s this place that’s all over the world and it’s free. Nothing’s expected of you/ You don’t even have to speak or even ,Ake eye contact. Your whole life will change. It’s called Alcoholics Anonymous. Call Central Services in your area. Someone will li
kely pick you up. Give it a try. You’re just killing yourself. I’m so sorry to hear about the death in your family. Grief can be debilitating. Give yourself just one more chance.
You have the right mindset so that’s something. Keep going ♥️
At 37 you’ll wish you could wake up and be 27 all over again. It’s cliche, but time on this planet is everything. You’ve got a whole incredible life ahead of you. Just gotta keep going & try to improve things one small thing at a time
It’s always the toughest time before you break through to the other side. You’ll make it.
Every day, face something that you couldn’t face the day before. No matter how small that something is. Even baby steps will move you forward. When you’re ready, seek out a therapist to start unloading whatever is keeping you from reaching up.
Your grandfather would be disgusted with you now, feeling sorry for yourself on this dumb platform he wouldn’t even understand fully. Show him what you can do with your life.
Alcohol is a depressant that is why you’re feeling way worse than you should . If you quit drinking and start hydrating and working out you will feel alot better .Take some vitamins as well and eat healthy.
If your drinking is a problem get that out of your way first. I assure you after a couple of weeks just quitting the booze will help make you feel a lot better.
You will keep going and you will get through this!
Thank you for sharing. You are so young! I’m 6 years older than you and and have gone through several evolvements and reset. Typically it means growth and change. Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes keep going and lean in, you’re becoming who you were always meant to be and who you’ve been. Life is not without challenges but looking at my life from the moon I’ve still ended up in a better place and so blessed despite the suffering and pain.
Good on you acknowledging your emotions. Emotions are information. Observe what they might be telling you. For me I lean into working out or a physical challenge (racing) to help me glide through whatever storm life is brewing at the moment. Pushing myself physically translates to other areas of my life and the endorphins/swear help!
Praying for healing and comfort and ease of grief from your loss of your grandfather, im so sorry. Praying for abundance, joy, encouragement and peace for you about life as well. 🙏
Hey man, I just want to start by saying—I hear you. And even if it’s just words on a screen, you’re not alone in this moment.
First off, it takes guts to write what you did. Not everyone can say “I’m hurting” and still say “I’m going to keep going.” That right there? That’s strength, even if it doesn’t feel like it.
Losing your grandfather is a deep kind of pain, especially when you don’t have much time to even breathe before something else hits you—like your relationship ending. And being 27, having to start over, feeling like the rug’s been ripped out from under you… that can make anyone feel lost and exhausted.
I won’t sugarcoat anything—life can be brutal. But you’re still here. You showed up for yourself tonight by typing this. That matters more than you might realize right now. It’s okay to feel broken. It’s okay to drink, to cry, to say it all sucks—just try not to drown in it. You’re not weak for struggling. You’re human.
If nothing else, take it one hour at a time. You don’t have to have everything figured out tonight, or tomorrow, or even next week. Just breathe. Maybe drink some water if you can. Maybe lie down and let your body rest, even if your mind’s racing. And when you wake up tomorrow—no matter how rough it feels—try to do one small thing that feels like a step forward, no matter how tiny. That’s how we crawl out.
And please—reach out. Even just a single text to someone. Or post again. There are people who care more than you know.
You’re not done yet. You’re still in the fight. Keep going, brother. You’re not alone.
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